My boyfriend cheated on me with two women. They both never knew about me and thought he was going to marry them. The one got a hold of my number and called me and said, "I should stay away from her fiance." She made him call me and tell me that he loves her and I need to stop wanting him. I was shocked. I mean I live with him but he kept saying I am lying. He told me while the other woman was on the phone that he never loved me that I kept pushing to be with him. I called his mom because I am very close to his mom and his mom put him on three way and he said, "he only dated me because there was pressure from his family to date a beautiful, educated, career woman but he never loved me." I was hurt because we were about to buy a house together and I am pregnant. I will abort this baby. Now there is another one who is calling me and cursing me out. I told him to keep her away from me. I stood up for her again and shamed me again. I cried and cried. What do I do?
2007-03-26 08:52:23 · 11 answers · asked by Pepua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do? Heck, you should get down on your knees and thank God that you found out he's an idiot, before you had a child with him, or bought a home with him. This hurts, but it's waaaayy better than finding out later.
2007-03-26 10:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am so sorry. Being an educated, beautiful career woman like you I can relate to the shame!! I'm right there with you. Abortion is a personal decision and I offer no advice there. If you do decide, make sure you go to a certified clinic and go through some counseling to be sure its what you want to do.
As for him, kick him out or move out yourself. If you can buy the house on your own, do it. If you can't....don't! I would cut myself of all ties with him. Let the other girls have him. Good riddance girlfriend.
Move along to the next one. You're too smart for him anyway.
2007-03-30 15:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i know i can't change your mind to aborting the baby, it just something i never really liked and it was one of god's creation and i just don't know how you can get rid of something growing in your stomach, although it may be hard but theres lots of people who can support you and i know my friend abort her baby and she spent all her lives regerting what she did. Second of all, you should change your apartment so this man doesn't stalk you or the other girls OR change your number. Third of all, if this man tries to get back with you, refuse it. He's not worth it becuase of what he did to you, and there's many other guys out there who would treat you perfectly nice and you totally deserve a man who will treat you with respect and honset.
2007-03-26 16:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a serious question, is his name Bobby?
This exact thing happen to my friend. He is now married to one of those girls that he cheated with but he is still with my friend. He cheated with 2 different girls, got all 3 of them pregnant. He married the one that kept the baby, (says its from pressure) He called my friend and cursed her out over the phone. But still has the nerve to tell her that he loves her up to now.
I can talk to her from now to eternity but she is still seeing him.
I hope you can see that he is not worth it. You seriously need to move on and don't talk to him anymore. Don't make any excuses to see him or talk to him. End the relationship and have nothing to do with him. He does not respect you to do that to you, nor does he love you. I wish you all the best. I know how hard it is. It's painful watching my friend go through this. She is beautiful and smart and can do much better, I don't know why she puts herself through this. I pray that you can get through this and move on.
2007-03-26 16:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Here kitty kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a low life who has used you, dump him and move on with your life. Never under any circumstances should you allow him back into your life. If you do then you have no one to blame other than yourself for your life with him will only get worse from this point. Good luck, toughen up and move on.
2007-03-26 16:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a Drama King, just move on.I for one do not believe in abortion, but it is your life.I know exactly how you feel,I had a cheater for a husband.After my Mom died we gave it a try, but I could not face ever going to my home state and facing those women.He's there and I'm here, as it should be.Pride in yourself, don't lose it ever...
2007-03-26 16:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone you don't need!! You should be happy to pawn off that mess on someone else. It's understandably hard now but be strong and not too long from now you'll be able to look back and be thankfull you're not the one holding the bag....of sh**
2007-03-26 15:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to kill this baby and take your anger out on the child. Just move on he is scum and you know it. Just move on and i am sure there is better past this jerk. But you need to grow up and see what is right before you,and not to lie to yourself and just allow them to walk over you. Just walk past them.
2007-03-26 16:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times you going to ask the same question? Until you get the answer you wanna hear?
2007-03-26 15:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mechelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance.
2007-03-26 16:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋