My boyfriend cheated on me with two women. They both never knew about me and thought he was going to marry them. The one got a hold of my number and called me and said, "I should stay away from her fiance." She made him call me and tell me that he loves her and I need to stop wanting him. I was shocked. I mean I live with him but he kept saying I am lying. He told me while the other woman was on the phone that he never loved me that I kept pushing to be with him. I called his mom because I am very close to his mom and his mom put him on three way and he said, "he only dated me because there was pressure from his family to date a beautiful, educated, career woman but he never loved me." I was hurt because we were about to buy a house together and I am pregnant. I will abort this baby. Now there is another one who is calling me and cursing me out. I told him to keep her away from me. I stood up for her again and shamed me again. I cried and cried. What do I do?
2007-03-26 08:50:05 · 26 answers · asked by Pepua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not forgive in this case......Honey, you sound so nice, and you sound like you deserve so much better than what you got.......please, move on, find someone who will treat you like an angel, and live happy!
2007-03-26 08:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
R u shore that u want to get an abortion..
He needs to grow up how old is he to let his family tell him what to do?????
U need to get some counseling before u decide on doing anything..
I am so sorry, U didn't deserve this.....
U can get thru this it will make u stronger and a better person He is a a**hole...U will do better there r better men out there that will give u the respect u deserve and more.....
Don't let what his a** did to u change u for the bad make it work for u show ur self that u r better than everyone that has hurt u.... Find God and show that *** he will not get u down...... I know u will b better within time...
Change our phone # and move on u don't need bull like this Life is to short to be wasted on Stupid people...... God is with u!!!!
He'll get his.... What goes around come back around....
I wish u the best..
2007-03-26 16:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am so very sorry. It is so painful to be hurt like that by someone you love and thought loved you. I say he isn't and wasn't worth it. One thing you must never do is take him back. It will take a while before you will be okay with this. It will hurt and you will cry but eventually little by little with time it will get easier. I doubt you will ever forget this but eventually you will be able to deal with this. Think of it this way. Isn't it better you found out now before you moved in and married the guy? As far as abortion goes. I don't know what to tell you. I am against it. I don't think it is fair to make the child pay for he fathers mistake. The child did nothing wrong. But even though that is my thought on it. Your body is YOUR body and in the end it is YOUR decision. You just got to make sure the decision you make you wont regret. I heard before from one of my professors she is a doctor. she said that more than if not around 70% of her patients say they regret their abortions. So you have to decided what is best not just now but for the future. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-26 15:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a real loser & the sooner you get him out of your life the better. He will never change & will never be "husband or father" material. You were on a three way phone chat with his mom & him & you heard what he said. Time to move on & as for your pregnancy, do what you think you have to do. This man is not worth crying over but take comfort in knowing that "what goes around, comes around."
2007-03-26 15:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I got so p!ssed of reading this question!!! \
Do men like this exist, still? Are women daft enough to think he will change after he is forgiven?
Never forgive.
A man who cheats is bad enough but a man who cheats on his woman who is pregnant AND with not one but TWO women is lower than low.
If you best friend was in this situation, what would you advise her?
He's a dog, and that dog may have given you all manner of STD's.
Hm, sounds like a man worth holding onto!
2007-03-26 15:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by RedSnook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety you need to leave him. If you do decide to keep the baby thats fine as long as you can manage on your own because honeslty he sounds no good. Plus you have girls calling you, stressing you out that is not cool. He has no respect for you if he scoops down that low to get on the phone wit the other chick, its just not right. You need to move on girl and get someone who is going to love and respect you, then he will realize that he lost something good!
2007-03-26 16:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by ndejesus176 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am basically in the same situation. i wish i had enough money to get rid of the baby but to late! she's almost 4month (i love her though). if you're abort it,even though i don't believe in that but believe it'll save you from becoming emotionally mentally and financially messed up. i had girls calling me while i was in the hospital giving birth and he was claiming i didn't have one or it wasn't his because i didn't want to have anything to do with his *** after he cheated on me. do what is best for the baby think about it- do you really want to have anything to do with his lying dirty ***?-and i though i was the only one who was going through a situation like this.
2007-03-26 16:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by stacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont 4give him! once a cheater always a cheater! But dont take it out on the baby... u need a real man! but dont be dependent on a man to help u raise ur child or to help u @ all!!! dont abort the baby! Its not the child's falut his/her father is an *** hole! would u of wanted ur mother to abort u? I dont think so!!! Be a woman about what is going on ur smart and educated! and ur a woman! Jus b/c he wont be there 4 the child dont mean u can't and he's not the one u want to spend the rest of ur life with! he dont love u ditch his ***! but keep ur child!
2007-03-26 16:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pepua, how can he marry two women? And you were engaged to this pig? You need to remove him from your life immediately. I am for pro choice, and I think your making the right dercison regarding the baby. But think about it real hard and don't make a rash decision. And forget about forgiveness, he's not worthy of it.
2007-03-26 15:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're crazy for even considering forgiving him! After he's put you through all that, you want to run the risk of it happening again?
I am pro-choice, but have you thought about having the baby and putting it up for adoption?
Good luck!
2007-03-26 15:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋