whats a girl to do??

Question

hi,right this is gona b a proper long question,and know im prob gona be upset at sum answers cos people will prob tell me what i already know but dont wana hear if ya dig!!

right ive been kinda seein this guy since march,he has a daughter which was never a issue,he sees her once a fortnight and doesnt get on with baby mum!so we saw each other couple nights of week for couple of months,slept together etc etc,chilled together too and got on really well,but he always kinda made it clear that he was not lookin for a realationship YET.
so after couple of months i started to really really like him so thought best to stop seein him cos didnt wana get hurt.
so did this but he contacted me again and we started seein each other again then couple of weeks ago,we was gettin down to it! and i felt really uncomfortable cos it all seemed really like regimented in bedroom,so got all insecure,he went in mood and stormed out

so he had left his cap here so i told him he said to bin it! then couple of days later he text said he was round here so i said *** get cap so he did,it was kinda awkward but whatever,

then since then hardly spoke or when been on msn been real weird with me.
then he rang me this mornin cos was in area wanted to *** i said no,dont know how! ,then later on hgad missed call that i had discovered 2 hours later,so rang him and chatted for ages,he said he just tryin to see his daughter at min,but me and him are cool and if i can cope with no emotional attatchment and just chill/have ex etc then we cool,i shud be lucky cos im the only girl hes checked since splittin with ex last sept! meant it in a nice way! then mentioned this thing he was goin in town earlier told me wher it was! he just cam eonline now and said it was good,i said i wanted to go but had no1 to go with ,he said i shudve rang him,i cudve met him! but i said didnt think he'd want that,he confusin y want wat i cant have arghh

Answer 1

That is tough, and I'm sorry you have to go through something like that. The simple truth is that if this guy doesn't want a relationship right now, you should just be friends, wait till he's ready. Right now, it's sounding like you two are "friends with benefits" and, in my experience, that's not a good way to go. All in all, when you have sex, there is some emotional attachments, especially for the female. My advice would be to cut the "benefits" and stick to the friendship. He'll come around. Right now he's just wanting to be sure he's ready for another realationship. And that's hard after getting hurt by an ex. Give him time, and stay friends if you can! Hope I helped! Good luck!

Answer 2

if he is not looking for anyone else just chill feel lucky that hes with you he could be like alot of others and be a dog just sleeping all around, it might take him awhile to want a commitment but when he does let him know that you are ready for it all, right now its hard but just sit back if its ment to be it will happen but dont stop looking out for u ...if u find someone you might want to know then get to know them just incase he doesnt come around... u should always have a spare incase he gets a flat if you are not commited lol

Answer 3

Honey, do you just want to be at his "beck and call"....booty call that is? He doesn't want a relationship of any kind and god knows how many others like you he has around. I'd dump him fast and get checked for any disease he may have given you.

Answer 4

Move on. He is a mess and is using you. You will be happier in the long run if you move on.