Parenting - October 2007

I was at Walmart shopping with my daughter (age 4). A black woman was there with her kids and somehow the little ones got to playing with each other. I was leaving to check out so I told her to come along. She wasn't ready to go yet, so she yelled out "No, dad, I want to play with the monkey!" Needless to say I was mortified and immediately apologized. The woman laughed it off (thank god), but how do I explain racism to my daughter? Has this happened to any of you?

2007-10-21 17:16:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

but.. what rights does that entitle him too.?

he is very irresponsible.. cant keep a job.. has two other little girls and has cheated on me the whole last year..

2007-10-21 15:59:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 2 kids , 7 and 5 , they have different dads, I split up with the 7yr olds dad while I was pregnant with him and met someone eles while he was a young baby. hes grown up thinking his stepdad is his dad, when he was nearly 2 i had my 2nd child with his step dad , a couple of years ago we split up , and my ex has both kids (occasionly ) and they still dont know they have different dads,
my son is only 7 and so far Its not seemed right to explain yet as he hasnt even approached the birds and the bees and so I felt that he may not fully understand the biological part and end up confused , hurt ..... rejected feeling .
but my ex has now boldly decided that its time to tell him and basically if I dont now he will .
so how do I approach this with a 7yr old , The one thought so far is with drawing up a family tree together ... I dont want to make it into a big deal , so he feels like hes ment to react as hes only 7 ,just slowly introduce the idea of him having 2 dads to build on !

2007-10-21 15:42:11 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know many people are "anti-spanking" towards their children and yes that is great. But i just need some points on what the negative outcomes of NOT spanking your child may be.
Example: they can rebel as teenagers....
PLEASE HELP!!! this question will be choosen for the best answer within 20 minutes. thank you

2007-10-21 15:04:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

If they walk past her house on the sidewalk, she comes out and yells at them to get off her property. She had a 5yo girl in tears last week, today she screamed at 2 kids using sidewalk chalk near (not on) her property. What can we do?

2007-10-21 14:53:26 · 11 answers · asked by Indiana Jones 6

I am a single mom age 29. My children are ages 7 and 4 (almost 5), both boys. Alex is the older one and Nathan is the younger one. I don't show any favoritism towards either one, I go out of my way to make sure neither one of them is treated any differently than the other.

I know that some sibling rivalry of course is normal and to be expected, but this goes on all day, every day!!! "Nathan stuck his tongue out at me" "Mom, Alex hit me..." I've tried everything, I've put them both in timeouts, taken privileges away, even put them both to bed and make them take a nap when they get overbearing and they won't stop! Nothing works and I am completely drained; if you have any ideas of how to at least slow down the fighting or completely nip it, please, PLEASE help me.

2007-10-21 14:46:57 · 28 answers · asked by jennnnn 4

I'm 11 an i wanna know if its ok to use myspace if not then i wll delete my account on there tell me please

2007-10-21 14:41:53 · 25 answers · asked by Videogame Lover 1

My daughter is older.

2007-10-21 14:39:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

.. children weigh rather than just "parents who request it" in an effort to cut down on obesity.
Surely most parents weigh their own children anyway and know damn well if they are overweight.
I am all for school medicals and so on like we used to have (and that includes the nit nurse) but surely this is ridiculous?

2007-10-21 14:08:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 13:39:29 · 7 answers · asked by Lions#1Fan 2

instead of mum is this normal he is ten ?


thanx

2007-10-21 12:44:13 · 35 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7

Just curious. I've never met a kid who did that, but it's bandied around on here like it's an everyday occurence.

2007-10-21 12:43:20 · 10 answers · asked by Maureen 7

I'v heard that 50% of people who look into adoption decide it's not for them. This is for various reasons, some include the aspect of open adoption is scary as adoption is not anonymous anymore, also the cost of adoption can be high, also the wait to be able to adopt an available child can be from 2 years to 7 years or longer in some cases (I know one lady who waited 15 years and finally adopted an infant at the age of 46), and for some people it's because they always wanted a child of their own flesh and blood, and they realize this after they've looked into adoption and thought long and hard about it. For myself, it's because I don't want social workers to be involved in what should have been a natural experience for my husband and I, ie-having a child. I decided I don't want a baby that badly and am happy being childless. (although I do want to be a foster parent) Do you think I will be judged negatively because of this for the rest of my life? It seems like it to me.

2007-10-21 12:33:56 · 33 answers · asked by stripedbook 5

Would you mind checking out my blog about my 3 year old ("Three year old sense of humor") and then tell me how it could possible qualify as Adult or Mature content. I got a "warning" from the Yahoo 360 team because I failed to mark it as Mature content. I'd really like to know if others think it is inappropriate as well.
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-XcthPpsid6eo0nfHzkRc53rwGduTpzJIF8fS2LI-?cq=1

2007-10-21 11:55:09 · 9 answers · asked by Sptfyr 7

why do children stammer in a young age of three

2007-10-21 08:53:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I realize that kids will be kids, but where do you draw the line of "He's just a kid" or "She's just a kid"? Shouldn't kids be required to take responsibility for their own actions at some point in time? I have seen people in public and I know people that take of for their kids and even make excuses for them, knowing they are in the wrong.

For example, I was in Wal-Mart the other day and there was a boy that was about 5 years old. He was walking down the candy aisle and just began to throw candy bars on the floor. Then he started knocking down the small bags of candy that were hanging on the racks.

People were staring at his mother and everybody was floored that she would allow this to happen. She grabbed him by the arm and said "What is everybody looking at? You never seen a kid do this kind of **** before?". I thought, what kind of crap is that? Instead of her scolding him and asking him to pick the candy up, she's taking up for him.

2007-10-21 08:18:41 · 14 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

It seems in this day and age when ever a child goes of the rails, the first port of call is the parents. We love to blame every thing on them.
But have we forgot about what rights parents have been stripped of, and how are children can disrespect us and we are powerless to stop them.

2007-10-21 07:11:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is okay if he goes to bed while we (me and my husband) are still awake but if he wakes up during the night and we're all asleep, he gets scared. He has been going in to sleep with my 16 year old son and the 16 yr. old does not like it all. I have told my younger son to turn on a light and read or play a video game but it doesn't work. I've also suggested he pray and read his bible but the fear is still causing him a lot of anxiety. I'm wondering if I should take him to a doctor and get a prescription for something to help him?

2007-10-21 07:03:37 · 12 answers · asked by Thia R 2

I was just curious to know cause this happened to someone I know she was at a doctors appointment and her little girl grabbed another little girl by the hair....and the child's mother smacked her daughter on the arm....well she got pissed because she doesn't whip her kids...and they where about to fight....how would you react in a situation like this and what should you do in a situation like this?

2007-10-21 06:40:57 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know you adore them and you 'wouldn't be without them' ...... but surely some of you wish you hadn't had children? I know it's a hard thing to admit but it would make women like me feel a lot better about our choice/circumstances if we knew the whole truth rather than only the fabulous parts that we're being deprived of. I adore kids but the men in my life haven't wanted them so I want to believe that life can be just as great (albeit very different ) in a child free zone! And I do have a great time ;-)

2007-10-21 06:33:40 · 31 answers · asked by pippi 2

I will be seeing my daughter at the courthouse. Should I take a gift? What type of gift should I take if I take one.

She is almost 17 (also her birthday is comming up). I was thinking of pearl earings; would that be too much?

15 years of searching and fighting for her and now I don't know what to do.

2007-10-21 04:35:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well i have witnessed alot of spoild teens making their parents life misrable, and yelling/fighting back at their parents. Do you think cause their parents didnt Slap their arses enuff????

2007-10-21 04:16:54 · 26 answers · asked by |-SalMaN-| 2

i have to read this article than summarize it, its about how parents dont need to spend money on toys to make their children smarter there are other ways to help your babies.......like listening to them reading to them........my point is how should i start the summary? please help thankyou

2007-10-21 02:10:23 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous 1

One of my boys has some delays due to mix of reasons. I had a very risky pregnancy with him, then in the hospital he was almost put into NICU, then he had failure to thrive, followed by hearing loss, then he regained the hearing (it was due to fluid). Anyway, so he has some delays that have caused his learning to be a bit off. My husband and I decided to punish him strictly with time outs. My parents know this, we went to go see them, and openly my father hit him. This was because my son wanted to take a nap and my father didn't think he needed to. Now my husband doesn't want to go to visit them at the holidays because he's more afriad than before that this will happen again. I agree, but I don't know how to approach this with my parents. They don't know that we saw it. I also don't know how to just cancel the plans I've already made without them wanting to come here instead. I've never trusted my father alone with my kids, and now I have even more of a reason not to.

2007-10-21 01:26:39 · 14 answers · asked by ... 4

why is that you have to have a liscense to catch a fish, but any dumb *** can have a kid???

2007-10-20 18:06:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-20 17:05:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now I know nothing has ever been perfect in the world. Never will be! But with what with it looks like today, it just seems like an impossible task to teach kids, teenagers and young people. About moraity and values. From things like Love, honesty, respect, integrity. All the "traditional" things I guess you can say were taught growing up. To be a decent human. I almost feel I can't take any of it seriously. The same people who teach you these things are the same people you see go against those exact same teachings. You know? I'm 21 and look at the world around me. I look at the older generation and feel like almost everything were taught is a lie. All those things your taught just seemed like lip service. The contradictions in action and words are just so constant!

And yes I know, grown people are people too. No one is perfect like I said!

So it hard to teach values, ethic, morals to the up and coming generation? And really mean it?

The messages are just screwed up!!

2007-10-20 14:43:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

then why cant we just keep the good things, medical advances and such, but go back to how things used to be in the world?

2007-10-20 14:40:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do you feel this way and what things are changed that effect this oppinion?

2007-10-20 13:44:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok my daughter is 19 years old now. she has a job and she still is living at home with me.... Is it bad for me to charge her half on everything ( Rent, Electric, Phone, Cable, Food.) ? Any advise on this would be helpful, thanks!

2007-10-20 13:42:28 · 42 answers · asked by karen878806 2