do you support this??

Question

people say that you shouldn't beat your kids when they misbehave. But when i was little I got spanked nad I turned out fine. what is your opinions??

Answer 1

Dont beat but whoop and disipline i got it when i was younger and i turned out ok too.
if u dont whoop them they dont know their boundries and they will run all over you and do what they want
set the limit and when they step out their limit
get em

Answer 2

Okay well here is my take on spanking. I know it used to be the "norm" awhile back however I really don't think it is useful in teaching kids to behave. However there is a big difference I think to in hitting and spanking your child. To me a "spanking" is a swat on the rear as a reminder to "watch it" it dosen't have to be hard just enough to startle them. But to all out hit because you are angry with what they did is wrong. If you are going to get that mad then you need to walk away, if you can, from the situation and cool down. After you have done this then go back and tell them what they did that made you angry and what they can do next time that would be different, which will produce better results for everyone. Kids learn by what they see and oh are they great little sponges! Good luck to you.

Answer 3

There is a huge difference between spanking and beating. When I was a kid, my parents would slap my face if I said something inappropriate or sassed back and my butt was swatted if other things were done. And I did the same when my kids were little and I never had to do more than one swat on the bottom occasionally and they have turned out great (22, 18, 10). Unfortunately the government has stepped in because of people who BEAT their kids and decided that physical punishment is not a good idea, without taking into account that within reason it has been proven to work. I personally can't stand kids today whose parents always "discuss" issues with them or "talk" to them about what they did wrong. Kids so easily tune parents and adults out that it does NO good whatsoever to "talk". And then the rest of society has to deal with the spoiled inconsiderate brats that are everywhere. Good luck to you and God Bless.

Answer 4

there's a difference between beating a child and spanking them. spanking is allowable by law (in the US) beating is not.
when my siblings and i were young--we got beat. with belts, sticks, jumper cables, (whatever my dad could find handy) i turned out ok, but i know i would have been a lot less bitter without the beatings (which were on a very regular basis). i feel that beating someone is just a way to bring them under submission. i don't think its a way that any person should be made to feel. (like you are no more important than an animal) as a matter of fact, i would not even beat an animal like my dad used to beat us kids. (what time he wasn't beating our mother) i feel that, each child can be taught to obey without beating and that if they are--they will grow to become a better generation of people.

Answer 5

There is a fine line between a spanking for correction (done so without anger) and beating a childs rear (done so out of anger)

The fact if a child is spanked when one is angry they tend to spank the child harder then intended leaving marks or bruising, even if not marks or bruising occurs it is done so out of anger and teaches the child that hitting while angry is okay. However if a child is spanked as a consequence and the misbehavior was talked about first on their level and the adult has had time to calm down, then it is a spanking of discipline.

Answer 6

You shouldn't "beat" kids but spankings are perfectly fine. I was spanked as a child and turned out to be fine as well. I don't have any mental problems, I don't blame my parents' spankings on something I've done... People today have become more and more PC and it gets on my nerves. There's nothing wrong with spankings. Period. And no one will ever change my mind on it.

Answer 7

Spanking is never as effective as good parenting. You do not have to spank your children to teach them discipline.

It may sound unrelated, but the horse whisperer showed that a horse can be trained without a whip. If a horse can learn from a human without physical pain or stress than a child should learn that much faster.

You do not teach your children mathematics by spanking them, why try to teach them obedience that way?

As an Assistant Scoutmaster I find that the boys who are not spanked are more gentle and more attentive than the ones that are spanked. We learn from our experiences. Being hit, makes hitting more acceptable.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 8

There's a difference between beating and spanking. I think spanking is just fine, as long as they know why it's being done.

Answer 9

Spanking is completly different then beating! A slap on the butt for something they do when you told them not to,is not hurting them. I got slaped on the mouth when saying a bad word..It surprized me more then hurt me and it got the point across. Theres a fine line between the two and you just need to know not to go over the line.

Answer 10

You have to punish your kids for bad things otherwise they turn out rotten! I was spanked and I love my parents for doing so because I know it trained me to do what is right. I say yes you should spank and punish, but! Beating your child is wrong, so spank with control! ;)

Answer 11

I don't think you should beat your kids. I think spanking is ok. I think you have to have control over them. You cannot just use time outs and take things away. That is just a way for you to raise a heathen. You have to forceful with them sometimes. Abuse is never ok though.