Parenting - July 2007

'ok nif some 1 in ur family died and u havent talk to ur family becuz of problems wat should u feel guilty or pain or maybe both. should u be there or not r u intitled to be there wen u hardley no the person after a fight with the family

2007-07-23 04:24:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I let my daughter get her ears pierced when she was 8. My son is coming up to that age now, and he says he wants both of his ears pierced.

I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. Earrings, especially as a a pair, seem to me at least to be particularly girlie or gangster, and I would not let him wear a dress or knuckle dusters.

On the other hand, letting my girl do it at that age but not my boy stinks of double standards.

2007-07-23 04:07:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have to add to my question thats why we have so much crime in US?

2007-07-23 03:16:17 · 4 answers · asked by Kathie 2

yes that is what happened...two parents (the mccans) took maddie age 3 and the twins aged 18mths on hols...left em in unlocked hotel room while they went for a meal & maddie was snatched.
At current they're not suspected of anything yet my belief is I do not think they shud b allowed to work in their proffession(doctors) any longer-why the hell should they be trusted to look after other peoples kids when they cant be trusted with there own.
It has been talked about that it seemed strange that all their children were asleep not stirring at the same time-
possibly they gave them some of that medicine(cant remember its name)that makes kids with sleep problems sleep(also used for adult hayfever)
as if sum1 took the child and no suspisions arised in the hotel....wouldnt madeline of been screaming I know my 4 yr old would of!unless she knew the person or was in a state of sleep still.And why did they just take madeline would one of the twins not of been easier to take-smaller and less likeley to shout out something like wheres my mummy I dont know this person etc.
I do feel bad for them as if it happened to me Id be devastated but then again I wouldnt put my children in that situation.
how can two grown ppl of good proffessions be so irresponsible...I dont go out to the garden when my kids are in bed let alone out for a meal...the fact that they seriously had no quarms about their safety-getting out of bed/pulling things on themselves/generally getting up to mischief and hurting themselves like little ones can.Why did the mcanns have confidence that that wouldnt happen...had they drugged them with sleeping medicine.
I genuinley dont beleive otherwise that any normal human being would leave children.
It rings too many bells for me and all seems a little dodgy.
It just concerns me where there twins are now.
I think if maddie is returned safeley she should not be returned to the mccans.
If it was anyone else that had done this there twins would of been in care now but because theyr proffesionals they are treated better.
There was a small article in the paper today that a lot of ppl in britain have protested that the mccans should be investigated/prosecuted for neglect.
DAMN RIGHT THEY SHOULD.And b4 all the whiners on here start objecting to what Ive said Im not saying that I dont hope maddie is found alive and well but yes I am saying the mccans should be investigated...however bad they feel about maddie in my eyes they still neglected their children by leaving them on their own.

2007-07-23 03:14:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-07-23 03:14:00 · 28 answers · asked by Kathie 2

I have my 6 year old niece whom I keep for 3 days a week every week. She loves to test limits on how far she can get before she's punished. While out in public this weekend she would not come to me in a crowd and hold my hand. I told her twice what I wanted her to do and then counted to three. When she still wouldn't come I took her off to the side told her what was wrong and what I had expected from her and then gave her three swats on the behind. Her mother is perfectly fine with spanking and has granted me permission to use that as a tool.

A lady came up to me and said if she had her cell phone on her she'd call the authorities for child abuse on me. Am I crazy abusive or overly stern? Should I have been arrested??!

2007-07-23 02:03:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I frequent the Wedding section of Yahoo Answers a lot. Frequently, people will ask the question about not having children at their wedding. Many people that answer the question say, "if my kids aren't welcome, I'm not coming"

Does anyone find that response selfish and childish? Come on people. Why is it that some parents can't understand their is a time and place for children.

I'm not against children at weddings. But, you do have to see it from the bride and groom's perceptive. If they invite children, they most have extra seats, extra food and extra dessert, etc. That costs money.

I often find these parent's "rationalizing" ways in which the couple can "save" so that they can invite their children. Everything from having an on-site babysitter to parents bring their own food so the bride and groom don't have to provide it.

Why can't adults realize that children are just not invited to certain events? Let's change the scenario

2007-07-22 17:29:27 · 35 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

2007-07-22 17:02:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

borrowed your credit card to go online and buy you some Parenting lessons!

I'd like for my Daddy to modernize his parenting. Some of my concerns:

1) Not letting me have e-mail, Facebook or MySpace
2) Overreliance on threats of corporal punishment for backtalk and getting in trouble at school
3) Holding me to a clothing budget
4) Forcing me to go to boarding school this fall.
5) Demanding to do a "wardrobe inspection" before I go out.

Thank you and good day!

2007-07-22 13:28:52 · 23 answers · asked by Lori 5

2 are 9 and one is 6. They constantly tell my 5 year old she is dumb and stupid. They also come into my home and jump on my furniture, sream shut up to my daughter and then get offended if I say something to them. My sister thinks they are angels and I am the one with the problem. What do you think?

2007-07-22 12:51:08 · 29 answers · asked by Amanda W 1

Our son has Aspergers and is 10. He is on Risperadol for the autistic symptoms. Anyway, I was cleaning and he came to ask me about Heaven and is there another place after that. I told him that when a person dies there is a Heaven and that is where you go- and we talked about this for awhile. I stopped cleaning because I knew he was upset and we sat and just talked. He seemed better...but a few minutes later- he had tears running down his face and was crying on the couch. He asked if it was normal to worry about dying and he worries something is going to happen to one of us or to him or his sister. We talked some about this and I tried to reassure him, but I don't think he is feeling better.

He frequently asks questions about science that are so high-level- I have to look up the answers with him to get him his answers. Lately, they are hypothetical.

What would you tell your child? My heart breaks because he has worked himself up so.

Thank you for listening.

2007-07-22 11:10:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your baby is 3 mos old and was born early? and baby is having to be on Qxygen and has had medical problems, Would you go out of town and leave your baby with a 19 yr. old baby sitter? Even if it was just an overnight trip and you would be coming right back, would you go and leave your baby? Knowing this and the baby also has clift plate and sometimes gets choked when eating because the milk comes through it's nose! Just wondering what some Mothers out there think and is this Moral ?

2007-07-22 09:31:57 · 21 answers · asked by monkeymomma46 5

2007-07-22 04:45:38 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love being a full time mom and housewife. Sometimes it's challenging, especially when my husband is deployed, and when my brain starts to feel kinda mushy from consistently being on a 2 year old level! But it's all worth it to me.

My question is this, am I the only person who gets offended by people and family who imply I am wasting my life or am lazy because I do not earn an income?

I could work if I wanted, and sure, the extra money would be great. But the price is too high as far as I am concerned. I work my rear off at home and I love it. How do you react to these kinds of people with tact?

2007-07-22 03:48:03 · 24 answers · asked by SKY 2

My father has not been a part of my life since I was 8, I'm now 25. Luckily my mom didn't give me his last name but his name is on the birth certificate. Other than white out, can I legally have his name removed??? I was born in Los Angeles if that makes any difference.

2007-07-21 21:25:00 · 13 answers · asked by ron_diggler 2

You know the stuff that parents keep in the house to make the children vomit incase their child ingest something poisonous. I’ve read that doctors are recommending against using it. Not to mention some parents have abused it in cases of child abuse.

2007-07-21 21:16:34 · 2 answers · asked by mytwoboys 2

My ex has not been around to see our daughter in almost a year, he is supposed to have her everyother weekend...He wasnt around even when we were together.

2007-07-21 19:02:12 · 11 answers · asked by mommy_of_two 1

My wife and I found out 2 days ago that we are pregnant with our second child. Our daughter will be a 1yr in the beginning of August. Having a 2nd child is something we both wanted but last night the two us ended up staying up a long time, talking and wondering about how much work a 2nd child may or not be, what it'll be like to have 2 babies instead of focusing on just one.
Is adding another child to the family a big stress factor?

2007-07-21 18:44:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-21 18:10:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mine all begin with B. Brookie, Bethany, Britnai (pronounced Brit-nee), Bailey, and Bonnie. We actually didn't plan that, but when we were expecting our third, we happened to like another B name, then when our 4th came we just thought "might as well stay with the letter." LOL.

2007-07-21 18:01:22 · 12 answers · asked by ellen 4

Alright here's the deal...

My best friend is 16 turning 17 in november...
I'm 17, turning 18 in January...
We are going into grade 12 next year...
We are planning on moving out together in the begining of our grade 12 year...
We both work at the same grocery store... I make minimum wage, she makes slightly more...

Any advice on moving out while still in high school and working a low paying job?

Don't say don't do it because thats not exactly an option seeing as she's being kicked out and my living situation is less than ideal...

2007-07-21 17:05:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

what and how do we tell our child about what we believe and all that .. i dont want to discount either of our beliefs or tell them one is right and the other is nonsense?

2007-07-21 15:48:10 · 10 answers · asked by zebrafinchlover 3

My husband and I agreed tonight that we are going to start trying for baby number two! I'm so excited! At the same time, I'm nervous about it all! What are things to take into consideration? I did have two kids [one of which was my cousin who is temporarily gone--well I don't know what's going on there...long story] so other then the typical two kid things what do I need to look out for or forward to?

By the way--my son will be about 2-3 years old when the baby comes! Thanks!

2007-07-21 15:43:28 · 11 answers · asked by .vato. 6

I just started back to work. Our 23 yr old niece is watching our kids 4yr and 10 month. When I came home Friday the baby was very fussy, didn't want to be on the ground, and was having trouble crawling. I gave her Tylenol coz I thought it was related to her teething. This was very unusual for her. 2 hrs later I asked the niece if the baby had fallen today. She said "Yes, she was playing with her brother in the living room; when pulling up to stand she fell back. I was in the kitchen preparing her formula."That was that. Next morning I ask the 4 yr old if his sister had fallen down and he says, "Yes, she fell off the bed. Susie (the niece) put her on the bed and told me to play with her. She moved back too far and fell off the bed." When I asked where Susie was when it happened he said "On the computer checking her e mail".
What would you do? We are fixing to confront her and I am ready to leave my job of 2 weeks to stay home with my baby. It's not worth it. I thot we could trust Susie

2007-07-21 14:25:41 · 18 answers · asked by af 1

There is a lady in my neighborhood that I’m friends with. From time to time I go over to her house to catch up on the latest gossip and so forth. She is really strict with her kids. She makes go to bed at 8 pm. She makes them clean their plate when they eat and she is really strict with their school grades. She also corrects behavior that seems to be normal for a kid. More than once I had to wait as she brought them in the bedroom with a paddle in hand to spank them for something like being to loud. She gave them like two or three swats and stayed in there until they stopped crying.

Well last time I came over her oldest who is 7 was standing in the corner. I asked her what he did and she said he broke something playing in the house. Well I was over there for an hour and the whole time her child was in the corner. She told him a couple of times to face the wall. When I left he was crying softly and looked like he has to go to the bathroom.

2007-07-21 13:36:51 · 27 answers · asked by mytwoboys 2

they are always buying my daughter stuff, they bring presents over almost every other day.
I have tried talking to them about it, and it doesn't help.
I dont' mind them getting her stuff every once in a while but its getting to be to much.
She is a brat whenever she comes back from their house, and always acts out and doesn't listen. because they let her get away with everything and anything.
We have been cutting back time with them and not letting her spend so much time with them. kind of hard when they live a few doors down and come over anyways.
last night she spent the night at their house, today they pull up in the van and bring in 2 bags of chips, fruit rollups, juice, gum, watermelon, sugar filled cereal, cookies, and a new movie.
then she she goes over to help with the veggie garden and comes home with new sunglasses and a bag of donuts and popcorn!
is this to much or is it just me !??!
My dad made the comment, "this is what happens when i don't see her for a few days"

2007-07-21 13:02:10 · 13 answers · asked by 3 girls call me mommy 5

I've been on DSHS for a few months while I've been out of work. I finally got dental exams for myself and my kids since I finally got medical coupons from the State. Unfortunaly we weren't able to be seen for our resorative treatment (fillings) for a couple months due to the fact the dentists schedules are overbooked. My family's dentist appointments are scheduled in just a few days, but my problem is I just started a new job.

My new job requires me to work overtime, yet their main concern is that I always show up for work on time, and that I dont miss any days. I didn't tell them I had a dentist appointment because I really wanted the job. It only pays $10 per hour, which keeps me and my kids in poverty, but at least it IS a job.

Should I risk losing my new job to keep our dental appointments? Or should I just let the decay in our teeth get worse and leave it untreated to keep my job?

(BTW: I only worked 3 days at my new job already)

2007-07-21 10:37:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I rent my kids a limo for their prom, does the limo hang out and wait for them to go home and charge me for the whole time or do they leave and then come back and pick the kids up?

Also, I never went to mine so I don't know, but how long does the prom usually last?

And, who pays for the limo, the parents of the boy or the parents of the girl?

My kids are still way too young but I was watching the new Carrie last night and I started to wonder.

Thanks!

2007-07-21 09:50:51 · 7 answers · asked by jhnysgirl 4

I am a parent and know how hard it is to look after a kid and also try to enjoy a meal at a restaurant. It seems I always notice kids screaming and crying and running around alone. I don't think this is acceptable behavior. I think when it happens one of the parents needs to take the kid outside for some serious words. IF you don't agree what reasoning do you have that it is ok to disrupt everyone elses peace in the room while your kid crys and you ignore everyone

2007-07-21 08:14:33 · 20 answers · asked by George L 2

I'm 17, still living at home. There are times when I physically don't feel so hot like any normal person. It's not often, but still I usually keep it to myself. I don't like telling my parents when I'm sick or feeling bad. My mom hates it, but I feel like I should bear my burdens alone. I don't feel like they should have to worry about me. I guess it's their "job," but I'm a "big girl" now. I might be sick, but I feel like I should deal with that. They have other things to be concerned about, not any of my issues. Don't get me wrong, mom's not concerned about petty headaches or stuff like that, but stuff she considers worth knowing. The only time I say something is when it's just really really bad, something like my arm is hanging on by only a piece of skin. (not really, but you get my point.)

Do you think the way I feel is fair to them? I just don't want them to worry about me. I feel as if I should be able to worry about myself.

2007-07-21 08:00:01 · 7 answers · asked by insidious_22 2