Is marriage worth it?

Question

I am not married but I would like to know your satisfactions/dissatisfactions with marriage regarding age, length, sexlife, kids, careers, money issues.... and in all, if you are happy with the decision you have made.

Answer 1

I am very happy with all of the decisions that I have made. I was married at 19, had my son at 21 and have been married for 6 years. The best part of my marriage is that my husband is truly my best friend. There is not a single thing that I cant tell him. He knows when there is something bothering me and he is there to share the good and the bad. Best of all we learn & discover everything together. Because we were married very young we had much to learn about every thing..such as how to have a good time with others. We are so close that we hardly do anything without each other. So we have made new friends that are also couples. We had to learn to balace our time with work, school, our son, and entertainment. We are each others support...we are currently attending college to get degrees and we push each other when one feels like we cant go on. We stop to pick each other up when we are tired. Money wise its always easier to have two incomes instead of one but if you have two people who are big spenders then it doesnt matter how much you make. Fortunateky we are both very responsible when it comes to our finances so we spend only what we have. We also keep in mind that we are responsible for our son's needs so we tend to be extra careful with money. Sex is awesome! I was a virgin and he was a virgin so we discover new things all the time and it makes it that much more special because we share it witht he person whom we love. I love being married to my husband. He is defenitly my betther half.

Answer 2

I would say marriage is awesome I got married when I was 24 and now coming up to the 8th anniversary. Some of the satisfactions with marriage is you have someone to love and support and to have around, you may both work so you have some disposable income. Children are not always involved as with my wife and I were not having any. Money issues are always up/down in any relationship unless of copurse you win the lotto. I'm exstactic with the decision I made and wouldn't go back for anything.

I hope you find Mr. Right and you can see for yourself how grewat marriage is and can be.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

Yes, it is worth it! Marriages can be made in heaven or hell. You take a chance when you make a "covenant" with another person. If you choose wisely (or are just plain blessed or lucky) then you join with a person that will potentially "complete" you. For me it's been like the "melding together" of best friends, lovers, intellectual equals, companions, parents, and now, grandparents. We've been married for over 33 years and my wife is my best friend. I can't imagine what my life would be like without her. Hers is the first face I want to see in the morning when I awake and the last when I retire at night. When we were young I chased her around the house, at this point she chases me, but we both enjoy getting caught. Looking at our grandchildren (we're young grandparents) and seeing little glimpses of her in them is so gratifying. Of course they're sure she's the greatest lady ever born. I agree with them. Sure, we all have money issues either not enough or for some, too much. Careers come and go, but in the later years most people begin to see things a little more alike. Who's standing beside you in the autumn of your life? Who knows you better than anyone else alive and still believes in you? Who would stay for better or for worse? If you're fortunate enough to know the answer to that, as I am, then you are blessed.

Answer 4

marriage is the hardest job you will ever have simply because you get up working on it and you work on it all day then go to bed get up and start all over again . I love my husband very much I love my daughter too but we were married young and if I had to do it all over again I would wait I would still marry him but having children as young as what we did I would not do that again because I believe that if we waited we would have been finnancially more secure . money is always ans issue in a marriage wether you have it don't have it or are trying to save it . we have been married for 15yrs . I love my career and would not change it I work at a school . as for in the bedroom well no complaints on either side . I will be turning 36 my husband 35 all in all I am pretty sastisfied with my marriage hope this answers all your questions and hope this helps some

Answer 5

We humans are "programmed" to be adaptable. We can do monogamy or not as we choose. But being adaptable means making a conscious choice and working at it. It's not a matter of finding the exact right person, it's a matter of being mature enough to be willing to work and not be selfish. The joy of being married is a subtle joy that immature people cannot appreciate. If you like the rush of love, the thrill of newness and love being free to do whatever you want whenever you want, then marriage is not for you just yet. Those things can be found in marriage but it's different and you have to be willing to enjoy the subtleties of married life rather than sit around waiting for a thrill you have to MAKE your thrills. It's work but work always brings a reward. Are you mature enough to really enjoy that reward? Only you can decide that. Be honest with yourself and you'll know the real answer.

Answer 6

Oh yes, marriage is definitely worth it. I have been married for 33 years, since the day after my 21st birthday. It has had its ups and downs but truly, I have never been as happy or as contented as I have since being married.
We have 2 amazingly wonderful kids who are clever, happy and working and chuffed to have come from such a stable background.
We have changed together. All life is a compromise and both parties have to be prepared sometimes to give in to their partner. And I do think women do more of the giving and the changing and men do more of the taking, but I wouldn't have swopped anything. I am so looking forward to us growing old together....we are having a wonderful life made all the more wonderful because we are a pair; two halves of the same being while both having individual lives too.

Answer 7

I'm not so sure anymore that marriage is worth it. I'm 25, been married for 4 1/2 years. I love my kid and would never ever regret having her, just who I had her with. I still love my husband but its more like we're roommates than a married couple. We're going on 8 months of no sex and that is NOT my decision. Its gotten to the point where I've told him I've thought about finding someone who will have sex with me. And what does he tell me - "fine, as long as you tell me first".... WHAT? And if I get to cheat then he does too. My question is if you are willing to have sex, why are you not willing to have it with me? I wouldn't even have a desire to have sex with someone else if I could just get it at home but it seems he feels the opposite. Theres a sting to my pride. Money is not an issue, we've crossed that hurdle (though divorce is still too expensive). it seems like we were happier when we were stressed about money and making it to the next pay check... I'm not happy, in general or with the decisions I've made

Answer 8

Marriage is no longer worth it from a financial point of view. The courts favor woman in settlements. If you own property, 401K, pension plan, etc. You will give a big part of this away if a divorce comes your way. In addition there is alimony.
In a world were woman have/can make the same amount of income as men. Its unfair that courts do not take this into consideration. She will take your hard earned assets and cash if she can. Its encouraged by the system.

Answer 9

36+ happily married years, here.

But whether it's "worth it" or not, only you can answer.

Why? Because YOU have to decide what it is you want most out of life.

If you want a life partner, a real team mate who will cover your backside and be there for you through the bad times; someone with which you can share all the good times, then consider marriage.

If, on the other hand, you want shallow relationships with a minimum of committment and involvement, and casual sex with multiple partners, then you should remain single.

One thing that couples fail to do before jumping into a marriage is to TAKE THE TIME to discuss all the issues important to you; sex, kids, money, careers, politics, religions, etc., etc.

They jump into it prematurely, and then have these "rude awakenings" within a few years.

I'm here to tell you that marriage is "worth it;" but only if you "prepare" for it up front.

Answer 10

For those married to a good spouse I admire you. As a single late 30 something and never married I wish for the day I can truely share my life with rather than being single and online, on the street, lonely, or not having someone to talk to and share throughout the coming years. Marriage is a beautiful situation to have the opportunity.. Yes if it is a bad marriage not repairable than it must end. What is truely good about single life if you find a good mate?