Ok my daughter is 19 years old now. she has a job and she still is living at home with me.... Is it bad for me to charge her half on everything ( Rent, Electric, Phone, Cable, Food.) ? Any advise on this would be helpful, thanks!
2007-10-20 13:42:28 · 42 answers · asked by karen878806 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't think so. My parents always said that if I was living with them and going to school I could stay for free, but if not, I had to pay rent. I think it just makes kids mature faster, knowing you won't always take care of their every need.
2007-10-20 13:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jody 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I also have a 19 year old at home who is going to college part time and has a part time job. We do not charge him anything as his part time job doesn't pay very well. Half is a little steep. She should help pay part of the expenses but not half. Unless she's a complete troll, enjoy the company she offers you. For half the expenses, she could definitely find a cheaper apartment with a friend, set her own rules and be on her own. I'd back off on half the expenses and charge her room and board ($100 to 300 per month).
Hope this helps.
2007-10-20 13:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by chris p 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 06:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I had to pay half and buy my own food when I was living at home. My parents owned thier home so instead of 1/2 the rent I rented my room and my daughters from them for 100$ a month.
2007-10-21 00:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what your goal is with doing it. If it is to teach her the value of the money she earns, then yes. But, if it is to make her move out sooner, then it may not be the greatest idea, unless you are putting the money she pays you into a savings account to help her reach that goal. I am saying this because the "rent" you charge her may not allow her to pay a deposit on a place of her own. On the other hand, if she is just wasting the money she earns, without any real goal, then it may be a good reason to charge her rent and make her realize that she cannot just live at home for free forever.
2007-10-20 13:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by mystry72 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My parents charged me the difference it would be if I wasn't there and just called it all "rent".
Sit down with her and talk about her fiances, and her plans for the future. Also talk to her about being careful with her money (and yours). Talk about the electric, phone and cable and especially grocery. Now is a good time to teach her about budgeting and saving. The grocery bill is a hard split because then you get into who ate what and all that and it just seems really frivolous between mother and daughter.
If she is just trying to save a little to move out on her own, then I think you should try to help her and not charge her half. I'm sure she would be on her own if she could be.
2007-10-20 14:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'd say yes...if she's got a job she's already learning responsibility and establishing herself financially and you're kind of undermining that, as well as possibly straining your relationship with her. However, she's an adult, and it's your house, so it's obviously your choice.
I'm 19, and I know things would get difficult between my mom and I if she started charging me rent when I was working at a hourly-wage job and still working on getting on my own two feet and becoming independent.
My mom's told me in the past that I always have a home with her, and even though I'm working on getting myself started in life and aren't "planning" on going home and living off my mom, it's extremely comforting to have my mom tell me that, to know that I have someone to support me if something goes wrong, and to know that I won't get kicked out because I can't pay a financially comfortable adult rent.
2007-10-20 13:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i charged my kids rent when they got jobs after graduating. I didn't at first and they were going to the shore, eating out, buying things and had plenty of money. Why should I scrape by when they were living the life? New policy, 'if I pay, then they pay'
2007-10-21 03:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by sjdelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my kids get older IF they are in school they can stay for free. Other than that I would make them pay the light bill & water and keep the house clean. To ask for 1/2 of everything I would think you really want me out. I woud not ask my kids to pay for food, but I would not buy them special things at the store either.
2007-10-20 13:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by texas mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 19 years old, I'm going with no. Of course if your daughter is trying to save money to move out on her own or if she is going to college than I personally wouldn't charge my child rent, but I don't think it's wrong to either.
2007-10-20 14:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jodyblonde 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Would she lived for free somewhere else? Charged her rent, put it in the bank and when she moves out then give it all back to her. It will be a nice little send off gift. Do not tell her.
2007-10-20 13:52:13 · answer #11 · answered by Gary 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋