Im not very good at telling people how I feel.....I just dont understand why he is flirting with me so much and wanting to go to breakfast or lunch or to get a coffee with me (He is a recruitor and NO I CANT BE RECRUITED IM TOO OLD AND A SINGLE MOM AND NEED TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT)
2007-03-26 08:48:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honey first of all, its this simple...your weight should not even be an issue...secondly in the military...adultery is not take lightly..take it from a military wife...so if hes married, just tell him openly and honestly i dont like you like that and you are married so pls stop hitting on me...you dont have to be rude just honest....secondly if he doesnt stop after that then go to the office he works at and tell someone there that he is hitting on you...yes he may get in trouble, but if hes married he deserves it...good luck and remember to stand up for what you believe in....most of us arent good at sharing our feelings its just human nature...
2007-03-26 08:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by cmgrpgdjg0406 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks you'd be a great piece of *** to have on the side. You describe yourself as 'too old' and someone that 'needs to lose weight' so I wonder if he's not only trying to feed your ego, but also selecting someone that he thinks won't say no. So the next time he asks you out to lunch, ask where and when you and your new 'boyfriend' should meet him and his wife. That'll make him pause and think. Don't give this guy too much information about you....he sounds like he could be a manipulator. How do you even come in contact with 'mr. recruitor'?!
2007-03-26 08:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So what if you are a single mom, too old to be recruited and need to lose weight, does that mean you can't attract a man?
Anyways, to answer your question...you need to tell him to stop, get the nerve up and quit being a pushover.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-26 08:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telkl him straight out, in a nice way, you're not into married men. If he gives you bs about being unhappily married then tell him to com around when he is not married and has taken care of his issues. Trust me, you shouldn't worry about not being very good at telling people how you feel. It's easy to tell a married man to get lost! He should be ashamed and embarrassed!
2007-03-26 08:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt and tell him that you go no where with a married man.Straight out will do it.If he's pushy then tell him that being pushy will not get you to change your mind.Stand up for yourself,he is disrespecting you.Be strong.And stay away from that recruiting office, thats why he thinks you like him back.
2007-03-26 09:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his wife. okay maybe not, but i think she has a right to know. just say your not intrested and thats all if you are not good with telling people how i feel. however, if i were in your position i would tell him a lot a stuff like what a cheapo he is. he made a commitment to his wife and if he isn't going to stick with it his wife and be true to her that she has a right to know so that she doesn't have a commitment with him and they can call it quits. though divorce isn't ideal, cheating when you are married is much worse!!
2007-03-26 08:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Independent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the reason why he's flrting with you is because he thinks your cute. he might just want someone to talk to as a friend. if its more than a friend tell him no because hes married and its wrong. you can go out for lunch whatever but tell him you just want to be his friend. about the recruited situation it doesnt matter about the weight situation . if he want to recruite you, go for it.
2007-03-26 08:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Angie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to stay away.What you are doing right now by not telling him anything is that you like him or that you like for him to flirt with you. The sooner you let him know, the better for you, if you really don't want him around you.Just tell his wife.
2007-03-26 08:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he hits on you, ask him how is wife is doing.
Encourage him to take his wife out more as a loving relationship is very important.
And if need be, just tell him no.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 08:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is trying to recruit you, maybe he is interested, turn him off by asking about his family and wife. ask him if he thinks his wife will be ok with you two going out, or ask him if he will be inviting his wife to dinner with you. keep asking about his family and he will be turned off and move on to the next one....im sure you are not the first one. good luck.
2007-03-26 08:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋