Punishing your child is good?

Question

Well i have witnessed alot of spoild teens making their parents life misrable, and yelling/fighting back at their parents. Do you think cause their parents didnt Slap their arses enuff????

Answer 1

Yes.

Alot of parents think its wrong, but whats more cruel is to let your child grow up getting what they want then leaving them in this whole new and confusing world where they need to fend for themselves.

Answer 2

I don't know about the slapping their arses enough but I do know that yes, it's mostly due to children not being taught that there are consequences for their actions and too many parents trying to be the "friend" rather than the parent. Children don't even know what the word no means anymore, watch some and you'll see what I mean.

Answer 3

There is a verse in the bible that says, "Spare the rod, spoil the child."
This means.. if you don't correct your kids, they are going to get spoiled and that it not a good thing.

People take this verse and see it as... I shouldn't hit my kids and I SHOULD spoil them.

Not true.

I have a friend that has had everything handed to him. Cars, bills paid for. His parents even paid for his ENTIRE college education. He graduated from College not wanting to go into the field he got his degree from. He was out of work for over a year. Living off of his parents. He now works but... doesn't want to pay his parents rent. All he wants to do is watch TV and buy DVD's.
If he didn't have medical problems and need the insurance, he wouldn't work.
Yeah... people need to stop spoiling their kids.
You don't want them to be 26 years old and still living off of you like my friend is.

Answer 4

There comes a time in a child's life when they test there parents. Weather they know there doing it or not. Every one "tests the water" and when a child find out there boundaries they stay in them. Its the parents job to set reasonable boundaries. The teen that are out of control are that way because they have not boundaries and have wandered to far away from whats right and wrong.

PLZ remember Mother and Father are earned titles!! you don't get them for simply having a child.

Answer 5

All animals will test the limits of tolerance within their society. That, naturally includes so called (but questionable) ones like humans. Parents who allow their childern to grow up without defining the limits of acceptable behavior are creating people who feel that they can get away with anything and no one will object. they are surprised when they wind up facing legal action for playing games outside civilised tolerance. Mum and Dad are to blame.
A whack ont he backside - Well the saying goes "Spare the rod and spoil the child". The idea of "Punishment" is a clear and immediate expression of displeasure when authority is faced with transgression of the limits of tolerable conduct. It does not necessaryily mean physical assault though that worked well for centuries.
One person asked a question on the forum today - where were people so selfish and self centered. Your question and the answer is quite relevant to this situation. The family has broken up. Both parent workleaving children without guidance or supervision. Society today advocated violence in just about every medai. There is real violence all over the world. we are ruled by a governemtn that coerces the population int o submission by the rule of fear and under this umberella, takes away our social and civil rights. Religions groups rule by fear - of god, of hell of rejection and rule by theocracy.
Kids today are indiffifferent to social obligation to conduct themselves in a refined manner because they are not taught what is, or is not, right and wrong.
The religious fanatics declare that gay marriages will break up family values. With both parents away from home, with many single parent families, with "Latchkey" kids there are no familyies to have values or break up. Since it became "Chic" to have everyone "Diong their own thing, Man" that killed family values and with it the discipline that made children obedient, respectful and prepared to enter society with an understanding that they turn around the world, the world owes them nothing. There are wasy to punish without physical contact. But this is a pretty absolute indication of a parents displeasure and never hurt anyone as long as the was not violent or intended to be destructive. That is where swat ends and beatings begin.

Answer 6

No. I was one of those teens. But only to my mom. My biggest problem is that on one end, my mom would punish me and act like mom, but on the other end, she wanted to be too much of a friend. She wanted me to talk to her about my friends etc. And when she and my dad were fighting, I knew EVERYTHING about it. I was too involved in my parents life and with a teen mind, I saw myself more as an equal than a kid. In hindsight, I see my wrong doing, but at that point in time, how can you tell a kid that her dad, ie.: cheated, lost his job, was a drunk SOB and hit the mom, that we were over $2000 behind in rent, etc. and expect for this kid to "obey" you. You let a child grow up too quickly and they will not be a child anymore. You can't expect for a child to not mature growing up like that and then treat them as if they are their age and punish them for being caught in the middle.
ON the other hand, I do see kids everyday who are spoiled to the brim (mostly well to do families) and have never had a spanking in their life and treat their parents like crap. It's beacause you can't hand life to your child on a platter and then expect them to become a teenager and realize that they have to work for something. It doesn't work like that.

Answer 7

Yes, punishing your child for bad behavior is very important. It is teaching them it is not okay to act inappropriately, and they will hopefully learn from their mistakes. If you don't correct this behavior when it happens, it is sending a message to your child that: a) you don't care b) it is okay to act like that c) nothing will happen to you when you do that.

I don't agree with "slap their arses" won't do any good but make your child afraid of you. For any parent to use a spanking in that way (making them afraid of you) is just a dictator and shouldn't be a parent.

Answer 8

that sort of behaviour could be caused by heaps of things, - parents being too lenient and not discipling the kids, parents being too strict, or just that the kids r teenagers and thus emotional and moody.'
the way parents raise their kids makes a big impact on the kids actions as they grow older, different kids need to be raised differently. You cant really generalise.

Answer 9

Without discipline, kids assume they can do whatever the heck pleases them...no matter. If you watch you can see that people who "don't believe in spanking"'s kids are rebellious, jerks and couldn't care less.. however those who spanked their kids, are wellbehaved,and less rebelious.
Yelling/Fighting back at parents would've never been accepted back about 20 years. At 16 even, parents woulda whipped that belt/rod out and whipp 'em. The rod of correction, drives out rebellion.

Answer 10

no I dont think so I have always believed in smacking we have a 19 and 14 yr old girls and I slapped them growing up if they were naughty their Dad VERY rarely hit them ever and they are both cheeky esp my 19 yr old she yells and fights but I think its more to do with trying to be more of an adult and put herself on our level ...she doesnt get that we are still her parents and I seem to keep yelling the word "RESPECT" at her.
Our younger teen is also very outspoken and will argue back but both of them have worn plenty of whacks growing up!When I hear other parents their complaints always seem worse than mine and their girls are getting up to much more scary things so I guess in the long run we are doing okay.
I think there is a lot of freedom now and kids expect and demand to be treated as if they are older than they are and sadly a lot of parents buy into that.
I know kids who are 14 and stay out half the night at parties but even my 19 yr old has a curfew ...its all about respect.