If your a single mother how off putting is it really to guys???

Question

if your a young fairly attractive, tall slim woman and you happen to be a single mother would this fact alone put guys off ????

just for extra info i have 1 child and im 23 !!

i am only just contemplating the dating scene again and the question was just that, im not trying to make a statement against men or anything thank you to all who answer

Answer 1

I have 2 reltaionship experiences with single mothers and I had no issue with it at all..

Obviously with me using the past tense it didn't work out.. Why? mainly because they had issues about the fact that it was going to be an issue? I know thats hard to understand but then thats women for ya (joke).

Obviously some guys will be after sex and not interested in a reltaionship anyway. Some will think they have no problem with it then find that kids are hard work. I guess what you have to consider priority is how your child(ren) take to this new guy..

Its all swings an rounabouts though cos if you ignore your own desires it will make you miserable which will make them miserable too.

Answer 2

as a 20 year old guy I'd perhaps look at it differently, but i wouldnt say its a turn-off. I mean then again if we was to have a relationship, it'd be a question of really thinking of what it was like to have a kid even even if it wasnt biologically mine and all the responsibilities that come with having a kid. I wouldn't consider it personally a turn off... Perhaps more of a turn on dependant on the person should they have "learnt" or matured from motherhood,

I think the tendency for small minded people to have a single mother as a turn off would be that they see at as baggage, and not part of their usual relationship.

Answer 3

Depends on how young. Typically, yes, because most young guys aren't ready to settle down and be a father figure. I find that I'm mature for my age, yet I am not really interested in girls with children. True, if there's sparks and she's exactly what I'm looking for, it can work out. But I'm only 20, and still want to live my life without having to worry about a child. That's why I haven't had any. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

No i was a single mum and it has never put off any of the guys i dated. I have been with my current partner now for 6 years (since i was 21 and he was 19 and my daughter was just 3), We now own our own home and have a 3 year old son together.
Any man that is put off is not the kind of man you need in your life anyway, but their are plenty of good decent men who will love you AND you child.

Answer 5

The guys worth attracting won't be put off. The single mom (and dad) scene is becoming a norm, so it's really no big deal, but just be careful. There are scum out there who think that since you have a kid, you'll be an easy score.

Answer 6

It shouldn't be no, but unfortunately some guys are very narrow minded. If a guy isn't interested in you because you have kids then he doesn't really want a serious relationship in my opinion. However, lets remember, that the children should always be number 1 priority in new relationships. They have already been through trauma of a split and it can emotionally effect children when their mother (or father) enters into another relationship.

Answer 7

I have actually heard otherwise from a friend of mine who is single and a mother. Perhaps the guys you meet now will be put off by your obbligations. But what about those who appreciate a responsible woman?

Answer 8

I have friends that 'were' single mothers, it didn't put any partners off. Not a good idea to get a kid used to a new partner too lightly though as they will be the ones that don't understand if it doesn't work out and will wonder where their new Daddy is gone

Answer 9

Hey chicks im a single mum of 24 to my 5 yr old.......and i've never found it put guys off. Im with someone now but b4 when i was dating i would always keep my son separate to guys. He never met any of them except my current partner. Its very important to separate them until u hav enough trust there to think it could b a serious long term thing you know.

Good luck chick x x x

Answer 10

i think of it is ridiculous to be judgmental in direction of unmarried mothers. helpful, there may be some concern in relationship by fact her new child/ren are her precedence. yet, their perfect objective is to furnish a solid environment for her infants to boot as herself. i think of a guy which could maturely shield relationship a unmarried mom is a actual guy, and proves that he's family contributors cloth. a female that lands a guy like it is the two as blessed; properly, guy is often extra blessed by fact female is the suitable of God's creations.