Our son Jeremy is 10 and jumeped off of a swingset and broke both wrist. His friend dared him to do it. I told the other boys mother and she refuses to think that her son would do something like that. What can I do to prove it?
2007-11-25 08:18:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We used our daughter Taylor as a witness but she thinks that I put her up to it.
2007-11-25 08:23:57 · update #1
this goes back to the saying "if your friends told you to jump off a bridge would you do it" I am sorry that your child is hurt but at 10 he should know the risk of injury for his actions.
OK I AM READY FOR THE THUMBS DOWN>
2007-11-25 08:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal B 4 · 22⤊ 0⤋
Honestly what does it matter. If your trying to make the other mom pay for hospital bills i think your nuts.
Boys do crazy and insane things all the time. They dare each other to eat bugs....and jump off things. If anything your son is the one at fault he should have jumped. Your daughter should stay out of it as well.
My son goes to Awanas. One night while he was there his friend and him were goofin with each other and my son fell or was pushed not sure, and has his wrist ran over by his friend and broken. Now did i go knocking on the other parents door. No for the simple fact accidents happen, and boys will be boys.
there is nothing you can do to prove anything, and i'm sure the mom is aware of what he son does. Just not willing to admit it to some crazied women knocking on her door accusing her son of doing those things.
2007-11-25 08:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even care about the other boy or his mother?? Unless the friend PUSHED your son off the swingset its not his fault nor his mother's fault. If any parent is to blame it would be YOU for not teaching your son how to not to do whatever his friends are doing or telling him to do. Stop worrying about other mothers and start being one yourself! If your son is already falling to peer pressure at 10 years old the next 10 years are going to hell for you if you dont do something NOW. I really am sorry your son is hurt, but you have to handle this differently by making HIM take responsibility for that action otherwise he is going to think he can get away with anything because you will always be finding someone else to blame.
2007-11-25 08:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
why do you have to prove it? If the other kid pushed him, that's one thing. A dare is another. A dare means the friend is completely off the hook, and you have on your hands a 10 year old boy who holds his own knowledge and instincts below that of a peer in a peer-pressure situation. Personallhy, I'd worry more about dealing with that, and healing those wrists. I'm sorry, that's not what you wanted to hear, but that's what I think.
Oh, and he won't be playing with the 'friend' anymore either, most likely.
2007-11-25 14:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 8-year-old just jumped off a swing and broke a wrist. These things happen. I wouldn't be concerned with proving anything to the mom whose son dared yours ... I would be concerned with teaching your son not to feel pressured to do something on a dare, and also teaching what heights are reasonable to jump from. And though 10-year-olds certainly don't need to be watched every second, if you're really concerned about the other kid being a bad influence, supervise when your son plays with him.
2007-11-25 08:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by ... 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is right, your son made the decision to take the dare he should have known better.
I dont agree with Teresa though and her comment....
"let him figure out how to carry his own bookbag with his arms in casts"
That's harsh, hes a 10 year old little boy, yes a little boy and hes probaly going to be in pain for awhile, so why make him do that?
Now I'd understand if he were a teenager say 15 or older.
My little brother is 13 and will be 14 in July and I know my mom would most definately help him till he could function somewhat on his own.
Jeez, Im 18 and I know my mom would help me if I asked for it.
Teresa you are just cold hearted, I gave you a thumbs down.
2007-11-25 12:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by RebelPrincess 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is a way to prove anything, aside from there being witnesses. Keep in mind that kids all over the world dare each other to do stupid things, and most of the time it end's OK...but like your son, there are exceptions to the rules. Of course the mother of the other boy will refuse to believe that her son's actions would cause harm to someone else. Most parents have blinders on when it comes to their children's behavior. Every parent believes that their kids are "angles". She doesn't want to believe that her son would dare someone else to do something that could end up with broken bones, just like you believe that your son would never take a dare.
2007-11-25 08:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry to hear about your son, sons or children in general will do things that are crazy. You proving that the other boy dared him to will not solve anything, your sons wrists are hurt anyways. there will be other dares and he will take those dares aswell.
tell your son the dangers and hope for the best.
hope he gets better soon.
tkae care
2007-11-25 08:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mansoor K 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look, don't bother running to her and telling her anything any more. First of all, she will probably defend her son. Second, he needs to learn for himself that he has to take responsibility for his own actions instead of being allowed to shift the blame. If you do otherwise, you will be on here in another year saying "My son has all D's. It's the teacher's fault." Maybe his friend told him to do it, but if he told him to jump off a bridge would he do that too? At ten, one is old enough to know right from wrong. Seven is the age of reason unless you are developmentally delayed. Personally, I think breaking both wrists is punishment enough for anyone, and if you want to not end up with an overly-enabled son, let him figure out how to carry his own bookbag with his arms in casts. Next time he'll think twice before listening to his friends.
2007-11-25 08:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Teresa 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to prove it? Your son took the dare and did something stupid (been there done that one *grin*)
It's not the other boy's fault. Your son is responsible for his own actions. If you blame this other boy you are teaching your son that he doesn't have to take responsiblity for himself.
I jumped off a garage roof on a dare at that age and landed on a rusty nail that went through my foot. Just because the other kid told me to do it doesn't make it his fault. I knew better but did it anyway.
2007-11-25 08:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by pinkpiglet126 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Crystal B, I totally agree. That's a horrible way for a child to learn that he can't respond to every dare, but what are you trying to prove? that so and so said, hey, i dare you jump? and your son said "ok", and jumped? and then what? i have a feeling the kids play dare all the time. BUT, i still feel horrible for your son.
2007-11-25 08:37:55 · answer #11 · answered by Mary R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋