Family & Relationships - 16 July 2007

Four years ago I dated this guy and was madly in love with him. He didn't feel that for me, and we broke up but stayed friends. He ended up falling for this girl and they have dated for two and a half years. This girl and I also got to be really good friends and we are very close. I admit that as I realized how much my ex loved this girl, I distanced myself from him a lot in order to keep from getting hurt. So now I am much better friends with this girl on the surface, and barely talk to my ex, but I still love him. About a year ago my ex and this girl broke up and then got back together. While they were apart my ex slept with someone else, and he confessed this when they got back together. Shortly thereafter they got engaged. They have planned this HUGE wedding, my ex is paying for it all. My friend just told me it's all a ploy, she plans on not showing up on their wedding day. Payback for the cheating, she says. What am I supposed to do? She doesn't know I love him.

2007-07-16 02:46:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Would you DUMP HIM for a "real man"?

2007-07-16 02:46:41 · 13 answers · asked by Macaroni 1 in Singles & Dating

it happens everytime somone who i am in love with, i end of feeling why cant i open up to him? i ended a relationship becuz of that. why cant i get over the fear of opening up to him in being myself

2007-07-16 02:45:03 · 4 answers · asked by I_wuv_you! hehe 3 in Singles & Dating

don't get me wrong, I love my bf but she always has to be right and everything her way. She tells me all the time what I do wrong but apparently she is perfect because if I mention any little thing she goes off. I don't want to lose our friendship but I also want it to be more enjoyable than being depressed when I get home. HELP!

2007-07-16 02:44:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i really dont want to choose. i dont like choosing for my self or someone else. its hard for me. so i really dont want to but he wants me to. but i dont want to pick something he doesnt want to see like what if i pick like 1408 or something and he doesnt want to see it but he doesnt say anything to me about him not wanting to see it. so what do i do?

2007-07-16 02:40:09 · 24 answers · asked by Leslie 1 in Singles & Dating

I have heard that a thumb ring is a signal for others from several places over the past few years. I just want to know if anyone actually wears one for that reason.

2007-07-16 02:40:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Does it differ depending on what color hair/skintone the guy has? My question is, if you were to see a guy with blue eyes and REALLY blonde hair, like REALLY blonde... would he look better with no facial hair or with some? does it depend on each individual person? I have a goatee right now, and i want to change my look a bit, but am afraid to go clean shaven, as i have a very young face, and at 24 dont wanna look like im 12... i have a "baby face" as a lot of people would call it. Ive noticed that besides the goat, another popular look is just the patch below the lower lip... i cant really do that 5 0'clock shadow look because my facial hair is also REALLY blonde lol... so im limited on options, just wanted opinions

thanks!

2007-07-16 02:39:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is it a way they feel/act to get more attention/affirmation and love they are lacking inside? Or is even the girl with the best self-esteem will be emotional?

2007-07-16 02:38:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have a 7 and a 4 and their daddy and i are going through a divorce and we have been split up for over a year now and i'm with another guy...i know it is hard for them..i try to cut them some slack but when they come back form his house they don't listen to me they don't get a long with my b/f and me and him fight about it...sometimes i think he's to hard on them...i know they hurt because of all this.i want help them and comfort them but don't know how....sometimes i think they hate me for all of this......my girls use to be close to me but now they would rather live with their daddy.......i don't know what to do..someone please give me advice......

2007-07-16 02:37:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my bf is 26, but he always complained to me that he's lonely after work (FYI: we are in long distance relatonship - 5 hrs driving, but we get to see each other every other week). he feels insecure when he's alone. he feels like nobody cares about him when he's by himself. last week, he called me up and told me he's lonely and bored. i told him to find something to do (in fact, he's not a game person and he likes to hang out with people), but he said he doesn't want to do anything....i don't know how to help him. for me, i always can find something to do like rent a movie and get on internet to kill times. you know he's a guy, i feel like i'm babysiting him (please excuse my words). i'm just wondering if many guys in mid 20s can act like that...if there's any suggestion, feel free to drop a line...thanks

2007-07-16 02:37:24 · 11 answers · asked by MoniJ 2 in Singles & Dating

I like 3 different guy on 3 different level- I don't have a boyfriend and I'm feeling this one guy a little more than the other 2 but all he wants is sex and I can't jut turn my feelings on and off what should I do before its too late? I really like Dorian!

2007-07-16 02:37:12 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs.Carter 2 in Singles & Dating

They all claim to be free, until you register and find out that you can't actually do anything without paying a fee. And when the odds of actually meeting someone are slim & none, I can think of better things to do with my money.

2007-07-16 02:36:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

is it good going with her

2007-07-16 02:33:49 · 19 answers · asked by supreme 2 in Singles & Dating

i read somewhere that patting people on the back during a hug is a sign of friendship, but whenever i hug my female friends they never do it, whereas my boyfriend is constantly patting my back when we hug. i'm quite confused can anyone help?

2007-07-16 02:33:39 · 17 answers · asked by beatrixface 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is an incredible guy. He is sweet, good looking, funny, and smart. He is a musician and creates the most beautiful songs, some of them for me! We have been together about a year. We moved in together almost right away. I work and take care of the house while he works on his craft. Once he makes it big, he promises he will take care of me. The thing is, I love doing all this stuff. I love him and I want to take care of him, so I like doing stuff like his laundry and cooking for him. My mothers says he is using me and I should leave. I would just tell her to butt out, but she is paying for my schooling. I pay for everything else, but she pays for that and she is saying she won't anymore because I am dating a no-good. How do I explain he is not a no-good, but a rock star on the rise??? Help!!! My heart is breaking!!!

2007-07-16 02:32:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband asked me to take pictures of some work he was doing in our shop. Our camera uses alot batteries. I knew we had other batteries available but he did not. We have digital camera so film is not problem. I snapped 3 more pictures after my husband warned me that the batteries where about to be depleted. I did this so that I could adjust the lighting and find the best angle. Before I could explain this to him and let him know I had other batteries he turned and looked at his father and said "SHE IS LIKE A BIG OLD DUMB DOG, SOME TIMES YOU HAVE TO KNOCK HER IN THE HEAD , TO GET HER TO DO WHAT YOU WANT". We have been married for 8 years. I normally storm out and say my peace.
I want to answer him intelligibly and with out emotion. Thank YOU!

2007-07-16 02:32:02 · 29 answers · asked by deanna 1 in Marriage & Divorce

if your a young fairly attractive, tall slim woman and you happen to be a single mother would this fact alone put guys off ????

2007-07-16 02:31:25 · 25 answers · asked by Josie A 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-16 02:31:10 · 16 answers · asked by sedcb27 1 in Family

my best friend jeniiii is away 4 six days and im bored out of my mind wat do i do ?

2007-07-16 02:30:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

do guys find this unattractive..its not like i have huge muscle..like im skinny with muscle but yeah theres defiantly some muscle defintion going on with my arms..and i kinda feel gross cauz people are always commenting on it...its not like my arms are huge though..but do guys find this a big turn off or is it good or bad?? i dunno what to do..cauz i dont think i can just get rid of it like that haha. in fact...i dont think its ever going to go away..this is sad.

2007-07-16 02:30:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my "boyfriend" have been dating for 6 years .. for the past 8 month to a year we have been pretty rocky due to our personal situations finaciallly and just life period.. well he wants me to be in his life and he loves me he says he doesnt want to lose me he just doesnt want to be in a relationship right now.. he not happy with himself. Basically he wants to be bestfriends if it was meant to be it will be... weve been in eachothers lives for so long he doesnt want me out of it. But I CANT BE FRIENDS WITH HIM!!! And it hurts to see him just as a friend. what im asking is am i being selfish?? has anyone been in this situation???

2007-07-16 02:29:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

there is this girl i like, im courious if she is single or what not. I have seen her around the building, we have spoken hey whats up a few times. she does think that Im sweet and very charming bc of how i hold the door open for her. I havent seen her with a dude since i have moved her but one time along time ago. We have spoken when we see eachother leaving or coming in from work. On numerous occassions her car is at the apt durin the evening or friday and sat nite. Im not stalkin her, Im just mentioning that i have seen her car at the time at the lot. does that mean shes single? thanks again
J

2007-07-16 02:29:29 · 10 answers · asked by tbg1982 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years (since I was 18) and I have been thinking alot lately about leaving him. He is not a bad guy, he is really sweet and funny, and he is my best friend in the whole world. I really do love him , but I feel like we just don't connect on the level that true love is supposed to . He is not romantic at all. He never wants to have sex, and when we do it is good, but not passionate. He never holds me or touches or caress me. I am the kind of person that needs passion and romance, I just feel like we are good friends. We have been through so much together, and he has never been anything but good to me. Does true passionate love exist? Should I be grateful that I have a man that loves me, won't cheat on me, has a job, and all the basics, or Do you really truely deeply "connect" with your true love? I don't know what to do....

2007-07-16 02:27:46 · 20 answers · asked by sugarplums 1 in Singles & Dating

just split with my violent partner that i have 2 kids with after 8 years! He wont let me go, phones every day and is in a rehab centre at mo police know of situation but cant not do anything at mo! as he is in rehab and they are not fretning calls even though he is breaking his bail conditions, i just want to move on with my life but cant till he is out of it! Any advice will be helpfull! all they can do at the time being is record all the details!

2007-07-16 02:25:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im not in a relationship with the father of the baby but with another guy, whom i haven't told im pregnant yet. My tummy isn't really showing and enjoys having sex with him..

How do I tell him about the pregnancy and have him not leave me because of this...?Im beginning to ignore his call and avoids seeing him, I make excusses all the time as im afraid his gonna notice this...I make him switch off the lights during sex and he hates it...but i cannot risk him seeing that im pregnant.
What should I do???

2007-07-16 02:21:18 · 20 answers · asked by Lwando 2 in Singles & Dating

if so why?
dont u think thats getting leftovers?

2007-07-16 02:20:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Sat Morning Around 3am My Brother woke me to tell me that My Ex Boyfriend Who i dated for 3 years was Killed He was shot 6 times by this gang and he was never in one. Ive known him for so long since i was 12 and i dated him since then. He and I had our good and bad times and i ended up breaking up with him 3 or 4 years ago, but to me He was my first Love. Last year he and his famly came down from Maryland to visit me and my fam. He told me he still loved me and it was special. we kissed and yes made love, all the feeling came back. He left and told me he was always going to love me. and i know we couldnt be 2gether because things wouldnt be the same. When we dated he hurt me many times, yet i was so inlove with him and we always got back together. Now I feel Numb, sad, shocked, i cant explain the feeling. I cant sleep at night. I have to leave this wensday to his funeral i dont know if i would be able to handle it. My Friends tell me i should be tearing but i dont know. Should i be.

2007-07-16 02:20:14 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4 in Friends

Me & my friend are in school on the computers, please leave us a message about anything, we are kind of bored.
ENTERTAIN US =)
Thank you, all messages will be appreciated greatly
K & A x

2007-07-16 02:19:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm not getting married here, but want to know how is it that people can comprehend the costs of taking THEMSELVES out for a fine meal, drinking and dancing all night , yet they are dumbfounded as to what is an acceptable gift when being invited to a lavish wedding that provides all of this entertainment? I am blown away by some of the questions on this site that ask, what is a "funny" gift to give for a wedding or is my $10 toaster a good enough gift to give? Now I realize that brides and grooms are suppose to be putting on a party, however, where on the planet can you eat well, drink and dance all night for $10 or at the cost of a cheap toaster? I think it's insulting to walk into a reception hall with a package in hand, especially when it's from a mature, gainfully employed adult.

2007-07-16 02:18:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I am writing a book for my husbands 50th birthday and would love to include your comments.

2007-07-16 02:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by tina h 2 in Other - Family & Relationships