Family & Relationships - 29 March 2007

my husband & i have been haveing a few problems & i haven't felt that close to him the past week or so...
last night i woke up out of a bad dream to my husband trying to "get some"... i don't know if he was fully awake or not... but as our intimacy has been a bit lacking lately & i had been having a bad dream, i pulled away & told him to "stop!" a few times, but he wouldn't.

there's a couple things that make this all worse. one is that, about a decade ago, i woke up at a party to being raped by a so-called friend of mine. another is that my ex-husband rougly forced me a few times during fights.

i don't know what to do! i don't know how to bring it up, since i'm not even sure he was fully awake. i just feel sorta hollow & detached now, and used, and depressed....

please help me sort this out & figure out what to do & say...
:(
thank you

2007-03-29 03:33:35 · 19 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6 in Marriage & Divorce

If a girl is very pretty but a few pounds overweight (maybe 10-15) would you still be attracted?
Or what if she's very pretty but has acne, not extreme but in one area, say cheeks.
Or what if she was really hairy? LOL
I'm wondering what the limit is for men.
I'm just talking physical here, on first looks, not personality.

2007-03-29 03:31:51 · 13 answers · asked by Jukebox 5 in Singles & Dating

Ok so last night she says she loves me, she tried to have sex with me but i wasnt in the mood. This mornin she says she loves me before i left for work. I called around 9 just to tell her i love her and she wouldnt say it back. Later she text me and says she loves me but she dont think she is in love anymore. This has happened 3 times already. What can i do? And im not tryin to just let her go, we have so much. You could look at us and see the love, we are really good together.

2007-03-29 03:30:31 · 17 answers · asked by importracer_6969 1 in Singles & Dating

My friend has been going out with this guy for three months and she doesn't want to break up with him, because she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. She also likes two other guys one that she just met and the other one that she thought was related to her. What should she do?

2007-03-29 03:30:16 · 16 answers · asked by LaCrazy 1 in Singles & Dating

When we are together, its fantastic, and i really feel he is my boyfriend, likes me and cares about me. He keeps telling me that. But he went away for two weeks, i hardly hear from him, i receive some kind of official sms every day or every other day, he only called me once. I am starting to wonder if the guy is never there, than he isn't my boyfriend. I never called him, only texted him once, but he knows how strong i feel for him, i told him before.
Shall i start looking for someone else? We discussed before that i wanted more attention and contact, and he was ok to do it, but he isn't showing interest much...

2007-03-29 03:29:38 · 12 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Singles & Dating

people say i dress like a whore and everything because i love short skrtis and short. Tube tops etc. I like it becasue i feel good in it and i love people looking at me

2007-03-29 03:28:54 · 26 answers · asked by lil_angel_babe2008 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

how do i calm down? i cant stop talking and it is annoying people and some are not even listening to me

2007-03-29 03:27:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Okay here it is short and sweet. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years. Granted we have been on and off but then again it was mostly in our teens. Now that we are both living adult life styler, I work 2 jobs, he works 1. We also are living together (which i might add we moved into 3 months ago). Now, the problem is, is his drinking. He swears he doesn't have a problem but it just seems whenever I'm gettting out of work there he is with a beer. And for me, I'll admit I'm a smoker* so okay he might just be relaxing. But now when I come home after 13 hour day I should be able to make something and sit down and plan ol relax. Now, i don't know what i should do because rememebre we have beentogether for 7 years so I do love him very much. But i also don't know how i can get him to see that he isn't bringing anything to the table but stress that i don't need. Now i want him to change but i'm sure he can . .what do u think .. any ideas stories and so forth please let me in!

2007-03-29 03:27:06 · 5 answers · asked by tluckie313 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-29 03:26:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I dunno, on one hand it seems like it would be fun. But on the other maybe its a little much for people who are still trying to get to know each other and etc.?? Does it matter there will lots of alcohol everywhere and drunken people everywhere?? What do you think? Or should we start off with something a little more standard.
I don't want to give the wrong impression on a first date and want him to take me seriously. Or in other words will he respect me less I go to a nightclub with him on first date?

P.S. - the nightclub idea was a mutual one....as we were just tossin out ideas of what we might like to do. THANKS :)

2007-03-29 03:23:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-29 03:22:14 · 15 answers · asked by karthikraj222 1 in Marriage & Divorce

me and my husband have been together four years and married 5 months. I know I love ihm, but i dont feel like i have passion for him anymore, im not intrested in sex and I feel like we fight quite a bit. he is very insequre despite my hard efforts. he always thinks im cheating on him though i am not. I dont know what to do. Is it normal to feel this way about your husband

2007-03-29 03:21:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friend Paula and her boyfriend Tim have been together for about 3 years. And about 4 months ago, i started noticing something. At first it was small like they'd say something they agreed on and quietly said ' lets have sex when these people leave" and stuff. then they would start running upstairs when they were happy with each other or something or wanted to ( when you were sitll over) and have sex. then they got so passionate that they would just like stipe right there and start vionatly having sex. ( not like vilontly, i guess more " passionatly"). how should i talk to paula about this or shouldn't I? what should i do? or should i do anything?

thanks and paula's 24 and her bf is 2

2007-03-29 03:21:24 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ Ava ♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

Its still spring break..

And i was planning to stay home all day and finish beating the lakebed temple in Zelda Tp today,But im feeling quite ballsy and i think i could talk to girl(in person) today.

But i dont know where girls are @?

The mall is too dangerous for a dork like me.BTW

Is tehre a safe place to meet girls?

2007-03-29 03:20:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've known this guy for a week, not in anyway to do with dating or anything, but he constantly tells me about his ex girlfriends (all beautiful, of course, and intelligent and successful, as described by him) and his occasional sexual encounters. I now pretty much know his whole relationship history after about four days. Why would you tell a near stranger these things? Is it a sort of, I hope you don't think I'd be attracted to you thing, or a trying to impress thing, or is it just self-obsession?

2007-03-29 03:19:22 · 30 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Singles & Dating

My wife cannot let go of the past. She saw her mother die a horrible death through alcohol and her father basically blamed her for moving away (we were in the states but returned), she also lost many relatives in a short amount of time. She never spoke much about any of it because we had a young child and she had to be strong for her. She fell pregnant and she was like a woman possessed. She said she could not have the baby as she was going to be like her mother etc. I think she had a nervous breakdown. Anyway she miscarried but she became deeply depressed. I had to go away for a couple of months and she had an online "affair". When I confronted her she said it made her feel loved and needed. This was eight years ago and she cannot let go. She drinks on and off and has changed from a caring, loving wife and mother to a distant stranger. Counselling does not help. She says it best that I have custody and she start a new life. I think it best but I worry about her.

2007-03-29 03:19:02 · 12 answers · asked by Diane 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-29 03:18:17 · 38 answers · asked by Birdy 1 in Singles & Dating

My Brother just died in a car crash how do I deal with this pain It hurts so bad.

2007-03-29 03:16:51 · 10 answers · asked by playa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

am contemplating of taking a wife younger than my age, any comments? you may point the disadvantages for me and for my future partner.

2007-03-29 03:16:32 · 12 answers · asked by jhong 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my mother in law is 80 yrs old, shes had 5 heart attacks in the past year,i know its hard but i think they should let her go, because the poor woman is suffering so bad,and she cant take much more,her kids wants to keep her around , which is very understandable, but shes in more pain each and every day, she died monday night but the doctor brought her back,so my question is would you let her go on to heaven or lay down here and suffer with pain each and every day.

2007-03-29 03:15:35 · 37 answers · asked by pinkice430 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Since strokin your rod is so natural and harmless then what is it that you fantasize about while doing it?Is it you wife/gf,some other female,animals lol or what?

2007-03-29 03:15:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I personally think the Monkeys are the most fun. Every spring, I like to set up my lawn chair in front of the Gorillas, and watch them go at it. I always bring snacks to watch, and my radio, so that it sets the mood.

Is there anyone else out there that enjoys watching the animals mate? Do you cheer them on (like me) when they're REALLY going at it?

2007-03-29 03:14:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Row 1:
Last week, my guy friend brought up sth bad that I've done 7 years ago, of which I couldn't even remember doing it. He said I said sth to break his relationship with the other 3 girls. I asked him how can I mend this, but he never respond. But da past whole week, he kept nagging me bout it.

Row 2:
Later last year, he told me he was in a bad time becoz of some certain issues. But I was also in a bad time becoz I'd just lost my grandma, so I didn't really pay attention to his problem. Anyway, he mentioned about his problem again last week. And he asked me if I remember what he said last year N when I said no,he got upset. He said he only told it to a selected few people. I also said I thought he lied (as that's what he likes doing), so I didn't pay attention. Then he got really mad.

Da Last Episode:
I told him not to be such a drama queen. Da result? He cursed "F U" n yell at me. Now, I'm really hurt. I might be outspoken but he should know I really care bout him

2007-03-29 03:12:38 · 5 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Singles & Dating

Well worst fears in getting married is what if this guy I marry turns into a nasty beast and starts abusing me physically, emotionally and stuff or murders me??

How do I get over this fear, or what warning signs should I look out for as I date this guy?

Should I do the Brad Pitt and Angie JOlie thing and just not get married but keep a romantic relationship?

2007-03-29 03:12:06 · 35 answers · asked by wildncrazysurvivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a close friend at university and she is so friendly, I'm attracted to her, but she has a boyfriend outside uni and I'm completely cool with that and us being just really good friends. The funny thing is that even though she has a boyfriend, she constantly gives me hugs, we walk arm in arm, hold hands, she has sat on my lap a couple of times at parties etc. Shes not the flirtatious type either.. its just with me really. Usually this increases if we have had a few drinks. I'm happy as it is, but I was wondering why she would be like this if she has a bf?

I completely would never try to steal her from her bf or anything, I like her as a friend too much to do something like that. I think it would be harsh on the bf too. But is it wrong, should I avoid getting too close?

2007-03-29 03:09:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

its a VERY long story so ill cut it short!
about 5 years ago i was going out with my mates brother, we were very on and off because basically he didnt want to grow up! after we finished i had a few boyfriends but we always ended getting back togetha afte the relationships finished and i always loved him, last weekend i seen him out and now he is in a relationship but he said hes always wanted me and still fancies me etc.. his sister said to me she thinks we will always end up going back to each other. do u think this means somethin as its been going on for so long, or is it just the 1st love thing???? im now 24 and hes 27

2007-03-29 03:09:06 · 10 answers · asked by BscHons 6 in Singles & Dating

Ha s some of you had a bad services or ever get involve wiv unwanted visitors like social services.? I would like to no more about them and I will read later your post.

2007-03-29 03:08:30 · 3 answers · asked by chinky69 1 in Family

I have tried severally to let go but i find myself going back to him. And believe me, I am not obsessed one bit. I simply dont know what will happen if I eventually let go. Right now, I am a mess.

2007-03-29 03:08:30 · 24 answers · asked by simplynuttie 1 in Singles & Dating

I would like to invite my dad's boss who is someone I have known for several years, to the reception but he is dating a woman that I refuse to have anywhere around on our special day. I know that whoever is put on the outside of the envelope is who is invited and I plan to just put my dad's bosses name on the envelope but if this person RSVPs back as two people coming or worse yet--this person that I don't want there shows up with him even though the RSVP was for one person, which is entirely possible because that is something that this woman would do, how do I handle that without ruining the whole day? My dad's boss is aware of my wishes not to have anything to do with his girlfriend therefore there will be no friction between my dad and his boss. I will know that this woman is there--the reception is not all that large and she is a very very very loud woman. They do not live togehter--they are just dating.

2007-03-29 03:08:04 · 16 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Weddings

2007-03-29 03:06:54 · 7 answers · asked by shug 1 in Marriage & Divorce