its a VERY long story so ill cut it short!
about 5 years ago i was going out with my mates brother, we were very on and off because basically he didnt want to grow up! after we finished i had a few boyfriends but we always ended getting back togetha afte the relationships finished and i always loved him, last weekend i seen him out and now he is in a relationship but he said hes always wanted me and still fancies me etc.. his sister said to me she thinks we will always end up going back to each other. do u think this means somethin as its been going on for so long, or is it just the 1st love thing???? im now 24 and hes 27
2007-03-29 03:09:06 · 10 answers · asked by BscHons 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not pursuing him, i know the girl i used to work with her and as i dont even know if i would get back with him anyway i wouldnt interfere in their relationship.
2007-03-29 03:16:20 · update #1
Personally, i've never been a huge fan of on and off relationships. if it had to end then it was not worth getting back together. but i've found that sometimes the connection is too deep to break it off just like that. and going back is easier than being without that person.
i think you guys should sit together and seriously talk about your relationship. where it is where it is going and what it could be.
perhaps you'll continue like this forever and when you're both and and grey you'll be together. maybe you'll always just be friends. but ultimately it comes down to how you both feel about each other. do you want to be with him on and off the rest of your life? should you just break it off completely now? or do you want to try at a relationship?.....
i vote you guys just give it one last and final try. dont go breaking up for petty things, but if you break up again because niether of you are happy. then just gracefully move on.
good luck!
2007-03-29 03:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that some people use and they say that love can do strange things to people but I am not sure whether I believe that or not. So there is a pattern between you and this guy getting back together after you and him have had a few relationships, does not seem like it could be uncommon. You know that he is in a relationship and you don't want to do anything that will break that up, if his relationship does not work out with his current date then he will come to you, eventhough he still tells you that he fancies you. Trying to get back with him when he is in a relationship can make things difficult and give you more on your plate then you would want to have. He knows his commitment to his girlfriend, just as it would be if he were with you.
2007-03-29 10:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 16 I lived next door to a boy whom I adored. This went on for almost 2 years! He would come around often. I would get mad coz he started ignoring me. So I would date some one else! Then, he told my brother he was upset that I was out on a date. But said "She always comes back to me." Well I took off running. I never went out with him again!
2007-03-29 10:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation (actually, recently).
Bottom line: He's with someone now so do not pursue him.
If he has been on/off all these years, do you think he will change?
My guy didn't. Sure he said he wanted to be with me an dhe loved me and was in love with me but when push came to shove, he did nothing to break up with his girlfriend and once again, blew me off (on/off).
So i told him, no more.
I care for him but i'm not going to keep putting myself through the heartache.
2007-03-29 10:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a first love thing - he has a place in your heart that no one else could ever have, but he has no place in your life, nor you in his.
the reason you kept breaking up is because you are not meant to be.
i know its hard, but you will meet the right guy really soon and your memories of this guy will remain that - memories
Good luck x
2007-03-29 10:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by laneyb_1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I would give it a miss third time round and all that - sounds like he is liking you 'by leaving you holding on by a thread' - in hope so to speak. Let him and his sister be aware that you have now moved on and looking at pastures new.
2007-03-29 11:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to get together and see if it is going to work out or split for good as friends. its not fair to keep comparing your bf and gf to each other. call him today and tell him you are ready to see if it is meant to be and you are sick of wasting time.
2007-03-29 10:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by misse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tricky one.. but try not being the reason he breaks someones heart.. who knows it could be an infactuation.. he probably could be in a perfect relationship and doesnt know it.. u could end up breakin up somthin perfect
2007-03-29 10:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe You drove him mad so He didn't want to commit, and now He's found a girl who really makes him happy. Just a thought.
2007-03-29 10:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think at this age you should be able to make up your mind.
2007-03-29 10:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋