Okay last night ( I'm 15 btw) I was at the local movie theater with some of my friends ( 3 guys 4 girls & me). Well while my friends were getting there food, I had to go to the bathroom. Well I was walking back to the bathroom, & i had to walk past some guys. Well when I was walking past them they started whistling & stuff. That didn't really scare me, I was just ignoring them. But then one guy started talking about how he wanted to have sex with me & stuff. He was talking about what he wanted to do to me!! That really freaked me out. So I ran back to my friends, & I was almost crying ( I was rapped when I was 5 so i was really scared). I told my friends what had happened, & my guy friends were p*****. They almost punched the guy.
Anyway my question is how would you have reacted in this situation? I told my mom about it & she told me I should have called the cops. Should I have called the cops? Do you think I reacted okay?
2007-11-24 06:34:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
(I posted this before, but in the wrong section).
2007-11-24 06:37:52 · update #1
My guy friends confronted them, then the guy that did it to me ran out.
2007-11-24 06:42:36 · update #2
You did the right thing by going to your friends.
Next time, tell the manager and ask him to have the pukes thrown out. If they hassle you further, call the cops.
2007-11-24 06:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by mr_fartson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think most girls know what to do when they're actually IN a situation in which they're being harassed. It's almost always in hind sight that we realize just how violated we truly were. As hard as it is, don't question whether your reaction was sufficient. While I don't think calling the cops would have been the right step (it'd take too long for them to get there), I DO think that complaining to management would have been a good idea. They could have kicked the guys out (and possibly called the cops and held them there if they felt the need). I also think that since you went straight to your friends and told them what happened, that you did the right thing. Your friends were there to make sure nothing happened to you. I'm sorry this happened!
2007-11-24 22:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you reacted okay, you ran to people that you felt safe around and the guy might have been saying that just because he was around his friends and being an a**hole. Now if he had actually come up to you and said it when you were alone, then I would have screamed as loud as I could to get attention and called the cops.
2007-11-24 14:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off sorry that, that happened to you. I think that you handled it well. Saying something like STOP is always an option. Calling the police is also another option too. Even talking to the security and telling them what happened and having them call the police is also an option. Over all you did a great job! Take care and be safe.
2007-11-24 14:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by LT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, what happened to you was sexual harrassment. You were right to go back to your friends; you're safer in a group than by yourself. Next time (and I hope there never is a next time), report the incident to the manager and ask him or her to throw the guys out and/or call the police. Unfortunately, some guys are jerks - but that doesn't mean you have to endure sexual harrassment.
2007-11-24 15:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH goodness, I feel soooo bad for youi. When you were five and now. Thats good your guy friend didn't punch him, or he could of been sued. Me, I would call the police because that guy seems dangerous. He can just be fantisizing now but to another unlucky girl he can actually hurt her. You know how that feels. But don't feel bad or anything, its not your fault and don't be miserable because of a jerk's mistakes. I wish you the best!
2007-11-24 14:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There probably was no need to call the police, unless he actually physically touched you inappropriately.
Your reaction was justified and understandable.
I am sorry that guy was nasty to you. Not all guys are like that, my dear.
Carry some pepper spray with you next time, if it makes you feel safer. If someone tries to hurt you, defend yourself, if the situation calls for it.
2007-11-24 14:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry hun. i have 4 girls. The appropriate thing would have been to get the movie theater manager to remove the guys from the area. That would have upset anyone.
2007-11-24 14:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Becca K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you reacted good...
I probably would have done the same thing.
It was a good idea to run back to people who made you feel safe. I am so sorry about what happened hopefully it wont happen again.
2007-11-24 14:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the manager. and learn to ignore guys. guys are immature jerks take what they say with a grain of salt and go on.
how were you walking and dressed also. if you wear tight clothes ans low cut tops you could have been teasing which to a guy is provoking and asking for it.
2007-11-24 14:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋