Don't say anything just adjust the lighting and replace the batteries, go out there and take the pics. When you get the pics right leave the camera in front of him and walk away.
2007-07-16 02:39:35
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answered by Anonymous
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Does he always respond this way? Yes, that was a form of verbal abuse. The surprising thing is, he did it in front of someone else...normally abusers don't lower themselves in front of others.
Stand your ground, girl. You have a voice. It doesn't have to escelate to an argument, but I'd let him know how those comments make you feel when he expresses them. If he tarts back with something to the effect of, "Oh you're making too big a deal out of this" or, "See! You can't take a joke" or, "All I did was ask you to do something simple, and you made a big deal out of nothing", then he's showing he could care less for your feelings. This is a REALITY 1 personality.
End the conversation on your own saying, "I do not like, nor do I appreciate the comments you make to me. You would NOT like it if I spoke to you that way. Do NOT speak to me that way again." I know, easier said than done sometimes.
If he continues to belittle you, alone or in front of others, then it's time to get some help. Find a therapist and hash it out in front of a therapist. Having a 3rd person there will (perhaps) be enough to show him he's abusive and it won't be tolerated.
Best of luck to you. Abuse is never a good thing.
2007-07-16 10:16:27
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answered by Concerned Parent 3
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He sounds like a real winner??? You normally storm out ??? How many times are going to let this "man" talk at you this way. If you don't respond and give him a sense of your true feelings, pretty soon your entire relationship is going to be based on him talking down to you, instead of too you.
I would be upfront and honest with him and tell him to start treating you with some respect. Here is something I would expect my wife to say to me if I talked to her like that....
"Honey, considering I have extra batteries in the house and I want to take the best photo possible, you may want to consider that I am the one taking the photos and not you, so let me take care of the batteries, the lighting and getting done what you asked me to do for you and if you have an issue with how I do things, then next time you can do it yourself".
2007-07-16 09:53:12
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answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5
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Ok say this, in his face calmly, There are more batteries for the camera let me go get them. I do believe you owe me an apology for the big dumb dog comment, don't you think?
And if he refuses I would delete the pictures off the camera take all the batteries in the house and leave his big dumb @ss there to deal with it on his own
2007-07-16 09:42:53
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answered by swtlilblonde31 5
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Guess you could say to him, ( in a non threatening way , you wouldn't want to call the kettle black and sound as disrespectful to him as he did to you).... He should feel lucky that you're like an old dog. Otherwise there's no way on earth that you'd be loyal to a disrespecting husband like him. After all dogs are man's best friend :-)
Not quite the intelligent answer I'm sure you were looking for.. but I bet it gets an interesting reaction from him. Maybe he'll realize that your are loyal and loving to him despite his faults and he should be the same to you!
Unfortunately we all sometimes react before knowing all the facts to a situtation. Chalk this up as one of those little dumb moments in life and remember all the reasons you love your husband!
2007-07-16 10:06:19
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answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4
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I would consider this comment rude AND abusive. Not to mention childish, ridiculous and selfish. If my husband ever talked to me or about me like that I would be so hurt I would probably consider divorce. Since you said you usually storm out and say your peace you have obviously lived with this kind of treatment in the past. That means a comeback or statement made to him will not change his behavior.
If I were you I would talk to him when you are both getting along and calmly tell him his insulting and abusive remarks are damaging your soul. You love him but you also love yourself and if he doesn't stop hurting you, you will leave him. If you tell him this calmly you may get him to take your words seriously and resolve to change. If he continues to insult and degrade you, you can see if he will agree to counseling. If not I would definitely leave. Nothing is worse than being degraded and humiliated by the person who is supposed to cherish you and protect you from harm.
2007-07-16 10:03:30
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answered by grtchi09 2
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He is quite a catch where did you find this one.If you could only point to the pet store,I would avoid it.Obviously this disrespect has been going on for quite a while in the relationship.why you take it is beyond me.Why do you think he tries to belittle you every chance he gets?.It is not a question of finding something smart to say back to him,it is more a quality of life issue.You should never bow your head in shame because you have nothing to be ashamed of.Do you have children? how does he treat you in front of them?Please go and find a Good counselor,You need to heal your broken soul.It is only then that you can see your husband for what he really is,A BULLY.
2007-07-16 10:36:09
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answered by miraclehand2020 5
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It sounds like he has no respect for you. That was just rude! If my husband had the nerve to say that to me, he would get it back ten fold. But I'm not you....so since you said "I normally storm out and say my peace", then this has happened many times before. You need to put a stop to these type of comments. Does the father-in-law makes these kind of childish comments to his wife? This shows a lack of respect and a lack of maturity.
2007-07-16 09:50:49
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answered by LAL 5
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Us readers really probably need more of a context to better answer you - this statement as is seems pretty damning. But what was your husband's body language and tone of voice? Is this normal banter for your husband AND you - meaning is there a lot of give and take with razzing each other?
These are unknowns to me, but probably known to you.
But without knowing any of this, I will answer strictly on what you provided: I would never say this about my wife to anyone else because I think it is demeaning. I would never demean or insult anyone I care about like this. So I think you tell your husband you were insulted by this and that it will not be tolerated.
2007-07-16 09:43:32
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answered by Matt G 5
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I got my own husband issues, but lets just say if he said that to me, I think the digicam would have been knocked on his head. Aside from responding to him in the best non-emotional way, I think you should confront him in a non-threatening way and have some words about the lack of respect he gave you. To do it in front of his family shows no respect to you and be honest with him about how you feel. He needs to apologise for his behaviour whether or not he was joking.
2007-07-16 09:46:50
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answered by Sweet & Spicy 2
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