I have been wondering whether parents really do love their children equally or if they secretly have favorites. And if you do have a favorite, what is the reason for it?
2007-11-25 21:19:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Honestly, I love them unconditionally & equally...however, I don't "like" them all the same...but this is how I feel about everyone in my realm. We are all being humans, right??? Some humans are likeable & some just aren't, and often they can fluctuate in those respects...some we get along with well, some we just get along with, and some we avoid as much as possible.
My kids are no different...I have 3--2 boys, 24 & 20, and a girl, 10. My relationships with each are different and ever changing, since they are constantly growing & learning, and so am I. I will always love them with all my heart & soul, and I feel the same from them, but there are days we are on the same page, and other times we are in different books entirely.
Sure makes for interesting challenges in co-existence, doesn't it??? LOL
2007-11-25 22:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by MsET 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I love both my girls exactly the same. I was worried when I fell pregnant with my second that I just could not possibly love someone as much as I loved my first born. But a mothers heart is an amazing thing, it just grows with each child thus all children recieve the love they deserve.
Sometimes I do think I may be favouring one over the other but then I take a step back and reassess the situation and realise that I'm just catering to the different needs of each child. For example one may need big cuddles and kisses and lots of attention for a small bump while the other just goes "oops" and wants a kiss on the head and then is fine. That may look like favouritism but its not because sometimes one needs more than the other in different area's but it all balances out in the end.
2007-11-26 00:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son and I am now 24 weeks pregnant with a daughter. My Husband thinks that when she arrives all the attention will go to her 100% and none towards my son or him. I figured during the first few months I would be very busy with her, any extra time I have I would try my best to give it to them. I hope to love them both equally, I've dealt with my parents playing favorites with my siblings, and I wouldn't want my own children to go through what I went through.
2007-11-26 07:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my children equally and yet I love them for their different qualities.We all know that every child is different and therefore logically we cannot love them in exactly the same way.I've always said I loved each according to their need.As parents we are supposed to ensure our children feel loved and safe.Just think how difficult it must be for blended families to make each child feel loved and a part of the family.It is like gloves and mittens they are both different but their job is to protect the hand from the cold.That is the purpose of a family to keep the members safe from the cold..
2007-11-26 02:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely love my children equally. The love between a husband and children are so different it is difficult to compare; however, if I have to choose I would always say I love my kids more than anything.
2016-04-05 22:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is tough. I do love both my boys very much, but feel at different times I have spend more time with one over the other.
My youngest had colic as a baby really badly, and I used to have to spend night after night rocking and cuddling him. He was so restless.
Now my eldest is 80% deaf and has some breathing difficulties and my time is spent running him from appointment to appointment.
I feel awful for doing this, and do feel like a bad mother. I wish they were both healthy all the time and then I could spend all my time with both at them. But I don't love one over the other.
2007-11-25 21:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are different ages/personalities but both are equally getting all the love I have have to give to my children.
2007-11-25 22:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering I only one child I would have to say yes. Although my parents have their favorites - my dad favored all 3 of the boys - my mom favors her first born and her last of the 6.
2007-11-25 21:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪ Ŝħàřòñà ♪♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest i think most people believe the first child always has a special place in a mothers heart , but to be honest the second child for me was the one i bonded most with , i think it depends on circumstance sometimes , with my boy whos now 6 i suffered severe post natal depression witch effected my relationship with him and im still working on it now as he suffers from adhd and mostly everyday can be hard , but my daughter who is nearly 3 we have a completeley different relationship as i didnt have pnd i bonded and we are alot closer as i said i think it depends on circumstance .
Kitteek
2007-11-25 22:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by kitteek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, am TRYING to have equal love for my kids. Secretly comparison do come into our mind which is not good as parents.
2007-11-25 22:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by joe 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋