She is 36, divorced, 2 kids, a christian. He is single, 25 & a muslim. They are both of different races. She is Asian. They love each other madly, He wants to commit, but he is a little gun shy because he revolves around a conservative society and they definitely will disapprove. Should they go for it or just forget about each other and stay friends?
2007-04-09 08:01:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Understand why you are entering this relationship. Your motivations are what matters.
A young guy taking on all of that...is taking on a lot. Are you trying to save her? A woman of this nature sounds common. Lots of women are divorced and looking for a good man. The question is...why would the guy want this?
How important is the faith of each individual? They are not strictly compatible except by love.
Take your time. Know the person fully. Does the man have his career established?
Don't save each other. It isn't impossible...but it is unlikely if the religious factor is truly important. Loving madly is quite temporary. Make sure you can just love the every day way.
I married a younger man. It is hard. And we don't have religious differences. The goals are different at different times in a person's life. Be careful and be really sure. It is for life you know.
You must put love first to win this situation and find your answer. Not romantic love. Genuine love. Then your answer will come.
2007-04-09 08:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should just stay friends. This is an affair that will burn out if allowed to run its course but there's a rebellious streak running through it. He's too young for her, first of all. She has kids and he doesn't and at her age, if she is to have kids with him, it's almost too late. They would be not only going against the wishes of those around them but throwing children into the mix from the very beginning - and dealing with a stepfamily to boot. No, the odds are not good. The divorce would be a nightmare. The marriage might be sweet for a while but only for a while.
2007-04-09 15:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't possibly think this could work!! The huge difference in religion alone would create all sorts of problems but the age factor puts the two of you on different planets. Stay friends....save the both of you a lot of grief.
2007-04-09 15:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it can, if they dont go for it they will always wonder what could be. It will be difficult considering she has kids and he doesnt. but in the end if they really want it to work out it will, they have to be prepared for all the advertises and hurdles they have to overcome. but its something they have to discuss between the two of them to know for sure what they want to do.
2007-04-09 15:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by ice solid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET ABOUT IT! Love cannot conquer all! Unless you believe in fairytales.
Better to stop it now before they get too involved.
2007-04-09 15:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋