do u think it's fair??

Question

do u think its fair for a mom to not give a child a christmas gift because they got into fights, arguements, ect.

Answer 1

christmas isnt about presents.
get over it

Answer 2

I don't understand your question. Do you mean the mother gives the child a gift to distract them from fighting? Of course, that would be foolish, REWARDING them for fighting. Or did you mean, the mother gives them a present EVEN THOUGH they fight? I can't see any parent denying a child a Christmas present because they fight. Who doesn't fight once in a while, especially when they're young? The mother might just be threatening this, to motivate the child. If you're a child writing this, and not getting along with a sibling/neighbour/friend, try to confine your fighting to places AWAY from your mother (eg., fight when she's out, or busy in the kitchen). She's probably stressed out from work, or other responsibilities, and can't take any more. Be kind. Your mother will LOVE you for it, and give you MORE presents (plus you'll be her favourite, though she'll never admit it!) But if someone is picking on you, or initiating the fight, definitely confide in your mom or another adult. Get help on how to deal with it. Good luck!

Answer 3

this is a hard one to answer but i couldn't do it,but mum must get the child some sort of gift because it could be very harmful and make the child feel very unloved,unwanted and very hurt and would NOT improve there behaviour a child needs to know that their parents love thdem no matter what they do wrong,i did something wrong and went to prison,before this my mum and i had a serious falling out and i refused to speak or acknowledge her existance for over 7 years one christmas i phoned and said sorry and we're closer now than we ever were,my suggestion it that she give the child the presents from the parents and with hold the others until he/she behaves for a whole day,fight out why they were fighting and try to sort it out,most of all she needs to go down to the childs level and talk to them and understand he/she as this may be an attention problem and needs to be sorted

Answer 4

I would say no. Christmas is a happy time when people should put aside what has happened and try to make the best of things. In my opinion, a parent who does not give their child a gift because of and incedent is not being fair. You love your child, and your child loves you. Not giving them a gift because something happened is childish. Good Luck and Happy Holidays.

Answer 5

Sure it's fair, but christmas is supposed to be about giving and loving, so not giving the child a gift would just cause him/her to resent the mother even more. Giving the child a gift would give the mother an oppourtunity to sort things out with the child.

Answer 6

I would never NOT give my child a birthday or Christmas gift. Any other holiday/occasion, maybe. However, Christmas is still a month away and this would be the PERFECT time to be working on the fighting and arguing.

Answer 7

Well, things arent always fair but if you try to not fight, argue maybe it will change. Gifts are not mandatory, it is a choice to give or not to give. How about you give your mom the early Gift of Not fighting or aguing for 1 week, or 2 or 1 month and everybody will be happy and there will be harmony in your house and maybe xmas presents for you. Maybe it will be a habit that you'll find nice to keep.

Answer 8

Whether or not you had an arguement with your child, should not, in my opinion, be the basis of giving a child a birthday or Christmas gift. They are still your child and disagreement is part of life. That type of "punishment" will always come back to haunt you.

Answer 9

My parents did that to us once. My little brother and sister were getting really obsessed with presents and that's all they thought of Christmas. My parents were going to still give me presents but I told them not to since it wouldn't be fair that I get presents and they don't. That Christmas we has a Christmas dinner, went to visit the elderly at nursing homes, and we definintly went to church which had hadn't done on a Christmas for a while. And actualy I took them to a party that me and my friends set up to have with kids who have cancer. It was a blast! We gave the kids presents which both my brother and sister said felt good making them happy, played games, and just had a fun time!

Answer 10

Its hard, and i depends on the situation. I use to think that it was mean to take things away from kids, but in one respect it teaches them that thier are consiquences in life for bad choices, a lot of kids grow up getting everything that they want, and then fail as grown ups because they where never taught those important lessons. Its not east being a parent, and having to punish your children, most times it hurts the parent more then the child, but that is the responsibility of that parent to raise the child into a responsible adult.

Answer 11

Depends on how old the child is. My son has not spoken to me, didn't call me on Thanksgiving. We just recently spent over $1,000 on him and his wife .. and we didn't even receive a Thank You for any of it. They live in another state. I sent out a care package with over $200 worth of stuff in it about 3 weeks ago. Her Mom told me that it is at the post office and they STILL haven't picked it up! I am seriously thinking about not sending them a thing for Christmas. It's sad, but true. I love my son very, very much ... don't get me wrong. But, Moms hurt too.