Would you DUMP HIM for a "real man"?
2007-07-16 02:46:41 · 13 answers · asked by Macaroni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me a real man would be a man that could open up to you the fact that this happened to him in the first place. Being able to be honest about all things even the painful things says more about him than anything else. I would think it would bring the couple closer rather than apart. He may although have other issues to deal with. First question is is there love between the couple. I would wonder though if you even have to ask such a question. But with the added on part "Would you dump him for a real man", who needs the consoling more. I say go together. Evita
2007-07-16 02:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by evitabug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What about being sexually abused stops him from being a REAL man as you said?!
Sexually abused or not. a real man is someone who treats you right. I wouldn't leave him if he was like that unless I want in love or attracted to him, but I'd still want to stay friends.
2007-07-16 02:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kym 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think he is not a real man? He was abused as a child and had to have gone through some terrible times, because of it. I hope you walk away from him because, he has already had enough abuse in his past he doesn't need to have anymore inflected on him.
2007-07-16 02:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow... it is an exceedingly hard concern. besides the undeniable fact that, I do think of which you may desire to do what's suitable to your daughter and consider some factors. a million. He wasn't the only to confess that he touched her, he basically confessed after he grew to become into chanced on. 2. often this sort of habit stems from psychological ailment it is fairly innate. If I have been you, i could ask your daughter what she needs. she would be able to probably prefer what's nice for you and allow you to be responsive to to stay with him --yet deep down she would be able to nonetheless go through and not at all believe him returned. He does not sound like an exceedingly appropriate father parent to her and a truthful important different for you. i think of the daughter could want counseling, by fact she has stored it to herself all this time and did no longer come to you as quickly because it happened. Please placed your loved ones first, i think of that your responsibilities as a mom come till now your responsibilities as a female pal. in case you nonetheless be with him, she would be able to probably sense such as you placed him first (and in a manner you're) or which you like him extra advantageous than her. actually it could desire to have not at all happened interior the 1st place, and he's amazingly very very incorrect for ruining a extensive part of her innocence. She ought to have sexuality issues interior the destiny could desire to you reside with him, by fact she would be able to continuously be uneasy or maybe ashamed besides the certainty that it wasn't her fault. additionally, via staying with him it must be signifying that this behaivor is "appropriate" or "ok as long as he apologizes" --think of roughly how that should impact her outlook on destiny relationships. ought to she be open to abusive relationships by fact which you tolerated one? If she have been raped and the guy pronounced sorry could she no longer turn him in? I want you and your daughter the suitable.
2016-11-09 11:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by tahir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait..why would you dump him for a "Real Man" when he went through that and isnt in depression. That is a real man for me. Hes still living life noramlly and not letting it get him down.
2007-07-16 02:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by HeyMs.DJ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because he was sexually abused dosen't mean he is bad, the people that abused him are. You can't just dump him because he has been abused infact it would be mean. Just talk to him about it and maybe ask him if he will abuse your children, well good luck and remember just because he was abused dosen't mean he will abuse.
2007-07-16 02:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No. You need to show him that you love him and can take care of him. He cant help that he was sexually abused.
2007-07-16 02:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sammm. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to leave someone who only just began to trust you? What's the matter with YOU? That's the real question.
2007-07-16 02:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by sparkpixie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not at all.........abuse is not the victims fault, and it happens to alot of ppl. no need to be ashamed, seek therapy to help
2007-07-16 02:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by erthmuffnshaa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all!!! Why would that even make a difference?
2007-07-16 02:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Ariel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋