I will be seeing my daughter at the courthouse. Should I take a gift? What type of gift should I take if I take one.
She is almost 17 (also her birthday is comming up). I was thinking of pearl earings; would that be too much?
15 years of searching and fighting for her and now I don't know what to do.
2007-10-21 04:35:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sure a gift would be sweet. Just get her something you think she would like. Don't overthink it. She's probably just s nervous to meet you.
2007-10-21 04:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by greatgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Do not take a gift. Do not let her or anyone else get the impression that you are trying to "buy" her love. It doesn't work that way. See if she would be willing to go to lunch with you instead. That way, you are giving her the opportunity to get to know you. You have to also realize that this is going to be just as hard for her as it is you and she might have some resentment issues. Don't freak out. Understand that you are meeting a stranger. Treat her as if she is someone that you want to get to know as a friend. After missing her for fifteen years, you can't go in with guns loaded trying to be a parent. You don't want to do that to yourself. It will only cause you heartache. Also, get to know her and when her birthday comes, perhaps you will have a better idea of what to get her that she will appreciate and accept without reservations. Good luck and congratulations on finding her!!!
2007-10-21 06:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not take a gift! It will not look good! They can use that against you. Buy her a gift after everything is said and done. Do not bring a gift to the courthouse on the day of the hearing.
2014-12-22 07:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah bring her the earrings. She's 17? Pearl earrings are NOT too much. It's a birthday present. She should appreciate it. Good luck!
2007-10-21 04:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a gift would be nice. Try to get her something personal to show her how much you love her and that you have been thinking about her for the past 15 years. Perhaps you could get her a piece of jewlery with her birthstone, something like that. Good luck.
2007-10-21 05:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be lovely. Maybe a pearl necklace. Of course, it may not be her style, or taste, but since it is a classic she can put it in a drawer and wear it when the occassion arises, knowing it was given to her by her father. Just don't be surprised if she doesn't wear it often, and remember that she will remember that you made the effort and gesture. Good luck!
2007-10-21 04:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by wawawebis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her some flowers.should be enough.also congrats on finding her.i hope it all turns out ok.also may think about something she can keep.a angel figurine is popular,music box,anything like that or maybe some family pictures in a pretty album.dont worry the daddy instinct will kick in and youll know what to do.take your time with her.remember its overwhelming for her to.i know the urge to hug will be strong but let her make the first move.shes probably more scared than you are.shes at a tough age anyway.good luck
2007-10-21 04:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by mamanana9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a gift card to a nice store like, Bath and Body Works or Rue 21.
Tell her that... you would like to take her shopping. Just the 2 of you so that you can get to know her more and she can get to know you more.
You won't become friends overnight but... at least you can spend some time together.
2007-10-21 04:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Operator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you would feel most comfortable with. You can't control how she'll respond to you. No pearl earrings would not be too much. Whatever you can afford and wish to give is fine.
2007-10-21 04:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she will really be all too impressed with pearl earrings. I am a 34 yr old guy, but I think she might like an IPOD Nano with a gift receipt so she can choose to take it back of she wants to. Maybe not get her anything, because it is more about the two of you uniting. Very tough situation to know how to handle this. A bracelet might be cool, so she can wear it more than those earrings, and think of you when she wears it. Pearl earrings are something she might wear once a year or something. Tiffany necklace maybe? I like the idea of giving jewelry, but it needs to be something she can wear often. Hope this helps, and good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-21 04:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Yes I'd get her a gift! Pearl earrings would be lovely! They're very grown up and precious
2007-10-21 04:38:46 · answer #11 · answered by Holly Cookie Starr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋