Parenting - November 2007

Our son Jeremy is 10 and jumeped off of a swingset and broke both wrist. His friend dared him to do it. I told the other boys mother and she refuses to think that her son would do something like that. What can I do to prove it?

2007-11-25 08:18:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister and I have an ongoing argument about which is easier to raise. I say girls she says boys. I say girls because they are more emotional and less destructive. Girls cry boys scream. All in the parenting too I know. Also in my experience girls do less damage to your home. She can't give any good reasons other then she has 2 boys and 1 girl and her daughter is a primadona. IMO I would rather my daughter if it ever happened which I hope not to come home and say mom I am pregnant then for a son to come home and say mom they are both pregnant.
So, which do you think is easier to raise and why? I am hoping you good people can settle the score for my sis and me!! TY in advance.

2007-11-25 08:15:00 · 28 answers · asked by Michelle 4

im not trying to sound mean/or gross.

but some kids at school say that they get condoms from their parents.

I'm in high school

2007-11-25 08:02:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is now 6 months and is getting slightly big for her moses basket.

First night of trying her in her cot she screamed blue murder!
In the end i gave in ( i know i shouldnt but the damn neighbours started moaning!)
Tonight i have put her in the moses basket, inside the cot to get her used to her new surroundings first and so far she is sleeping well.
Has anyone else had problems with this?

I also think shes wakening at times because her arms were flying about wakening her. Ive been told you shouldnt swaddle a baby at 6 months but can i try and wrap her lightly so that her arms are tucked in but she is still able to get them out if she wants?

Or does anyone have any advice on this?

Thankyou!

2007-11-25 07:43:40 · 2 answers · asked by Nicki 3

Buy so much stuff for my kids for Christmas?

2007-11-25 06:32:13 · 7 answers · asked by Susan 4

How do I handle this? The four kids I babysat have been taught by their dad that cussing and flipping people off is funny!! (Ages 4, and 3 yr. old twins). Seriously! I mean, these are loved kids - not abused or anything, but i'm wondering if it's right for me to discipline them for something they've been taught is ok. Someone has been (probably their grandparents) because they know that flipping someone off for example is a "bad word" and they spend the whole day yesterday saying "What the heck" and then "What the He**." It really bothers me because when we go out in public they tell people to f*$% off and also use the b-word. They of course get time-outs/spanks from me... but then I got to thinking, is this fair to them? How do I handle this? (Dad is NOT going to change, but mom is trying to be better about the cussing.)

2007-11-25 02:19:58 · 11 answers · asked by Angie 4

my 13 year old daughter has started smoking! i saw her outside last night with an empty pack and i always talk to her about it and she promises not to do it, but i do always see her when i go outside. When i was in my office downnstairs, i think she stole my pack of cigarettes from my purse and my lighter. Whenever i c it missing, i go to te store and buy more. i'm against spanking but i do always spank her but whenever she does it. I started smoking when i was 15 in the girls bathroom with a couple of my friends and had my daughter when i was 16. Now, she's addicted. What should i do?

2007-11-24 17:40:58 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son has a friend who likes to snuggle up to me and acts very gay. He likes to rough house with me when my oldest is there. I never am alone with him because he is not my son and there are always people who are quick to yell and accuse.

Well, over the Thanksgiving break he stayed the night several times with my oldest son and all three boys, my son, his friend and my youngest son would all sit next to me on the couch while we were watching movies. It has gotten cold so my son's friend (who is 11 going on 12) snuggled up to me and I put my arm around him like I do my son and my hand was on his thigh.

He is really a sweet kid and I don't know if I am being paranoid or what, was that inappropriate? Did I overstep my boundaries with him?

I don't want to do anything wrong. His father doesn't have much to do with him and his mom is remarried but his step-dad isn't very affectionate with him.

Clarification: The thigh (outer legg, not the inner legg)
FYI - I am bisexual myself.

2007-11-24 17:29:14 · 21 answers · asked by Tommy Thompson 4

I am a mommy of four children--their ages are as follows:
2 years, 4 months & 2 days (Tessa)
3 months and 24 days (Lily)
4 months and 9 days (John)
15 days (Ella)

Tessa (my two year old) has quite a list so I'm pretty set for her. My other children obviously cannot make a list and so I'm pretty stuck on what to get for them. Do you have any suggestions?
Thank you!

xXo

2007-11-24 16:50:34 · 18 answers · asked by ♪♫Noelle© 4

2007-11-24 14:30:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Mom recently told me that my Aunt who is 71, used to hit and beat her 3 sons when they were children, throwing them against walls-pulling their hair,, she said her husband beat them as well with a belt.
My Mom also told me she kept a lock of the refridgerator so they coudlnt eat when they wanted, only when she opened the lock.
My Aunt has always verbally abused me, put me down, i never understood why..she recently cut my Mom off for going to Rome for Christmas instead of spending it at her house. so my Mom is explaining to me why shes a control freak, but my Mom said in her generation it was normal and common for parents to beat their kids up, is this true?

She also told me she encouraged my Mom to beat me up as a child, my Mom confessed to the only time she ever hit me as a direct influence by my Aunt.

2007-11-24 13:58:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

in my case they concealed what they were doing. In otherwords they were keeping secrets. now they should of told of me what they instead of sneak of things around. Do yo think think this my fault or theres? there always lying I have to find out from other people is this right? I had sex but was forced is the same? the maine thing now is to find out how do find out if my mom is keeping screts from me? that I need to know

2007-11-24 11:51:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

1. Should they be sexually active if they don't know?
2. Why do people waste time answering?
I am asking this because I do a lot of voluteer work with abandoned children and it is sad how society condones the behaviors of immature girls sleeping around.

2007-11-24 11:17:40 · 14 answers · asked by Kikki 4

I am in a bad situation, i promised him a cell phone for his 10th birthday, and his mother wont let me! Please post a comment saying the right age you think a child should get a cell phone!

2007-11-24 11:14:53 · 34 answers · asked by Landon McToboggan 1

The struggles of single parenthood is very overwhelming at times - especially when you don't have alot of support with the child. Was thinking seriously about putting him in boarding school so I can struggle a little less, and he can get a great education.

2007-11-24 11:07:10 · 11 answers · asked by Shell 2

2007-11-24 09:20:10 · 8 answers · asked by thezookeeper 4

Has anyone else out there seen this crap? I saw some woman at the mall with a two-year old (I'm guessing), and had a little harness with a leash attached, like her kid was a dog! Holy crap! I think if someone has THAT big of a problem keeping their kid under control, either put them in a stroller or leave them at home. That leash demeans everyone involved.
Your thoughts?
I would especially love to hear from these wonderful parents that practice this form of parenting. Such skill!

2007-11-24 07:59:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

When your 3 to 4 years old child get exposed to affectionate seen like kissing while waching TV, or people wearing revealing clothes. What is the best thing to do. Even our cartoons now a days showing characters with exposed part of the body like superwomen etc..

Should I just shelter him from such! Please advice!

2007-11-24 07:40:17 · 7 answers · asked by traveler 2

do u think its fair for a mom to not give a child a christmas gift because they got into fights, arguements, ect.

2007-11-24 07:02:36 · 41 answers · asked by Effy 2

Ok, so i'm dating a senior and i'm a freshmen. Me and him hang out pretty much everyday. We do crazy stuff somtimes and make video of it and put it on youtube(just doing random things around town with some other of his friends which are also mine). Me and him like to go see movies together and go to Red Lobster. He is a very caring person.
My parents do not know that i'm dating a senior.
And by the way, i'm 15 turning 16 in January.
What should I do?

2007-11-24 07:01:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 5 children ages 13,11,7,5, and 2 and my husband and I argue every year on how much to spend. I have a tendency to spoil them - how much total is an appropriate amount for all five kids?!? Thanks for your help!!

2007-11-24 06:40:54 · 9 answers · asked by stacey 2

Okay last night ( I'm 15 btw) I was at the local movie theater with some of my friends ( 3 guys 4 girls & me). Well while my friends were getting there food, I had to go to the bathroom. Well I was walking back to the bathroom, & i had to walk past some guys. Well when I was walking past them they started whistling & stuff. That didn't really scare me, I was just ignoring them. But then one guy started talking about how he wanted to have sex with me & stuff. He was talking about what he wanted to do to me!! That really freaked me out. So I ran back to my friends, & I was almost crying ( I was rapped when I was 5 so i was really scared). I told my friends what had happened, & my guy friends were p*****. They almost punched the guy.
Anyway my question is how would you have reacted in this situation? I told my mom about it & she told me I should have called the cops. Should I have called the cops? Do you think I reacted okay?

2007-11-24 06:34:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

for school, we take home egg babies. theyre just like real babies, but eggs!! the teacher gives you an egg and you haev to take care of it for one whole week. you cant drop it or you get an E.!!! you put it in a container and bring it with you EVERYWHERE. what can i do to prevent it from falling/cracking/dropping it. put cotton balls in the container..what else? thx

2007-11-24 06:21:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yesterday, my 14-year old sent me a text message, asking if she and her friend could trim my youngest daughter's (5 yrs) bangs. I texted back: TRIM only. DO NOT cut her hair.

Now, a little history, this summer she and her friend cut their own hair, my middle daughter's and youngest daughter's hair. Cut it SHORT. It has taken months for my middle daughter's hair to reach the top of her shoulders.

I came home, and my middle daughter (7 yrs) is in tears because they cut her hair and are calling her coconut head. I think it was supposed to be the short in the back, tapering longer to the face, but they cut WAY too much off. I'm going to have to take her somewhere for it to be fixed the best they can.

Anyway, I decided that for her punishment (the 14 year old), I was going to have her hair cut the exact same way.

My mother says too harsh? What do you think?

2007-11-24 03:44:53 · 85 answers · asked by working mom of 3 4

I have a very angry little 6 yr old boy, i think it may be due to me leaving his father, but the relationship wasnt good. I knew i had to leave for the bst interest of our children. He saw alot of things that he shouldnt have, and there ws alot of bad influence at times. After leaving my husband, my two boys and i were forced to live in a shelter until we found a secure apt. Since then his father has been put in jail, will be geting out soon. My 6 yr old talks to him on the one 1xper week and is aware that he will be out soon.
The anger comes from him when i discipline him, he yells back at me, or tells me he hates me and hates our house (our new apt.) He has dificulty getting along with other children, always tries bullying them, wants to be superior. When attention is shown elsewhere, he hs a behavior.He is mean to his 4 yr old brother, and gets so angry he throws, kicks,&punches. also, fears being alone, whether dark or not, always uses fear as excuse to not do things.

2007-11-24 03:17:44 · 10 answers · asked by virginia 1

I have chronic back pain and it hurts me pretty bad to give my kids (currently ages 3, 4, and 5) a bath. I'm a stay at home mom right now. Even though my husband works long hours, I still expect him to bathe the kids instead of me most of the time because of how it affects me. Is this unrealistic?

2007-11-24 02:29:29 · 11 answers · asked by Wizzle 4

I am the mother of four children - ages 10, 8, 4 and 10 months. The 8 & 4 year old WON'T SLEEP. I used to put them to bed at 9:00-9:30 and they would sleep until 8:00-8:30. About a month ago they both started getting up around 5:00am and not going back to sleep. I have tried everything - I have tried making them take naps during the day; I have tried putting them to bed extra early so when they get up at 5:00am they have had enough sleep (but they don't fall asleep at night until 9:30-10:00 anyway); I have tried letting them stay up extra late so they will be tired enough to stay asleep in the morning (but they rise at 5:00am anyway); I have even tried boring them to sleep by making them stay in thier beds for the better part of the day with no TV or toys (but they lay there awake). I really am out of ideas for a solution to making sure these kids get enough sleep - 7 to 8 hours is not enough. My 8yr old was walking around yesterday with red, puffy, bloodshot eyes- HELP US!!!!!

2007-11-24 00:49:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

This may be a really silly question but I'm really having issues with my son. [He'll be two in February.] He's a loud boy. He talks very loud and when he's happy everyone knows. Now, it wouldn't be an issue if we never went anywhere but we do. For example, in the grocery store when he's just talking to me his voice level is so loud we get looks but he's not being bad--he's just talking. Last night we were at Olive Garden and again he was talking loudly. He's not being bad and I honestly don't think he realizes how loud he's talking but it's driving me crazy! LOL!

So, how do I teach him to speak in a normal voice? We play the 'shhh...' game all the time where we all sit around the table whispering but it only lasts so long. So, are there any solutions or is my son bound to be loud for a while yet? I feel awful when I punish him because he isn’t being bad per-say he’s just talking and doesn't realize that he's being loud. However, at this point I'm willing to try anything.

Thanks!!

2007-11-24 00:23:11 · 10 answers · asked by .vato. 6

the father of my 5 year old son wants to take him to visit his very ill great-granddad in hospital. please understand, i ususally would have nothing against my son visiting hospitals or his great grandad, but this time is different. i found out last night that my son's great grandad has the virus MRSA. whenever anyone visits him, they have to wear a plastic apron and gloves, but not a face mask.

u hear all kinds of horror stories about this virus on the TV news, about how contagious and dangerous it is, especially to the elderly and young. what are your opinions on this ? would any of u let your young child visit someone with this illness ? i felt bad about saying that he can't go, but of course my main priority is the health and wellbeing of my little boy.

what would u do ?

2007-11-23 22:29:24 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 19yrs old and my husband is 21. We have 5yo twin girls. Yes this does mean I got prenant at 13 and delivered at 14. We were really stupid and thought that I couldn't get pregnant that young. Anyway, when I was 16, I had a little boy. As soon as I turned 18, my boyfriend and I got married. We both work and fully support ourselves and our kids. We're not rich by any means but we get by. My kids are happy and healthy. The girls just started kindegarten and are doing fine. But my family, especially my grandparents, still think I should give all three of my kids up for adoption because we're too young for kids that age and they'll grow up with problems. My husband and I think that they're wrong & our kids are fine. Do you think I should give my kids up for adoption? Will they grow up all right even though we're really young? It would kill me to lose them, but I don't want to keep them if it will end up hurting them in the long run. Help me please.

2007-11-23 19:50:58 · 24 answers · asked by Kiri Silvren 2