I have a court order that says that my xbf can pick up his daughter every weekend. This court order was before he married his now wife. There is nothing on the CO that says that she can pick her up.
Do I have to let my daughter's step mom pick up my child, if I feel that she is a danger to her?
I live in Wisconsin
2007-11-25 16:28:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm not jealous. This woman and I were friends and decent with each other until she failed to give my daughter rescue medication that resulted in a 3 day hospital stay for my child.
2007-11-25 16:49:32 · update #1
This is tricky...you do not want to ever find yourself to be in a situation where you are held to be in contempt of court, which could involve jail time and fines for you, for denying visitation persuant to a court order. If you truly beleive she is a danger to your child, your recourse is to file a motion through the court system, where you must prove this. I know this is frustrating, it annoys me when my ex has his irresponsible, emotionally disturbed girlfriend care for my child the entire time she is supposed to be visiting with him. The fact that they are married makes your situation worse for you. I wouldn't do it unless she arrived intoxicated or screaming and/or fighting (then record her). In this case, you may consider filing a police report and building a criminal case.
2007-11-25 16:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by fantagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel shes a danger to your daughter , then why in the world are you sending her to dads house to begin with . Try to do whats best for your daughter. causing more strife in this situation is not whats best for her. Teach her to respect her stepmother , and you will be teaching her to respect all adults even if they dont like them . Did the step mom have the medicine to give your daughter and did she know how and when to give it to her. Try talking to the step mom and hashing out a relationship with her, your ex is married to her , shes not going away anytime soon . If its not in the papers anywhere then yes she can pick her up , if you really have a problem with the safety of your child , which should be concerend about even if dad is around if this is a real threat, then petition the court, with the proof you have for a modification. go to family court get a modification packet and write down why you feel she is a threat to your child , doing this will also limit the contact your child has with her father, he is married to the women. so think long and hard, is this just a mom/stepmom drama , or is your daughter really in danger.
2007-11-29 12:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if your ex is married to this woman, then the courts would consider it reasonable for her to pick up your child. You would have to present clear evidence that this woman is a 'danger' to your child for any court to forbid her contact. Even if they are not married, if they are in a legally recognized relationship then the same would apply.
My ex-hubby's ex-wife tried to ban me from having any contact with their kids. She too said that I was a 'danger' to her kids, but the courts finally recognized that she was just an embittered ex trying to cause trouble. As we lived together this made it very hard for the first few months until the courts ruled against her - not just for us but also the children.
If your ex is held up at work, it seems reasonable to me that he appoint someone he trusts to collect your daughter. I'm sure you would do the same if you were in that position.
If this woman really is a concern to you, you will need to prove it to the courts. Otherwise, you will just need to accept that your ex has moved on to a new relationship with a woman he obviously feels is competent and trustworthy enough to pick up your child and do anything else in terms of contributing to her life.
Think seriously before you take this further. Your daughter will be the one who suffers initially. And I can tell you, as she grows up, if she believes your concerns are unfounded it will rebound back on you as she grows older.
2007-11-25 16:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by chezzam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the answer is no, she wasnt a part of the family then so you can say no. But if the xbf were to take it to court and you were to fight it, You would need to proove that the new wife is a danger. Otherwise it looks as if you are unaccepting of the new wife or even jealous. I know that it is hard to accept a new person; so take the time and think it out sometimes the solution is just getting to know the other woman in your childs life. Sometimes they arent as bad as we precieve them to be.
2007-11-25 16:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by sweet tea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a D!CK! i can ascertain why you divorced him. what variety of jerk calls his daughter a liar whilst she's crying and insisting on the actuality? Then he hangs up on her? She hasn't accomplished the variety of element till now? Has she constantly been an honest woman? if so, i could proceed to inform her which you think her. Her step-mom looks like she has themes, if she's blaming a 10 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous woman with issues in her marriage. What a chew of crap. do no longer make your daughter be uncomfortable by employing going back to that abode. Stand by employing her and tell your ex which you think her a hundred%, and tell him that he desires to be a bigger dad and decide his baby first, like he ought to.
2016-09-30 04:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is a life or death issue, then i guess you could take it back to court.
OR
do you think the step mom learned a lesson from the incident, and would be more cautious with your daughter now?
i'm sure there is a lot to take into consideration.
if you're not letting her pick up the child for spite, well, that's just dumb... but it seems you have a real concern.
take care and i hope it works out
2007-11-25 18:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was given domicile custody of my kids. My ex-wife was allowed to have them every other weekend and 2 weeks during the summer. I found out her boyfriends name and was able to pull it up in public records and found he has been arrested several times for drugs and never showed up for any court dates. He has several warrants out for him. She has also been picked-up for drug possession and has failed to show up to her court date so now she has warrants out for her as well. I took her back to court and of course she did not show. I now have sole custody and she has supervised visits.
I felt my kids were in danger so I did not let my kids go back to see her. Or her take the kids because of the boyfriend. They were also having my kids stay in motels when she come pick up the kids before the final custody battle. Yes, I had to prove this and it was pretty easy. Now, she has not seen the kids in over 3 months. She calls and promises them everything but does nothing. She does not even pay her child support.
2007-11-25 18:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I volunteer at my local school and as long as the person is listed as a contact or pick up person they can legally pick up the child. If you have any legal paperwork started or stating that she can not that needs to be filed with the school. Hope this helps you. There is not much the school can do when there is conflict between parents and step parents.
2007-11-25 17:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you felt like she was a danger to her you wouldnt be okay with the dad picking her up knowing the step mom was going to be around her i think maybe your just a bit jealous
2007-11-25 16:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact your lawyer to know for sure. If you feel she is a danger to your daughter then talk to your lawyer and see what your rights are.
2007-11-25 16:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋