Okay here it is short and sweet. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years. Granted we have been on and off but then again it was mostly in our teens. Now that we are both living adult life styler, I work 2 jobs, he works 1. We also are living together (which i might add we moved into 3 months ago). Now, the problem is, is his drinking. He swears he doesn't have a problem but it just seems whenever I'm gettting out of work there he is with a beer. And for me, I'll admit I'm a smoker* so okay he might just be relaxing. But now when I come home after 13 hour day I should be able to make something and sit down and plan ol relax. Now, i don't know what i should do because rememebre we have beentogether for 7 years so I do love him very much. But i also don't know how i can get him to see that he isn't bringing anything to the table but stress that i don't need. Now i want him to change but i'm sure he can . .what do u think .. any ideas stories and so forth please let me in!
2007-03-29 03:27:06 · 5 answers · asked by tluckie313 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also i should add that we have really bad trust issues for what has happened with the both of us in the past but I know I have changed to make things work I jsut don't know what to do with him anymore. .its either he's hott or he's cold! and somehow its my fault. .which i know it isn't but to him its always ME! what should i do!
2007-03-29 03:46:18 · update #1
Ask him if he can limit the drinking - like maybe to only on days off. See if he can handle that.
2007-03-29 03:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and sweet: your past is of no importance. You future is.
If he is not fitting into your idea of what you would like the future to be, find someone who is. If being comfortable with the situation is more important than being comfortable with the rest of your life, stay with him. Make the concessions, but don't ever expect your influence to make him change.
Accept him or reject him, but don't let the past influence your decision. Remember that you can't live in the past -- only the future matters. Good luck.
2007-03-29 10:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never change another adult, and if this is the only way you can really love him, you should cut your losses now, and move on to someone else who actually does make you happy.
2007-03-29 10:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven years is a long time. Drinking can be a major problem. Give it awhile, if he doesn't straighten out give a ultimatum and see what he does. Then make your decision.
2007-03-29 10:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say exactly what you said up here to him! Its short sweet and simple. Dude your making a mess out of our relationship! Good luck!
2007-03-29 10:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋