why don't parent teach there kids about sex?

Question

in my case they concealed what they were doing. In otherwords they were keeping secrets. now they should of told of me what they instead of sneak of things around. Do yo think think this my fault or theres? there always lying I have to find out from other people is this right? I had sex but was forced is the same? the maine thing now is to find out how do find out if my mom is keeping screts from me? that I need to know

Answer 1

Parents are shy to talk about sex with their kids and I think it's because parents think that the more kids know abut sex the more they will be inclined to have sex. Statistics, however, show this notion to be utterly false. Also, parents are reluctant to admit that their kids are becoming adults. Mant parents want to keep their kids "pure" or something like that in the hope that the kids won't actually become adults. This way of thinking is utterly foolish.

If you want to kind out something about sex and you think your mother might have the answer, just ask her and stop all this "keeping secrets" thinking. It's not very helpful.

Answer 2

You are generalizing.

Just because your parents did this, does not mean all parents do this.

Parents do teach their children about sex, but so does TV, internet, radio, friends, schools, and some churches. Unfortunately not all information from all sources is correct.


"I had sex but was forced is the same?"

That is the question however that is most troubling.

No, if you are forced, it is not the same. It is not sex, it is violence. It is a crime against you and humanity. The person that did this needs to be stopped so that they do not hurt anyone else. Please call this number 1-800-656-HOPE. It is a national help line set up to help YOU. It is a toll free call, won't cost you anything, nor your parents.

The people will talk to you, answer all your questions, and help you make sure that you are alright.

Answer 3

My mom died when I was a child
My father told me never to let a guy touch me. A normal father statement.
I was lucky, I grew up during Aids, and sleeping with the wrong person could kill you
In school, I was told to use more than one form of birth control, never have sex with out a condom. I was told that each time you see with some one you give a piece of yourself, you should not give it freely. I was told that each time you have sex with someone, you are sleeping with everyone, the person slept with. That be careful, know who you are sleeping

When it was time, I was out of college, I knew not to get pregnant.
My father, could never of did as good as a job, if he was able to talk to a daughter about sex, then the school did

I think it's a parent and school job to teach children about sex. For many people, in my situation, the school could be the only place to learn. My father did the best, it did a much better job with my brothers then he did with my sister and me.

Answer 4

IT depends on the parents. Some do, some don't. The ones that don't may not be mature enough themselves to handle talking to their kids about sex, so they let the schools do the teaching.
My Dad taught me when it was time, and he was honest about it - no religious agenda or propaganda about sex before marriage being sinful, and you go to hell, etc. It's difficult for parents to talk to their kids about sex because they don't want their kids to have sex. It's too big a growing-up step towards losing them. Now, being a mom, I know it will be hard for hubby and I to teach our kids, but I know we should. We don't keep secrets. If our kids want to know anything we tell them - in a way that is appropriate for their age.

Answer 5

It's down too the parents to tell the children intitally because they have parental responsibility! however i was never told bout the facts of life n' when i got my period at 10years old coming back off holiday i was shoved into the toilets n' told never to speak about it!!! Disgusting i thought! I now have 6half year old boy n' i;ve bought several family planning books i've also got a book that says Mommy's' got a baby in her tummy which he looks at. with interest and not fear!!! I want my son too know about the facts of life from ME his MOMMY it's my responsibility before the schools! And SEX shouldn't be a secret it's a fact of life how the hell are we born other than sex?????

Answer 6

Personally, I was more scarred thinking about my dad's you-know-what in my mom's you-know-where, than I would have been if I had just known they were having some "quiet time." The reason parents usually do not discuss the details of their sexual activities with their children is because it is inappropriate.

Answer 7

Well first of all, its really hard for the parents to talk about sex, just as its hard for the kid to listen to it. I've taught my kids about sex,and it was so hard for me, and I could tell that they are uncomfortable, but rather safe than sorry. Also, schools have sex ed also, so most parents are grateful for that.

Answer 8

okay, well, first off, learn how to spell correctly.

Secondly, your parents probably didn't tell you because it would be awkward. It's not really a hot topic in American homes. Also, it really isn't your buisness if they are having sex.

Thirdly, if you are saying you were forced to have sex, you should tell someone because that could be a crime.

Answer 9

its something like the untalk about subject its something that is avioded untill nesesery because of child r*a*p*e* or something like that and even then it is avoided try and find out through your parents ask questions like "mom are you going to have more kids?" or "dad will you and mom have another kid?" you will have to adapt these questiond depending but it should be something like that
the other way is to look at your parents recepts they will tell about their buys

Answer 10

My parents didn't directly teach me, I learned from friends. But my dad aknowlaged that I do know about sex.