Years ago, I was friends with a woman, "Alice" who is an aunt of a friend, "Margot". I was always at Margot's house and Alice was there a lot as well, and we got to know each other well. Margot moved away to NY and Alice moved to Florida and I have not spoken to Alice very much since they both moved. I speak with Margot all the time, but I have not seen or spoken to Alice since Margot's wedding a few years ago. This weekend I heard from Margot that Alice was diagnosed with terminal cancer and they are not sure how long she has. They have looked into care facilities as well as considered funeral plans.
Margot gave me Alice's phone number at the hospital in Florida, and I want to call but I am not sure what to say. The only reason we haven't spoken much is because of the geographic distance (there are no hard feelings or anything between us). Margot says that Alice has not always been "with it" lately (the cancer is in her brain), so I am totally at a loss for what to say. Please help.
2007-03-26 08:53:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you should say how you feel. it shouldn't matter that you haven't spoken in a while. chances are since they haven't heard from you in such a long time it'll be a pleasant surprise to hear your voice. you might just make them feel a lot better than they did before they picked up the phone. at this time in someones life when they are facing a challenge the best thing you can do is let them know you are there and with a good heart
2007-03-26 09:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a web site you might find to be helpful that will also list other resources available on the net. It is 'www.towardthelight.org.' It's important to stay in the present when talking with a terminally ill patient. Talk about what she wants to talk about; tell her how much you delighted in spending time at her house; how much you learned from her; and how much you wish you could do more for her. Ask if she wants you to pray with her and what she most fears. Just listening will be valuable for her. Good Luck to you and I'm sorry you're losing someone that you care for.
2007-03-26 09:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be feeling particularly difficulty-free having docs and nurses around you all day , having leukemia or no longer?. Ive in no way had it so i cant inform you "i recognize the style you experience" identity be a hypocrite. My sister in spite of the undeniable fact that @ 19 had point 4 cervical maximum cancers and spent alot of time in scientific institution, she had alot of up's and down's ,Its quite wide-spread to prefer organization and socialism reason your youthful, and makes you experience like crap almost remoted whilst your in this type of undertaking. your feeling depressed on account which you experience such as you have lost administration , and thats wide-spread too. people dont think of your physco i think of with alongside actual ailment ,emotionally trauma is purely as undesirable, yet carry your head extreme and recognize that this might all be over quickly, and you could bypass lower back to dwelling in society. Ask in case you may get the internet connected so which you would communicate with associates im sur the docs and nurses have it on?
2016-12-15 09:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by kulpa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can a person say in that situation? Not much really. Telling someone that they will get better when you know that is not true is just not honest nor is it real. In my own experience I think people just appreciate it when you tell them you are so sorry for their pain, acknowledge to them that this must be extremely difficult, and that they will be in your thoughts and prayers.
2007-03-26 09:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by xartinu33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her and tell her that you know you haven't kept in touch and that your sorry for not doing so. talk to her for a while and then bring it up and just say your sorry and ask if there is anything that you can do. good luck. I know its hard to do, when you haven't talked for a long time. but I am pretty sure she understands.
2007-03-26 08:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not send flowers to the hospital with a note, then phone a few days late to check she got them,she'll just be glad you made contact in her hour of need.
2007-03-26 09:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were just thinking about her and wanted to give her a call.
2007-03-26 08:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by ty4all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋