I have a close friend at university and she is so friendly, I'm attracted to her, but she has a boyfriend outside uni and I'm completely cool with that and us being just really good friends. The funny thing is that even though she has a boyfriend, she constantly gives me hugs, we walk arm in arm, hold hands, she has sat on my lap a couple of times at parties etc. Shes not the flirtatious type either.. its just with me really. Usually this increases if we have had a few drinks. I'm happy as it is, but I was wondering why she would be like this if she has a bf?
I completely would never try to steal her from her bf or anything, I like her as a friend too much to do something like that. I think it would be harsh on the bf too. But is it wrong, should I avoid getting too close?
2007-03-29 03:09:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to happydayz: I really can't bring myself to mention anything to her in case things get awkward. I don't actually want to go out with her even though I do have feelings for her. I learned from my last relationship. I was great friends with my ex gf before we went out and since we broke up we hardly talk because it's too awkward. I don't want a rerun.
2007-03-29 03:24:47 · update #1
Sounds to me like you should back off a little. Don't stop hanging out with her just avoid the physical contact a little. Let her know without actually saying it that her doing those things makes you uncomfortable. I would leave it as it is "a good friendship" and not pursue anything further.
You have to wonder about a girl like this. If you two were to have a relationship down the line either physical or a long term committed one what's to say she wouldn't start to do the same thing with another guy.
I think she does like you, but only a little bit. She doesn't want to be with you she wants her boyfriend but he isn't there and you are. Since you guys are such good friends she know she can act like this and get away with it. She just likes the attention and thinks you're kind of a "safe zone". She knows you'll give her the attention but wont put your friendship on the line by trying to take things further.
In a way she's kind of taking advantage of you whether she knows it or not. I'd either talk to her or cut away from her a little and see what happens.
Sorry this was so long haha. Good Luck!! ^_^
2007-03-30 02:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bonzilla!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by getting too close? Love? If yes then ask her if she loves you. Or if you just want her as a friend then no problem. Continue friendship.
2007-03-29 03:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Intensive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..Let me see. I think you should know more about her boyfriend . Because normally a girl which hv gf already wont simply let another guy touch here touch there. Or maybe she only think you are her friend. We wont know. Only u and her and her bf knows about it. Or u can ask her whether her bf know about u.
2007-03-29 03:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware! Friends don't behave like this. Hugs are ok but the other stuff is going to far. I know I've been there myself.
2007-03-29 03:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to ask yourself first...Could you have more bf-gf type feelings for her? Then you should sit down and have a heart to heart with her...If you're such good friends, I don't think it could hurt.
2007-03-29 03:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by happydayz_hereforgood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm...don't get too close to her.She's got a bf!Talk to her and ask her who she really loves provided that you dare to.If not,just try to avoid her.
2007-03-29 03:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by fadingoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT THEN TELL HER TO STOP BECAUSE SHE HAS A BF OR JUST TRY TO AVIOD HER DOING THOSE THINGS TO YOU. YOU DON'T HAVE TO AVOID HER JUST THE THINGS SHE DOES. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-29 03:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your problem, handle it!
2007-03-29 03:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!
2007-03-29 03:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋