I've known this guy for a week, not in anyway to do with dating or anything, but he constantly tells me about his ex girlfriends (all beautiful, of course, and intelligent and successful, as described by him) and his occasional sexual encounters. I now pretty much know his whole relationship history after about four days. Why would you tell a near stranger these things? Is it a sort of, I hope you don't think I'd be attracted to you thing, or a trying to impress thing, or is it just self-obsession?
2007-03-29 03:19:22 · 30 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one he might want to fill you in on his past and just talking to you about his love life so you can know, or he's not interested if your not on the same level as these other women my advice is to keep it moving! just say NEXT!
2007-03-29 03:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kbella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be all of those things together, or maybe he just needs someone to talk to so he can figure out what he needs to do, advice is great to give when you know what to say to someone who is in this situation. Which brings up the point of being strangers, it is not necessarily about if you would or would not tell a stranger sometimes, it could be a spare of the moment kind of thing, even if he is trying to impress you do you think it is working and if so playing easy gets him more access to you. If it is the I am not attracted to you thing, then it could be he is not in it for another relationship right now, if he is obsessed with these things then he needs help and not just from someone that he sees everyday. You have to determine in the amount of time that you have known him which one of these he is most after or consider the fact that he might be just trying to find a friend.
2007-03-29 10:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say by reading your statement that he's completely self-obsessed and he's exaggerating those "encounters" just a little bit too much. If all of his girlfriends were 'beautiful, intelligent and successful"...then sounds like Mr. Tell All is on an ego trip. Those girls probably weren't half of what he said, but he's obviously trying to build himself up to impress you. Whether you want to deal with that type of egoistic guy...is up to you.
2007-03-29 10:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impress
2007-03-29 10:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he's trying to impress you. Though this generally isn't the kind of thing a girl likes to know, this is the kind of thing a guy likes to tell... a lot.
2007-03-29 10:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet money that what he's been saying probably isn't true. Men who brag about things usually nothing is going on, and they need something to help them feel better....? He's probably thinking that if he tells these stories, whomever he's with will "flock" to him and give him all kinds of attention etc. I've dated men like that, but I do soon find out they're usually full of it in other ways, you know?
2007-03-29 10:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people/strangers are easy to approach and just talk to and you may be one of those people..do others do this with you? I bet they do sometimes..
Sometimes it's easier to tell a stranger things, even personal things bc they don't know you and you prob won't judge them or try to "fix" them or offer unsolicited advice
I believe it's that simple bc I have done it too; many have i would believe.
2007-03-29 10:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants attention. He is not discreet. Every time he talks about some other girl, picture the kind of things he would say about you behind your back.
Is this a person who is worthy of love? I seriously doubt that. He needs to grow up and learn right from wrong, in what he says and does.
2007-03-29 10:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Demeanor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's probably the self-obsession. A lot of self-centered people like to talk about themselves in any way in any situation. Unlucky you! Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-29 10:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard to say really Katrina, but my guess is the guy wants to see if you will join in and tell him all about your sexual escapades and then he will slowly try and coerce you into being friends with benefits.
He's using a tactic I call the "buddy approach"...its where you become pals with a girl and then try and get sex with them on buddy-type basis...no strings and all that....
he's not fooling anyone girl!
2007-03-29 10:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my x did the same to me at the beggining of the relationship he would tell me and my friend when we would hang out about his pas relationships. or these girls that he fcuked. it was annoying and i did not want to hear it. he honestly thought i would! So one night my friend got feed up with it and ask "did you actually love any of them or did you just fcuk them? and started telling him off saying we don't wanna hear about this she is with you now! it is not a cool thing to constantly talk about your x's like that." i thought the whole thing was funny when she went off on him but she had a point. it is not somehting you wanna nessciarlly hear. i mean some people are into but not alot. so he probably honestly thinks you don't mind and you wanna hear aobut. if you have a problem about it. just tell him nicely please, i really don't want to hear that.
2007-03-29 10:26:26 · answer #11 · answered by chef_05_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋