Family & Relationships - 26 March 2007

Recently, my curiousity got the better of me and have ventured into the Internet to hook up (strictly in the electronic sense) with a guy. From the very start, we agreed that it's just gonna be a game between us, nothing more, nothing less. We e-mail each other regularly but it seems like we got stucked at the "teasing" stage. I suppose I am expecting fireworks, even if it's just a game but I doubt if it would ever come to that. I feel like I'm left hanging and it sucks! (for lack of a better word). How do I get out of this without hurting his feelings? He seems to be a really nice guy and admittedly, I do like him. Can you help me please? I really can use some words of wisdom right now. Many thanks.

And NO, I'm not looking for new playmates. I've learned my lesson.

2007-03-26 08:54:01 · 5 answers · asked by tin2 5 in Singles & Dating

Ok, do you prefer sluts or girls that respect themselves, arent bitches but dont like sleep with you after 2 days.

2007-03-26 08:53:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Years ago, I was friends with a woman, "Alice" who is an aunt of a friend, "Margot". I was always at Margot's house and Alice was there a lot as well, and we got to know each other well. Margot moved away to NY and Alice moved to Florida and I have not spoken to Alice very much since they both moved. I speak with Margot all the time, but I have not seen or spoken to Alice since Margot's wedding a few years ago. This weekend I heard from Margot that Alice was diagnosed with terminal cancer and they are not sure how long she has. They have looked into care facilities as well as considered funeral plans.

Margot gave me Alice's phone number at the hospital in Florida, and I want to call but I am not sure what to say. The only reason we haven't spoken much is because of the geographic distance (there are no hard feelings or anything between us). Margot says that Alice has not always been "with it" lately (the cancer is in her brain), so I am totally at a loss for what to say. Please help.

2007-03-26 08:53:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

He is about 17..and I'm 14..how do I amke myself attractive to him?

2007-03-26 08:53:10 · 5 answers · asked by evil_loony_leo 2 in Singles & Dating

A good friend of mine has gotten new friends and spends all of her free time with them. We used to see eachother all of the time, but now she spends her time with them. She and I talk on the phone almost daily, like we used to still. But, she never invites me to go anywhere with her new group of friends. It's not that I would actually want to, because I don't like these friends. I think they are for lack of better word "trashy". I've never told her that or hinted at that thought around her. I just think it would be nice if she tried to include me. I would always include her when I would hang with other people. I wish she wouldn't deal with these people and things would be like they were before. What do I do? I've tried to talk to her about hanging out but she is always with them.

2007-03-26 08:53:04 · 3 answers · asked by confused soul 2 in Friends

2007-03-26 08:52:45 · 53 answers · asked by !!!Amber-Gina!!! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What did they contribute to family life?

2007-03-26 08:52:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

does it annoy you when your husband / wife or partner ,
when talking about your car, house anthing that the two of you own together as, theres and not ours .
i no its a figure of speach put can pis* you off sometimes , anybody get the same from there other half.

2007-03-26 08:52:40 · 14 answers · asked by fafandloo 5 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf breaks up wit me 4 a stupid reason then a week later he asks me back out.

2007-03-26 08:52:30 · 4 answers · asked by The Jonas Brothers Rule!!!!! 2 in Singles & Dating

i am single and in search of my soulmate when will i find her

2007-03-26 08:52:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend cheated on me with two women. They both never knew about me and thought he was going to marry them. The one got a hold of my number and called me and said, "I should stay away from her fiance." She made him call me and tell me that he loves her and I need to stop wanting him. I was shocked. I mean I live with him but he kept saying I am lying. He told me while the other woman was on the phone that he never loved me that I kept pushing to be with him. I called his mom because I am very close to his mom and his mom put him on three way and he said, "he only dated me because there was pressure from his family to date a beautiful, educated, career woman but he never loved me." I was hurt because we were about to buy a house together and I am pregnant. I will abort this baby. Now there is another one who is calling me and cursing me out. I told him to keep her away from me. I stood up for her again and shamed me again. I cried and cried. What do I do?

2007-03-26 08:52:23 · 11 answers · asked by Pepua 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok ihave an ex and we went out for 1 year and 5 months we broke up because he moved only 25 minutes away and the distance was too hard. I'm gonna see him this weekend so how do i get him back and this might sound crazy but i'm in love and i want him back so how do i do that this weekend
we dont drive and go to different schools

2007-03-26 08:52:16 · 23 answers · asked by thankgodhe'smine 2 in Singles & Dating

My Brother just got home from over seas and barely spent any time with me. He only visited my mom and our other sister but barely saw me or my dad. We all used to have a good relationship and now hes mean. I know I should just be happy hes home and let him do whatever makes him happy butI was the one that cried eveyday he was over there my sister didnt even care. I through a pary for him and he didnt even show up he went out with my sister. I am soooo mad I just want to ignore him or punch him in the face but he leaves again tomorrow so I dont want him to leave on bad terms just incase something happens to him...what should I do?

2007-03-26 08:52:02 · 9 answers · asked by yoyo 2 in Family

I have a 3 year old son and to be honest I don't think it would matter if I was about or, he's not interested in me.

He is so attached to his mum, Like he cries looking her first thing in the morning, he cries looking her when she goes to work, he has never once cried looking me.

He stays at his grans during the day as we both work but he never wants to come home, he follows his grandad everywhere, its like my wifes Dad is his father figure, And when he does come home in the evening he falls asleep, I see about 30min of him in a day.

Weekends is the same, he wants to go to grandads and he screems until he gets. Infact he even gets on with my wifes brothers better than me, he honestly is not interested in me. I try playing with him, buy him toys but again hes not interested.

What am I doing wrong? My wifes pregnant and due in 2 wks, I hope this isn't gonna be the same as him

2007-03-26 08:50:41 · 16 answers · asked by danny d 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Im having trouble with a friend of mine. We've been fighting a lot lately. Im sure the fights are occuring because im really insecure about our friendship and hes inconsiderate of my feelings. Which i have told him. I've told him plenty of times what it is that makes me insecure, and what hurts me. His actions make me think that he doesn't really care about me therefore i get insecure, and we fight. Hes getting really tired of me, and im tired of it too. Deep down i think he does care about me, but sometimes signs just point to no, and i flip! I want to stop. I want to get over it but its hard. We've been best friends for a year, he says we are not as close because my fighting. how can i fix this before he leaves forever? before i ruin it. how do i get over it and move forward. i dont want to lose my best friend.

2007-03-26 08:50:10 · 8 answers · asked by Youll See 4 in Friends

people say that you shouldn't beat your kids when they misbehave. But when i was little I got spanked nad I turned out fine. what is your opinions??

2007-03-26 08:50:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My boyfriend cheated on me with two women. They both never knew about me and thought he was going to marry them. The one got a hold of my number and called me and said, "I should stay away from her fiance." She made him call me and tell me that he loves her and I need to stop wanting him. I was shocked. I mean I live with him but he kept saying I am lying. He told me while the other woman was on the phone that he never loved me that I kept pushing to be with him. I called his mom because I am very close to his mom and his mom put him on three way and he said, "he only dated me because there was pressure from his family to date a beautiful, educated, career woman but he never loved me." I was hurt because we were about to buy a house together and I am pregnant. I will abort this baby. Now there is another one who is calling me and cursing me out. I told him to keep her away from me. I stood up for her again and shamed me again. I cried and cried. What do I do?

2007-03-26 08:50:05 · 26 answers · asked by Pepua 1 in Singles & Dating

O.K.-I've been married 17yrs.,I'm pretty good looking(not vein!)yusta be called barbie in my day-not THAT long ago-I'm 40 now, but still look young-My husband will put me down in way's, like "your an idiot,say's"dit!" when I try to talk to him sometime's,I'm not stupid,wrong to be treated this way-but, for the last 4months, I've been ill, w/ a prolapsed uterus&bladder&Endometriosis(very painful)He drink's(I don't, anymore), & last nite he pop's up w/ (out of the blue) about how I don't put"love" into dinner,maybe I should get a girlfriend!(God help him,if he did!) Duh! we have'nt had sex,Can't, but, (I'm a mom/housewife)if he'd have got a job w/ Insurance I would'nt have to wait 'yill JULY!! for a hysterectomy! I'm realizing he's alway's been a taker NOT a giver, I have! i GUESS i'M ASKING, Are there still any men out there who are'nt so SELF absorbed?? & what do you think of a person like this-seriously??

2007-03-26 08:49:58 · 12 answers · asked by mgle3 2 in Marriage & Divorce

The US Census Reports and US National Divorce Statistics at present show that Christians in particular the evangelical and southern baptist sects have the highest rate. It is even HIGHER than couples professiing no relgious affiliation or to be atheist. Even more surprising its the conservative RED state- Texas and not California, New York or even Nevada that is the LEADING divorce state in the USA. How come?

This is my theory....
(1) The "no sex before marriage" thing is making young people marry too soon and too young to the first person they fall in love with. They cannot date around nor discover if they are sexually compatible first.
(2) Today when folks discover the marriage was a mistake, they are NOT going to stick it out like our grand parents used to. My grandmother stayed with a TERRIBLE abusive husband for 50 years until she died of cancer. Women today expect more out of life.
(3) So called "ex-gay" Christians can't stick it out either.
What's your theories folks?

2007-03-26 08:49:15 · 10 answers · asked by jessicabjoseph 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Im not very good at telling people how I feel.....I just dont understand why he is flirting with me so much and wanting to go to breakfast or lunch or to get a coffee with me (He is a recruitor and NO I CANT BE RECRUITED IM TOO OLD AND A SINGLE MOM AND NEED TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT)

2007-03-26 08:48:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Please this is tearing me up inside,
I need advise & I know what I'm about
to say might be long & might even
offend some people but please I'm so
confused & hurt & I just need some
guidance on what to do.

I am currently in a long term relationship
with my BF. We've been together for 6 years
now. We've had our share of arguments but
we have always worked things out somehow &
have always kept the line of communication
open. I thought he was THE ONE, until certant
things happened & I began to realize over time
that a TRUE LOVE wouldn't do such things to me.
I thought about breaking up back then, but then
he got better. Now the only problem I have is
he thinks I'm too clingy. I had all this love
for him but he doesn't want me to bother him
with too much affection. My other problem is he
doesn't show enough affections to me. Now I'm
beginning to loose those feelings for him, since
I'm not able to express myself to him like how
I'd like to, & I feel he isn't expressing enough
to me. Sometimes, I feel like the reason he
doesn't want me to be like that is because he
wants sex instead. We've been together for 6
years & I have yet to have sex with him. We have
fooled around though.

My other problem is recently I met this guy who is
also in a relationship, & I have really strong
feelings for him. I don't know him completely yet
but all my senses are saying he is THE ONE. I don't
want to ruin anyone's life nor do I want to hurt
anyone. So I have kept it to myself. I have not
told this guy how I felt, because of my delemas
& how complicated it would be to tell such a guy
in his position. (keeping out details due to
length of this question, but it is a very
complicated thing if I was to consider ever
telling this guy)

Because of this I am really considering breaking
up with my BF. I can't stand feeling like this &
I feel like my heart is cheating. The best thing
would be to let my BF go & for him to find someone
better for him. However, we have built so much
together, & I worry about everything that we have
made together will fall apart. I would like to stay
friends & stay co-workers / co-owners of our business
together, but the more I think about it the more I
know he'll be too emotionally hurt to separate the
relationship from other things in our life. Don't
get me wrong, I am not breaking up in hopes of
getting the other guy. I just think it's not fair to
my BF if my feelings are fading for him, & I'm
starting to have feelings for someone else.

For the sake of "What if's" I will say if there was
ever a moment where the truth could come out about
my feelings for this guy, I would like to tell him
but I would not want him to cheat nor would I cheat,
but I would like him to consider, if a relationship
between us is at all possible.

I'm afraid telling this guy about my feelings will
hurt any possibility of a friendship, which is sad
because he's really cool.

Actually this could have been longer because it's
a bit more complicated then this, but this is me
trying to sum everything up.

So I guess what I'm asking is:
1) How do I tell my BF about what I'm feeling?
2) Should I breakup with my BF?
3) Should I tell the guy how I feel about him?

For more information if you want to help me you are
more then welcome to email me. Please, I really need
help.

2007-03-26 08:48:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous0ne 1 in Singles & Dating

I’m looking for some help. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years now. We’ve talked about getting married but it seems that the biggest problem we are going to have is making everyone happy (I know, impossible). His family is very religious, and I (and my family) are not (note: I have not been baptised). I’ve always wanted to get married outside and have a small, short, non-religious ceremony. His family, wants a catholic wedding, in a church. He wants his family to be happy. He is a non-practicing catholic (only goes on major holidays when his family requests his attendance)and I didn’t think it would be an issue to have a non-religious ceremony. However, now his family has made it one.
Converting to Catholicism is not an option as it is not something that I want.
Anyone have any ideas on compromises? I’ve read a lot and most places say that most catholic priests will not do outside weddings. Is this true? Do you have any other ideas? I certainly need help

2007-03-26 08:48:06 · 24 answers · asked by Krystyn W 1 in Weddings

2007-03-26 08:47:59 · 8 answers · asked by Gothics Rule 2 in Family

2007-03-26 08:47:48 · 18 answers · asked by KEVIN A 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-26 08:47:26 · 8 answers · asked by The_Yack_Myster 2 in Singles & Dating

he doesnt drink or smoke he doesnt need new cloths and he doesnt wear any jewllery

2007-03-26 08:46:42 · 14 answers · asked by spencerm 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Did I do something so wrong for him to be so angry?

2007-03-26 08:46:31 · 6 answers · asked by want2no 2 in Singles & Dating

i really like this guy.the thing is he said he likes me and want to take this things slow.i understand that ,but he does call me or even ask me out. when ever we make plans to go out i wouldl not hear from him. he sometime text me and say he is sorry and will make it up to me but never do.what should i do? whats up with him? he claims that he does not have a girlfriend.he said that he doesnt want to get hurt. help me plz.

2007-03-26 08:46:27 · 16 answers · asked by macy 2 in Singles & Dating

my cousin is so depressed, she found out her boyfriend had cheated on her, and when she tried to confront him with it, he said the only reason he had that girlfriend is to get his mind off of her because he thinks about her too much and then he told her too chill or he's gonna break up with her, i dont think she has broken up with him yet, and ever since she has been with him she has been depressed and not as fun, what should i do, i wish she would dump him,, what do i do???

2007-03-26 08:46:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i always seem to get the wrong guys

2007-03-26 08:45:45 · 8 answers · asked by proudvegan12 2 in Singles & Dating