The struggles of single parenthood is very overwhelming at times - especially when you don't have alot of support with the child. Was thinking seriously about putting him in boarding school so I can struggle a little less, and he can get a great education.
2007-11-24 11:07:10 · 11 answers · asked by Shell 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You child needs a parent. As a social worker, I am in favor of your child remaining at home. I raised my kids alone too, since they were 3 and 5 and now they are in college. Your key to success is to find support around you. If you don't have family members as support to give you a break from time to time, see if you can make friends with the parents of your child's friends, and do some trading sometimes so you can get a brake. I feel your child will feel unwanted/abandoned if you send him/her away to a boarding school. If you can afford a boarding school, you probably can afford to have a sitter come in from time to time, even if it was to watch your child while you were still at home. Check out local single parent support groups. Those are a great way to meet folks in the same boat. Nice to have the moral/emotional support, as well as it being a way to meet possible friends to trade off kid-care with. Good luck!
2007-11-24 11:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that life is always going to contain struggles, no matter what our situation is. I think what your boy will really NEED in life is YOU, and your love and devotion and see that even as a single mom, you both can work together and get through things, as a team.
I think a "great education" in the long run won't be as important and vital as the relationship between you and him, and I would really feel sad if he didn't have that love and nurturing as a parent and was left to the will and mercy of someone who didn't love him like you do and have that daily contact that you would provide.
Even if was hard, then, when he gets older, and has a family of his own, he would have a hard time with that because he
didn't have a true sense of what family is.
I'd say do your best to keep your boy around, i'm sure you love him and want to see him grow into a fine young man, you don't want to miss those "firsts" of accomplishments he has. Getting an "A" on a paper will mean so much more to him if he can run into the kitchen in his own house and show YOU and have you hug him and put it on the fridge and tell him how proud you are of him.
Keep him around, you both will benefit in the long run.
2007-11-24 11:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How old is the child, and does he have specific problems that cause you not to be able to handle his behavior? If the child is less than 12 yo, I wouldn't send him away. He doesn't have a dad, and you're taking away the only person in his life that he can depend on.
If he has specific problems, you may be eligible for help from the school system, the state, or the federal government. Check at www.nami.org. They can help you out.
Don't fool yourself. Only the expensive schools give "great" educations. If you can afford a great school, you can afford some help at home taking care of the child. My daughter, 21, babysits for a little girl 3 days a week from out of school time till mom gets home. Sometimes she babysits late. Mom is just doing laundry, taking a bath, reading a book, having Mommy time even though there's a babysitter in the other room keeping her sweetheart busy and giving her a bath and putting her to bed. My daughter charges $12/hr.
TX Mom
2007-11-24 11:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a mom yet but I probably wouldn't do it. I am one of those women who would miss my child way too much and want them home. I would just have them do some sort of club or something but I would still let them hang out with their friends or boys they might be friends with. If I knew they had a friend who was a bad influence or did illegal things I would have my child stop hanging around them. I'm not one to jump to conclusions that my daughter's friend or friends are could be a bad influence or whatever. And I wouldn't send them to boarding school because of that either
2016-05-25 06:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by marceline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a bad parent just lazy. U can get great education from public school. My mom has been single for 10 or 11 years and has 3 kids. It always got overwhelming for her but she never gave up. She worked long hours everyday and was always stressed but she did it because she is NOT the one to give up that easy. If she can do it, you can do it. Parenthood is always overwhelming but it has to be done. I think my mom is a great example of a hard-working mother.
2007-11-25 18:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by dAyLiTe_DaNcEr 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
yes i think that would make u a bad parent! i am a single parent of 4 children and we are doing great. and i had my 1st child at 17. ur supposed to be there for ur children not throw them off on someone else! take responsibility. great education my a**! he needs his mother not grow up with a bunch of strangers
2007-11-24 11:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by PRINCESS DI 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I could never send my kids away unless it was also a tremendous opportunity for them.
2007-11-24 12:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by treehugger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does not make you a bad parent.
Your child may think you are at first but just comfort them.
They might really like it.
Who knows?
2007-11-24 11:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it makes you a bad parent, as long as your doing it for the right reasons.
2007-11-24 11:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jorja and Rykah's Mummy 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
no your not a bad parent.. you just want him to get a good education and that's ok
2007-11-24 11:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋