I have tried severally to let go but i find myself going back to him. And believe me, I am not obsessed one bit. I simply dont know what will happen if I eventually let go. Right now, I am a mess.
2007-03-29 03:08:30 · 24 answers · asked by simplynuttie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let him fly>? so he dumped u? OK .move on........find someone that WANTS you..not that doesn't want you////
2007-03-29 03:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him so much you cry thinking about him but you're not obsessed? Yes you are, Sweetheart. What do you mean, you keep going back to him? Literally or figuratively?
If literally, why do you go in the first place? Is that reason likely to change? Is it him, ending it one minute then asking you back the next ?
You don't go into much detail, but it sounds as if he's playing some kind of game with you, and that is never good, Babes. You need to make a clean break, get away and stay away. Life is too short and men can be cruel, none of them are worth messing your head or your life up over. (Yes, I know this applies to women too).
2007-04-03 19:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may really be in a mess right now but believe me,you can be happier without him. He left you because he obviously did not feel the same way you do about him.It is useless crying or going back to some one who does not love you. Trying to renew your relationship or brooding over him will only make you more miserable. Accept it that he did love you but he is over you. Some times we interpret sex as love. We ladies think we can get and keep a guy with good sex. If a guy does not love you,nothing else can replace that love not even sex.The only way a guy can prove true love is by making a commitment which he did not do. Bottom line he does not love you or deserve you, stop wasting your energy on him.
2007-03-29 10:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's nothing wrong with that being in love doesn't mean you're obssess. I know I do that too. But it's not that you're wondering what will happen afterwards is that you don't want to let go, your heart is still hoping things will change for the good of both of you together and that will last and for him to love you as much as you with the same intensity.
2007-03-29 10:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Guilligan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh, this isn't the way love should be, you shouldn't be crying and you're in a relationship. It's not doing you one bit of good. My advice is that you stand, objective, outside the situation and imagine your best friend is telling you this problem. What advice would you give her? You'd have her best interests at heart so obviously would want her to make a choice to bring her happiness, even if there is short-term pain. So - would you take your own advice?
2007-03-29 10:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him so much are you definitely doing the right thing by not being with him? If it is the right thing, try to make sure you've got one or two close friends that can help lift your spirits - don't spend ages trying to talk things through to get over it, have your cry and then look to the future, do new things meet new people. Good luck!
2007-03-29 10:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by stick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, and I mean this, take whatever cash you have, or use your credit card if you have one and take at least a weeks holiday out of the country. Go on your own if you have to (although a friend is always better) and you will really distract yourself, because that is the key, you need to give yourself time to get used to not thinking about him. But your routine woun't allow you that.
2007-03-29 10:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, someone I care soo much about is moving out of state soon and I'm a little down, but I know I can now have closure. I know what's it like to be in a mess over someone. You really need friends and family, in order to recoperate. It'll take sometime, but you'll be feeling fine soon enough.
2007-03-29 10:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
breaking up is really really tough. But i promise you it isn't the end of the world. In a couple of months time you'll forget how sad and desperate you feel right now. Time puts everything to rights.
I suggest letting go. If he needs to 'fly' you have to let him!
It will get easier!
2007-03-29 10:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he dont like u, ur relationship wont last long. Just forget about him, try search for more new guys, there sure will be a suitable guy for u. Dont be like me, for a girl i nearly messed up with other things, just take a deep breath, and move on.
2007-03-29 10:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man once that I thought I couldn't live with out. Every time we argued. He would leave the house. I would hunt him down. I was not obsessed. I just didn't want to live with out him.
Then, I grew up. LOL
2007-03-29 10:12:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋