2007-04-09 08:41:17 · 12 answers · asked by ♥emily elizabethhh♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Emily Harris, this is a rare time that you have been given to look into yourself and realize that life is short and you are special. Do not look at your situation negatively, for how often do you have this chance? Look at this brief time -- you know it will end soon -- as an interlude in which to gather strength. Look at yourself realistically. Are you not a unique and special person? Are you not a person of value? Somebody is just going to love the hell out of you very soon, and all you have to do is meet him! So walk through every day knowing that fate is going to place him in your path. Smile at everyone. It might be him! And maybe, just maybe, with a renewed self confidence and sense of conviction about how special you are, you can learn to enjoy this brief time being alone. Know this too, Emily. You will never meet me, and because you don't know me I don't mean much to you, but I am there for you. We are all there for you. If you only knew it.....
2007-04-09 09:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a way that helped me to survive when my relationship broke up:
1. make a truthful list of your transgressions in a failed relationship. You can't get over it if you don't acknowledge your part of the failure.
2. Instead of indulging in self-destructive nostalgia, write a letter to yourself saying why it never would have worked.
3. Talk to good friends about your feelings instead of calling your ex.
4. Go out with friends, even if everybody feels second best.
5. If you're wearing your friends out with talk, find a group or counselor.
6. Stop looking for a reason.
7. Get physical and walk or work out.
8. (My personal favorite) Fake it til you make it - act as if your life is working.
9. Lower the bar. You're grieving, so don't expect full functioning.
10. Eat healthily.
11. Have a good cry or rage.
12. Come out of the mind into the body. Is the pain a knot in the stomach or a tightness in the chest?
13. Settle yourself with conscious breathing.
14. Rather than nag yourself about why the ex left you, tell yourself, "I can handle this. I'm lovable (tough, whatever)"
15. Avoid listening to music about lost love or evocative of the ex-relationship.
It's hard, but you can do it. Ten years from now, this will all seem like a bad dream. Good luck.
2007-04-09 16:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by cherylincanada 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard isn't it? I have been without anyone for a very long time, I'm not just talking a man I mean family all the way around. I don't know how I got as far as I have today because I have been through some **** I owe a lot to the good lord because no one since I can remember has ever been there for me.
The way I get through things is I just try, it's so hard to explain. You can never give up on things, especially if it's a battle in life, dam just don't give up no matter what. I have had help from some people but they were strangers that didn't know a dam thing about me, my family never helped me with **** all.
I just know that you can get through anything and you are a very strong person and nothing can defeat you as long as you don't give up.
It's hard and it hurts sometimes but I don't stay down about it to long I just stay right away from negative thinking and keep a positive mind no matter what.
You'll be fine, just keep your head up.
Take care.
2007-04-09 15:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling or a therapist. I find them very helpful in making an adjustment during a difficult time. As adults we have to put on "masks" to not show anything affects us, but life is hard. Sometimes we all just need an outlet to vent about frustrations in our life and not have it thrown back in our face. My therapist has allowed me to find answers within and an inner strength I did not know existed.
2007-04-09 15:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to let yourself feel all those emotions that come with a break up.
You will get through this but try and talk to friends as well and family if you have any.
Take care
2007-04-09 15:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kerrybobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends, connect with your family, go to church, get out into the world and find ways to interact.
2007-04-09 15:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else to spend time with
2007-04-09 15:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of our situation, we are never alone. Someone (GOD) is watching over you.
2007-04-09 15:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be there for yourself.
2007-04-09 16:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still have us here
2007-04-09 15:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋