Parenting - November 2007

my son lives with me and his stepdad. he goes to visit his dad about twice a year. when he comes back its a nightmare. his manners are shot, he is more rude, and says he misses it there. bascically, he is allowed to do whatever he wants and all the time i have put in to try and have him be a well mannered polite person go out the window. and...the thing that really gets me is that his dad was a total deadbeat dad and did not help out raising him when he was small. it bugs me so badly that my son is so in awe of him. he was the worst person to deal with. now, he just acts like hes super dad. i have told my son that i have taken care of him since he was born and that i had absolutly no help from him and his family. i feel like he needs to know this as its the truth. its just how do i say it so it really hits home to him? i hate that i look like the bad guy when i have done everything from day one. its causing lots of strain and tension.

2007-11-26 05:49:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

what are some things you do for christmas eve and christmas day?

2007-11-26 05:19:47 · 6 answers · asked by 3 girls call me mommy 5

2007-11-26 04:46:56 · 18 answers · asked by shredder87 2

I want to have a baby.. i want to do it on my own. Is that being selfish? how important is it for a child to know their father.. im sure eventually he/she will want to know.. but until then.. is it selfish for me to want a child of my own? I am in my mid 20s.. Im straight..have my own place...my own home... and yes.. If your wondering if i have been thru some bad relationships in the past and if im jaded by them.. sure i am.. but i want to do this because i am compelled to.. and feel in my heart this is the right thing to do for me.. I just wanted to hear about others peoples experience with this or thoughts.. Thank you.

2007-11-26 03:36:56 · 22 answers · asked by J o 2

its for a child devlopment debate and i need to see how i can counter act the other side. We are against it, and i have to see how i can word things to win the debate

2007-11-26 03:35:23 · 54 answers · asked by Angelique 1

We recently adopted a 5 year old girl from outside the US. We've no immediate family nearby, and felt that it would be nice if our daughter had "Godparents," although maybe not in the traditional sense. We chose 2 close friends - 2 individuals, not a couple.
The Godmother loves our little girl, and is very interested in her. She recently asked if I'd gotten a social security number for her. I said that we'd just applied (I needed to do so in order to enroll her on our health insurance plan). She then said she wants to open a bank account for our daughter, and needs the social security number.

Neither my husband nor I want to share our daughter's number with anyone. We also feel we should be the ones to open it for our daughter. Any suggestions on how we deal with Godmother, who takes things very personally? She has also bought several games for her for Christmas coming up, one of which I had wanted to give, as it was my own favorite game. Suggestions?

2007-11-26 03:28:31 · 23 answers · asked by Annie V. 1

okay im 24 with 3 kids and one on the way but i do work and take care of my kids. i have my own place and my own car and i finished high school but i feel ashamed that im 24 with 4 is that too bad i feel stressed sometimes thinking about it and yes im married but i dont know any advice?

2007-11-26 03:26:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do when your child (son) gets to a certain age and says they want to live with their dad and you know its because there are no rules there and they are allowed to do whatever they want?

2007-11-26 02:46:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

... gives chores to her kids.

hahahahaha...

Isn't that funny??

2007-11-26 02:38:43 · 31 answers · asked by Janet Reincarnated 5

Our son Sam broke his collarbone yesterday playing hockey and wants to go back to playing today. How long should we wait before we let him play hockey again. And what is something that he can do until then?

2007-11-26 02:37:30 · 18 answers · asked by Hockey Mom 1

2007-11-26 01:38:37 · 22 answers · asked by Oh Mama 1

My 5 year old daughter is normal weight for her height(90 percentile) but she never eats a meal. She will eat a little bit of food and then say she is full. SO much that she cries and begs me not to make her eat anymore. Then 10 minutes later she is begging for food again. I have been taking the hard line about this and making her eat her dinner or she gets nothing else, but I feel like I am making my kid starve or something. She is not losing any weight. She does this at every meal without fail. I have a doctor appointment coming up on Wednesday but wanted to get others perspectives on this. Do you think this is really a physical issue, or is it psychological? She has been doing this since mid August.

2007-11-26 01:35:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am considering putting my kids in daycare and have no idea where to begin the selection process. I know a few things I want to know such as how many children to each person, what policies do they have concerning parent visits. but I would like some opinions from moms and dads that have children in daycare. What questions did you ask in your selection process and did you visit the daycare first. If you did, what types of things did you look for?

I know this sounds silly because I am the parent, but I really just want some other opinions so that I don't ask to see the daycare and the people look at me like I am a pyscho or something.


Btw my kids that are going in daycare are 2 years and the other one is 6 months.

2007-11-26 01:09:39 · 9 answers · asked by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6

I have been wondering whether parents really do love their children equally or if they secretly have favorites. And if you do have a favorite, what is the reason for it?

2007-11-25 21:19:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

personally....I never do. To quote someone else I agree completely with on these Q and A's:

Agree. Don't get me wrong, children need discipline. But striking them is completely unnecessary. There are alternate methods, and the example you set is more important than any corrective action you take. What I mean is, you may have a child that needs to be smacked, but the reason they'll only respond to that is your behavior, as a parent. Moreover, striking a child as a form of discipline encourages the notion that physical violence is acceptable, as a solution to conflict.

2007-11-25 20:56:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do parents say to there kids when they see my son ,who is autistic and non-verbal, banging his head on the cement or slapping his face followed by loud bursts of vocal noises.

2007-11-25 20:38:26 · 6 answers · asked by Maynard Monroe 1

2007-11-25 20:33:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please provide the reason for your answer.

2007-11-25 20:33:41 · 11 answers · asked by Bean 1

Please provide the reason for your answer.

2007-11-25 20:32:59 · 5 answers · asked by Bean 1

My daughter is 4 years old and only eats pureed foods and crunchy foods. Crunchy foods include Melba Toast, some cereals, some cookies, crackers and some nuts.She does not eat any fruits or veggies that are not pureed. Now nutritionally she is fine and she is very healthy. I do add wheat germ, flax seed and iron infused baby cereal to her purees. Intellectually above average. Some tharapists say she needs intervention others say no. Anyone have or had a similar problem---Please write to me with your experiances

2007-11-25 18:41:01 · 7 answers · asked by mom 1

should parents have the right to be responsible for thier children even if thier moral compass is pointing the wrong way? Spanking is proved by many spychologist that it conveys the wrong messages and it is less effective in the long term. Spanking teaches children that the use of force and hitting is a solution to solving problems, thus later even leading to agressive behaviors and anxiety. What are your opinions?
If your gonna say a light tap is okay. If it doesnt hurt at all then whats the use even in the short term?

2007-11-25 17:34:01 · 13 answers · asked by Jake 1

I've always wanted children and my boyfriend and husband to be doesn't want children at all. he's very against it. he has a bad temper and has no patience for them. I think he would discipline them more than anything. I love him to death and I don't want to be with anyone else. Leaving him is not an option.

2007-11-25 16:54:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a court order that says that my xbf can pick up his daughter every weekend. This court order was before he married his now wife. There is nothing on the CO that says that she can pick her up.
Do I have to let my daughter's step mom pick up my child, if I feel that she is a danger to her?

I live in Wisconsin

2007-11-25 16:28:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

In a new relationship here and am having a bit of trouble as to understanding why it is that I just do not like his kids???
I have been a step mom before and NEVER had this problem but with this new relationship I am in his kids stick their noses in Pokemon game boys all the time they are even failing in school because they draw pokemon on their homework and teachers won't accept it.
The mother does not care, father does not have them enough and personally I can go away when they are here but why is it that I just do not like them???
No I have not said anything to anyone I feel so horrible about it but it is how I feel?????

2007-11-25 14:56:31 · 7 answers · asked by ღKrissyღ 5

Me and my brother was talking about marriage. I was asking him since he was 28 if he thought about marraige and he said yes and he add that he wanted to give my parents (who are in their 50s) a grandchild before they passed. I was telling that it was a good idea but it's also nice to adopt. He said he wanted his own (natural) kid. I was wondering what the real difference was? I'm just saying if you love a child, why does it matter if it came from you or another person? Isn't love just that? love?

2007-11-25 14:47:52 · 9 answers · asked by Suzy Suzee Sue 6

2007-11-25 13:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

First meeting, what are things you look for in a potential nanny? What are things that your nanny does that you love and hate? Any tips!

2007-11-25 13:45:23 · 4 answers · asked by Susan F 4

Do you think it is okay for boys to play with dolls or girls to play with toy guns or toy trucks? does playing with gender specific toys affect a child's sexuality?

i do not believe that the toys a kid plays with affects their sexuality; mostly because kids are not thinking about sex when they are playing with toys, it's adults that try to make things gender specific.

2007-11-25 11:56:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I changed toilet paper,and detergent. This has been goin on for a while. Any suggestions willl help.

2007-11-25 08:41:56 · 16 answers · asked by diva1lady 2

Im Irish he's moroccan...what do u think our child (a girl) will look like? Because of the current situation in America do u think she will suffer prejudice (people can be very prejudiced)? Im not religious so that wont be a prob (he is kinda), but do you think she will have other identity problems?Your opinions are appreciated :)
What do u call a person of that mix Iroccan, Arish lol?
-I posted this in the culture section but hardly got any A's.

2007-11-25 08:38:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous