Im not in a relationship with the father of the baby but with another guy, whom i haven't told im pregnant yet. My tummy isn't really showing and enjoys having sex with him..
How do I tell him about the pregnancy and have him not leave me because of this...?Im beginning to ignore his call and avoids seeing him, I make excusses all the time as im afraid his gonna notice this...I make him switch off the lights during sex and he hates it...but i cannot risk him seeing that im pregnant.
What should I do???
2007-07-16 02:21:18 · 20 answers · asked by Lwando 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for your advice you guys, I'll phone him ask if he can come over and break the news....i can't lie to him any longer and claim this is his baby because he will know...the guy im dating is off a different race and we talked about marriage once or twice...
The father knows im pregnant and willing to take full responsibility...this is where the lie ends i will tell him..if he leaves me iguess that's what i deserve for being selfish and a lier..
What hurts the most is that I love him very much,, im not sure if I can do without him..
2007-07-16 03:14:33 · update #1
First of all you should of told him a long time ago but since you did not, you are going to have to be totally honest now! Don't wait any longer! The longer you wait, the harder it gets. You said you are worried that he may leave if you tell him...well then it is better to find out now if he is commited to your responsible or not. You are adding more fuel to the fire than there should be. Right now he has no idea why you are avoiding him and that is not fair to him either. You need to take care of this as soon as possible and trust me, you will feel a 100% better getting this off your chest. You don't need this kind of stress being pregnant. And just because you are in a different relationship, doesn't mean the father of the baby may want some responsible in this too. I don't know the situation, but you have a lot on your plate that needs attention before it explodes and gets out of control. You are going to be a mommy soon and you need your affairs in order so you can concentrate on your child.
Good Luck!
2007-07-16 02:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMM.....TELL HIM!!!!! This is a CHILD for crying out loud!! You are not going to hide this for long!!! You not hiding a deformity....You hiding a FETUS!!! It is not fair to him for him to be with someone that is not being honest with him. The longer you wait the worst it will be. Becuz if you wait any longer you little bundle of joy is going to tell on you. The lights won't protect you anymore. And boy is he going to be PISSED!! He has been having sex with a woman that was pregnant with another man's baby and didn't tell him. Just tell him that you have something really important to tell him. And just say it. " I am pregnant with another man's baby. I struggled with this ever since I found out. I would have told you sooner but I was afraid that you would not want to see me anymore. So...How do you feel?" There is a good chance that he won't want to stick around. He may not want to be a father or be with a woman with a kid. But you NEED to tell him ASAP if you want to still have a shot of keeping him!!!! Good Luck sweetie!!
2007-07-16 09:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by handvict81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be True to yourself and to the guy who is true to you. This not fair to you, the baby's father and the guy who is having relationship with you.... since you are keeping the baby, just the matter of time, your stomah will shows... just tell him your current situations and have a nice talk to him... See what's his reactions too., Good Luck and enjoy
2007-07-16 09:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by doraemon11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to come clean. If you really like this guy and you don't want to push him away, you need to tell him and let him make the decision whether to stay or go. There are still alot of nice guys out there. Maybe you will be pleasantly surprised! If he really cares about you he will accept your situation. Don't wait any longer. TELL HIM!!!!
2007-07-16 09:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just want to ride it out until you start showing,just to keep him then do that. But, once you start showing, he is going to notice it. If you really want to keep him, maybe you should tell him now. You have a better chance at keeping him if he finds out from you and not by himself.
2007-07-16 09:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont avoid him.. it will just make things worse. does he know the father of the baby? if he dos then he should understand... rather than him thinking that u cheated on him or something. u need to tell him b4 its too late. he will understand.
2007-07-16 09:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by cutey pa-tudy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the father know? With this guy... You should tell him. It's a matter of confidence. You should show him that you trust in him...
2007-07-16 09:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by ancutzaurs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you really need to talk to him, the longer you take the worst it will get, don't let him find out by someone else, it will not be easy, and hearts will hurt but it is the right thing to do, and if was meant to be then it will be.
2007-07-16 09:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Hellbound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him.
Its not fair if you don't.
He may suprise you by saying it doesn't matter.
But you have to give him a chioce.
( you can always tell a little white lie and say you had no idea and only just found out??)
2007-07-16 09:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should of told him before the sex started and all this could of been avoided. I feel sorry for your unborn baby.
2007-07-16 09:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋