my bf is 26, but he always complained to me that he's lonely after work (FYI: we are in long distance relatonship - 5 hrs driving, but we get to see each other every other week). he feels insecure when he's alone. he feels like nobody cares about him when he's by himself. last week, he called me up and told me he's lonely and bored. i told him to find something to do (in fact, he's not a game person and he likes to hang out with people), but he said he doesn't want to do anything....i don't know how to help him. for me, i always can find something to do like rent a movie and get on internet to kill times. you know he's a guy, i feel like i'm babysiting him (please excuse my words). i'm just wondering if many guys in mid 20s can act like that...if there's any suggestion, feel free to drop a line...thanks
2007-07-16 02:37:24 · 11 answers · asked by MoniJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes guy doesn't know to express his feeling..like myself i rather kill my free time with sleep, it's weird,right?... i did have girlfriend but as your boyfriend, i also feel lonely and bored sometimes... for me, might be you should contact him more often... or you should give him surprise sometimes... for instances, give jacket or watch..or something special....all those things can make him feel better...
or might be, he juz say loneliness because you are apart and he need someone close to him.... juz to give accuse or he want to break up with you... you should ask dat?...
2007-07-16 02:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by tengkuhimza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it's not what YOU can do, it's what HE can do. Your boyfriend is in the prime time of his life right now and all he can do is complain about being bored? Tell him to get the **** up and DO something about it. I have never heard of a 26 year old get BABYSITTED by his girlfriend, it's really pathetic. Perhaps you should find somebody else to spend your time with, instead of having your life BURDENED by this lame duck. He is pulling you down with him !
You ask anyone, if they could relive an entire decade of their life, what decade would that be? Answer: 20-30.
2007-07-16 09:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by MOOOSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is hard to deal with.
Maybe he has more issues than boredom? If he feels alone in a place five hours away from you, maybe you can help him find some people over there? when you go out to see him, maybe try some group activities of some sort (from joining a club to just going on a group trip to a restaurant) and, more importantly, get him to join activities on his own so he doesn't feel like he's lonely.
It sucks to feel lonely.
2007-07-16 09:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sense you are babysitting him. He wants constant validation that your care and love him. He wants attention; just like a baby.
He's a big boy, he should be able to amuse himself. You're his girlfriend not his mother. Tell him to suck it up and do something rather than complain to you.
Frankly, it's sounds like you are independent and are with a co-dependant. Does he really care for you or just care about being cared for? Really examine this relationship.
2007-07-16 09:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. find out what his hobbies r and act accordingly
2. find new ways of mutual shagging
3. tell him about new ways of money making over the internet.... i know most of them r fake but still good enough for time pass
4. have long romantic talks over the phone
5. tell him to do somehing which is exactly opposite to what h elikes..... like telling a arty person to start gymming or persuing sports.... sometimes its fun not to be urself
6. tell him baout yahoo answers.... best way to kill time
2007-07-16 09:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mayur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a man in town that would say "I'm lonely. do you want to come over?" I got tired of it. I felt like he didn't want to see me, he just didn't want to be alone. I finally told him to get a dog.
2007-07-16 09:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is getting homesick. My suggestion is why not visit him sometime or call him once in a while.
2007-07-16 09:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by kat0217 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well get used to it because if you get married its like having a big kid. and it dont get any easier. maybe find some one more independent.
2007-07-16 09:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he's a bit down an not having a very good period. try to be there for him an d boost his moral.
2007-07-16 09:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you have him move in with you. I think that is what he wants overall.
2007-07-16 09:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sammm. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋