My Brother just got home from over seas and barely spent any time with me. He only visited my mom and our other sister but barely saw me or my dad. We all used to have a good relationship and now hes mean. I know I should just be happy hes home and let him do whatever makes him happy butI was the one that cried eveyday he was over there my sister didnt even care. I through a pary for him and he didnt even show up he went out with my sister. I am soooo mad I just want to ignore him or punch him in the face but he leaves again tomorrow so I dont want him to leave on bad terms just incase something happens to him...what should I do?
2007-03-26 08:52:02 · 9 answers · asked by yoyo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Confront him about it. He may be going through something and needs someone to talk to.
2007-03-26 08:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your brother has been overseas I would think that he has a lot of turmoil going on in his mind right now and is not himself.
Do not let him leave on bad terms but let him know that you are disappointed in him for not showing up at your party and not spending some time with you or your dad.
Tell him that you love him and that you were very worried about him while he was away. and that you will continue to pray for him while he is gone again.
Give him a chance to explain but don't get angry with him or your sister for that matter.You don't want to do something you may regret later. One day you may be able to get it out and explain that he really hurt your feelings.I don't feel this is the proper time to do that with his leaving tomorrow.
Pray to God to keep him well and bring him back home safely.
2007-03-26 16:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HI Lauren!
I can't tell from your question foresure but it sounds kind of like your brother might be in the military or a civilian working in the mid-east.
If he is then you definitely need to see him and tell him you love him and really wish that whatever's going on with him he would share it with you. However keep in mind, he has seen some terrible things, and he know you're the sister who's emotional and is afraid for him and men in this situtation often find it easier to deal with someone who is a little more hardened. They want to be with someone who will either keep their mind off it all together or someone they feel won't be wounded or frightened by his stories.
Do what you need to be at peace with him before he leaves, but don't force him to open up. He's going back it's not over there, and sometime it's best to not talk about terrible things that need done until they are finished. Since he going back, and this was only a visit he may feel if he doesn't continue to "soldier on" he'll fall apart and now isn't the time.
That said, if he isn't involved some how in the war, corner him and give him a piece of your mind. It's very understandable if he is dealing with post traumatic stress or other war related issues, but if he isn't he's being a big fat jerk for not at least showing his face at the party you so lovingly got together for him. There is probably something else going on, but if isn't headed back to a war zone, there is no reason to assume he need special treatment.
Remember though if he's going to the war zone you don't want to upset him, he's got enough to deal with and maybe the party was just to much for him.
You should do some research on what these men and women are dealing with mentally so you can be ready for the next visit and when he comes home for good.
War changes the way you think, and it teaches you to be more protective. You may not see it that way, but to a solider sometime the best way to protect the folks back home is distance.
It sounds like before he left you two where really close emotionally, and when he gets home for good you should try to rebuild that it will help your brother get back to normal, but since he is going back he probably don't want to get back to normal just yet.
You may also want to call your sister and ask her how he is doing. What's going on with him. Explain to her that you really wish he'd let you spend more time with him and see if she can shed any light on this.
I don't know why, but it really feels like this temporary. I just have this feeling that your brother is a solider of some kind, and he chose to spend time with the sister who likes to drink and party and wouldn't ask to many questions or get to emotional.
Soldiers at war tend to put on an emotional mask with the uniform which attempts to separate their emotions from the job, and it's not the kind of mask you just remove whenever you want to, it gets stuck and it takes time to get past it.
Be patience with him, and keep loving him. Even if he needs to be distance don't let go of him. You never want him to forget that when he is ready you're still there for him.
2007-03-26 16:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the person you are and love him.Be sure to tell him how much you love and will miss him when he goes back.Sometimes the visits are too short, maybe that's what happen this time.Just love him.
2007-03-26 16:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel and tell him that not showing up to your party was messed up. I would be mad too, don't worry. Just don't keep it inside.
2007-03-26 15:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Cardiophobia <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried calling him and asking him what's wrong?
2007-03-26 15:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel.
2007-03-26 16:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by spoiledsarah25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to meet him & tell him how you feel. Good luck. (--,)
2007-03-26 15:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see him.
2007-03-26 15:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋