Family & Relationships - 9 April 2007

I recently re-connected with a guy I was friends with like 20 years ago via the internet. We were close friends in our teens and have kept in touch sporadically over the years. We have both felt some romantic interest in the past, however the timing was always wrong...either he was with someone or I was, etc. so nothing ever moved beyond friendship.

I have been divorced for three years and he just barely got divorced this month. We have talked about perhaps going beyond friendship this time, but his divorce is so fresh that he has not breached the topic of dating again to his ex-wife.

My question: Do you really need to let your ex-spouse know you're going to start dating again once you are divorced???

They do share custody of a child, but we've agreed that I wouldn't even meet the child until such time as we knew the relationship was going to be serious.

Am I wrong here? Does this seem odd? How long should I give him to tell his wife he wants to date someone?

2007-04-09 09:15:23 · 42 answers · asked by ratgrrl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

For all those guys who have fallen in love and have married to their true love, has your love changed after marriage (and/or kids)?

2007-04-09 09:14:46 · 5 answers · asked by AroseC 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My Dad Doesnt Trust Me.
I say im going out. "Where? Why? With who?"
Its been going on for ages. I just cant stand it any more.
How can i get him to trust me?

2007-04-09 09:09:10 · 5 answers · asked by Hannah x 2 in Family

2007-04-09 09:07:10 · 36 answers · asked by Layla 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Guys, I've always thought myself to be a pretty hard-working, totally independant woman who's confident in my looks and abilities. I've recently gotten engaged and have gladly given up a portion of the lead role to my soon-to-be husband. And though I would have NEVER considered myself to be "insecure" I overheard him saying that about me to his buddy, not in a "talk about me" kind of way, but in a "statement" kind of way. I was flabergasted! Admitedly there was a situation with is ex that prompted me to feel insecure - to make it short they have children together but I KNOW she was putting the moves on him. Anyway, what I want to know is how can I now disassociate myself from this horrible title of "insecure" without be too abrupt as to further damage the relationship? How can a woman keep her own seperate life but still be "marriage" material in your eyes? It seems we women are damned if we are too independant and damned if we are too needy. What is the middle ground?

2007-04-09 08:51:58 · 21 answers · asked by Brandy 6 in Marriage & Divorce

like does the groomsmen escort them or do they come in before or later or what?

2007-04-09 08:43:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-04-09 08:41:17 · 12 answers · asked by ♥emily elizabethhh♥ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My past wife passed away 10 years ago. I say why should she not be able to display pictures of her mother and father. Who is right?

2007-04-09 08:39:59 · 20 answers · asked by burned 1 in Family

2007-04-09 08:37:11 · 7 answers · asked by SWEETNESS 1 in Singles & Dating

I am not married but I would like to know your satisfactions/dissatisfactions with marriage regarding age, length, sexlife, kids, careers, money issues.... and in all, if you are happy with the decision you have made.

2007-04-09 08:36:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-04-09 08:33:31 · 26 answers · asked by Christy T 2 in Singles & Dating

I am a 47 year old mtoher and I have a daugther who is 18. She is 18 years old and I feel terrible for what I've put her through. Ever since she was in 4th grade she has been harrassed so badly. It got so bad to the point where I myself would have to come to her school and bring her no field trips because students refused to let her be in there groups. I thought ti would end for her after 4th grade but it didnt'. She would run away constantly come home cryimg every single day. It hurt me. She had begged me to move but my husband and I chose to stay. We thought it would get better! It has been hell for my daughter for the past 8 years of her life. Her friends have been treating her TERRIBLE latley. Shes' not going to her prom because of her one best friend. I've been reading what she has been writing on here. She tells me everything which is good! She showed me what some people at work were saying about her the mean things. It brought me to taers. No mother likes to hear (adding more)

2007-04-09 08:31:38 · 27 answers · asked by Mom Is Crazy 971 1 in Friends

i really really really LOOVE my nose piercing! its great!
but it's hard finding a job, that's ok with it. and the last thing i want to do is take it off!!

how could i hide it during work hours?
i cant take it off and then put it back on, bcuz it hurts A LOT!!! and it will close in a matter of seconds.

2007-04-09 08:30:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have recently seperated and when I called to drop him from my insurance they said I have to have documentation of a legal seperation. When I went to the courthouse to ask what I needed to do, of course they told me they could not give out legal information and to contact an attorney. If I am going to have to pay an attorney to get a seperation I might as well just go ahead and get a divorce. I know that you can file for a divorce on your own for $100.00 but I am not sure how to get the forms and what to do afterwards.

2007-04-09 08:27:15 · 4 answers · asked by jacklyn_denise 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my fathers father died in 1949,but i have been unable to trace is name .i know is surname .i know nothing else my father is also dead never ever mentioned him.one of my unsolved mysteries of life.

2007-04-09 08:20:10 · 12 answers · asked by peter m 1 in Family

There is this teacher at my school and she is attractive. She was leaving the math lab today, and me and a guy sitting next to me were watching her leave. She kind of stopped and looked back. The look on her face was saying "Quit looking at me, creep."

I couldn't tell if she was looking at me or him or whatever, but the look on her face was stunning. I don't stalk anyone, especially her, but her reaction was like she was saying that I gawk at her or something.

I mean she hasn't said anything, but it's pissed me off to the point where I won't do it again.

What do you think?

2007-04-09 08:19:51 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

If your spuse is on drugs and in denial. What should you a person do.

2007-04-09 08:18:33 · 13 answers · asked by guy2598us 2 in Marriage & Divorce

its not lust and its not infatuation.

2007-04-09 08:17:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she iz a girl that I go to school with and i really really like her.

2007-04-09 08:10:09 · 4 answers · asked by Tyreek J 1 in Singles & Dating

when we first got together the sex was great, but now that were married, i dont have a sex drive, and i think its because i havent gotten pregnant and that was a really tough situation for awhile, our relationship is good but he wants it way more than i do and i want to be able to please him.

2007-04-09 08:09:10 · 21 answers · asked by mommyshake55 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My partner and I had a large fight, in which I believe he was trying to push me away/use me as a scapegoat/use me as a place to push all his frustrations on me. I've said everything I've needed to say, but that was, 3 days ago, and he's just left me hanging, not saying anything at all back. My friend keeps telling me to wait for him to come talk to me, but is that really the right thing to do? I really do love him, but he really did cross the line this time, even if it was out of character for him.

2007-04-09 08:07:55 · 3 answers · asked by AriaDragonfly 1 in Singles & Dating

In high school there were girls who picked on me because I was fat, nerdy with glasses. But now after high school I am the man. I have the biggest muscles and the baddest urban wear. When I came home from college some of those girls who picked one me tried to get with me and I rejected them and laughed in their face. Is that great revenge?

2007-04-09 08:06:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I were living together for 7 months. I wrote him and e-mail the other day asking him what it is that he wants (i.e. to be friends, or remain boyfriend/girlfriend), and he told me to my face that he still wanted us to be together. Then two days later, he says that we are still best friends but not together. I was in a five year relationship prior to him (whom I have a beautiful 2 1/2 yr. old daughter from), but after investing so much into my ex and the current boyfriend, I just can't do it anymore. My current boyfriend has always accepted my little girl, but the issure is I feel like he just wants to be a bachelor forever.

2007-04-09 08:02:14 · 5 answers · asked by raiyn4502 2 in Singles & Dating

OK so he made a mistake, doesn't everyone. Isn't walking away the easy way out. I mean come on: "for better or worse" isn't that what the vows say. So why do I feel like I am the only one out there who thinks I am making the right choice and working things out with my husband?

2007-04-09 08:01:49 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She is 36, divorced, 2 kids, a christian. He is single, 25 & a muslim. They are both of different races. She is Asian. They love each other madly, He wants to commit, but he is a little gun shy because he revolves around a conservative society and they definitely will disapprove. Should they go for it or just forget about each other and stay friends?

2007-04-09 08:01:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Since this is an anonymous forum, I hope you won't mind answering: What is your family's income? How many family members depend on this income?

2007-04-09 07:58:03 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Lucky♥ 6 in Family

can a relationship where the woman is 25 yrs old and the man is 19 be a lasting relationship and can it escalade to a happy marriage?

2007-04-09 07:55:52 · 11 answers · asked by yose 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A female friend of mine feels extremely guilty for something she has done a little over two years ago. She wants to tell her husband but it could mean the end of their ten year happy marriage. It has nothing to do with infidelity, but it is definitely something I consider serious. Should I counsel her to keep this information to herself, or tell her to speak out, even if it means to the end of her marital bliss?

2007-04-09 07:54:50 · 9 answers · asked by bungholey h 2 in Marriage & Divorce

please help me..I still kinda want 2 be friends but we shoulda neva went out...we shoulda stayed as flirty friends...i guess..we dnt even talk anymore..itz soo messed up...and i feel kinda hurt..HELP!! please

2007-04-09 07:52:10 · 1 answers · asked by Destiny 1 in Singles & Dating

I am still a virgin but I think about sex a lot. Sometimes i feel that if a guy came up to me and was even slightly forceful with me that I would gladly jump in bed with him. Masturbation only goes so far...

2007-04-09 07:43:20 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating