I've always wanted children and my boyfriend and husband to be doesn't want children at all. he's very against it. he has a bad temper and has no patience for them. I think he would discipline them more than anything. I love him to death and I don't want to be with anyone else. Leaving him is not an option.
2007-11-25 16:54:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
then there is nothing you can do..why have a child with someone who doesn't want one?? if you know he has a bad temper and no patience for them why have one with him?? at least he was honest and told you upfront he doesn't want any its better then you finding out your prego and then he tells you he doesn't want anything to do with the child..maybe in time he will change his mind and work on his anger problem
2007-11-25 17:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then you will not be having kids. You should really think about this. Forcing someone to have a child when they don't want one is very serious and not just for you. Your husband could leave you, resent the child. If he has a bad temper and no patience then he is right. He shouldn't have children and there is nothing wrong with that. You must do some serious soul searching. Can you live without him? Because you will just be living with him and him only for the rest of your life. If you truly need children to be happy, then you must reconsider the marriage. Perhaps just remain bf and gf.
2007-11-26 05:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by dallas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If leaving him is not an option, then be sure you don't have any children. If he has a bad temper, he might abuse them and that would be your fault because you knew this before you married him. If you really want kids, I urge you to really consider other options. I don't think you are the type that will be happy without a family and with this guy, there should be no family except you and him. Good luck.
2007-11-26 01:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if leaving him is not an option then you need to abandon the idea of ever being a mum. Don't try to get pregnant thinking he will change his mind because he won't. He may just leave you high and dry as a single mum. If he has such a bad temper and no patience for kids it is an indication what life with him would be with.
2007-11-26 01:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A person with a bad temper and no patience should not have children. If you want to have children find someone else. I also wonder how his bad temper and lack of patience play out in your relationship. Tell yourself the truth and act accordingly..
2007-11-26 03:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by ataimadi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait a second here.... if leaving him is not an option, then why are you asking this question? You have opposing viewpoints... you want kids, he doesn't... and unless you can reach an agreement, you are at an impasse.
To push and get him to change his mind or "accidentally" get knocked up would be very manipulative and a sure fire way to lose him. You can tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't change his mind, either accept it, or leave.
UPDATE: One more thing... don't create a fantasy in your mind that because someone is a certain age that they are suddenly going to start loving children or want them when they get older. If you think that, you are going to be waiting a LONG TIME for kids that will never come.
2007-11-26 01:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If leaving him is not an option, then you need to give up about having children. You won't be able to change his mind, and if he has no patience for kids, maybe he's right.
2007-11-26 02:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, please dont trick him "by forgetting the pill" like some woman said! that is decieving and when he finds out that will be a HUGE hit in your relationship...he may end up taking it out on the child as well! if he really doesnt want kids and has a bad temper...that is 2 red flags! his intolerance for children will negatively effect your children if you two do end up having kids...he may end up abusing them!!! you need to either suck it up and deal with the fact that he doesnt want kids, and wait until he is ready... if ever, or find someone who has the same basic needs as u do.
and this is coming from a woman who grew up with a bad tempered , impatient father!
2007-11-26 04:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by mamabird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him and find someone who shares your life goals and dreams. Trust me. He isn't worth throwing children away! I have a friend who went through this. She stayed with her boyfriend for 14 years and settled. She decided she didn't "need" to have kids and "loved him". But he ended up cheating on her and left her for another woman... and now she's too old to have kids (and has fertility issues).
Leave him. The sooner the better. He says what he means. You cannot change his mind. You deserve to be a mother.
2007-11-26 02:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia Rose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when he has children (if he change his mind, he will Iove them).. but if he really does not want to have children .. think twice about marrying him, it is every family dream... and it is an essential step to agree what to do before marriage, .... remember too that there could be an issue that necessitate counseling.. one more advice.. if your BF is in his mid twenties or less, he will love children down the road (just too young) if more than 30 it is unlikely that he will change his mind regarding having children
2007-11-26 01:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋