If your baby is 3 mos old and was born early? and baby is having to be on Qxygen and has had medical problems, Would you go out of town and leave your baby with a 19 yr. old baby sitter? Even if it was just an overnight trip and you would be coming right back, would you go and leave your baby? Knowing this and the baby also has clift plate and sometimes gets choked when eating because the milk comes through it's nose! Just wondering what some Mothers out there think and is this Moral ?
2007-07-22 09:31:57 · 21 answers · asked by monkeymomma46 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
For the record, I am not the Mother , I am asking this question out of concern for a loved one! And NO she didn't go for a job or anything like that! Maybe to just get away! And no she didn't leave any family EMS numbers to call, I ask the baby sitter who she would call in case of an emergency and she said I DON"T KNOW!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-22 10:03:35 · update #1
no never
my child was on an apnea monitor for over a year cuz he would stop breathing
and i never left him overnight ever i always thought something would happen when i was gone or someone wouldnt hear the monitor go off
i would hardly let anyone watch him during the day cuz he had to take a nap and he might stop breathing
but its up too u
u will know what ur comfortable doin
best of luck
2007-07-22 16:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is child endangerment in my eyes. I have a three month old son who was born very early and will soon be coming home from the hospital and although he had no medical complications I would not leave him, even with a sitter I trusted and had years of experience. That mother was wrong and selfish to leave "just to get away", especially without any emergency numbers or a way to contact her. If I ever knew someone to do that I would have called child services, no parent should leave behind a child without people knowing what to do or who to contact - that is just plain wrong. A mother as irresponsible and selfish as that should not be trusted with an innocent baby that has medical problems and needs extra attention. Even my children who were born completly healthy were not left with a baby sitter for even a few hours until they were almost nine months old. I also only allow relatives/friends who know my children well to watch them.
2007-07-22 10:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the maturity of the babysitter I guess. Personally both of my children were very early, 2 months and 4 months early and had to be on Oxygen, apnea, heart, and pulse ox montitors, feed every 3 hours no matter what and had 5 to 6 medicines that had to be given at specific times. I think both of my girls were about a year old before I would leave them with anyone because not only was I not comfortable with it and others werent either because of the amount of things that went along with it. After my youngest came home I didnt leave the house other than for dr apts for about 3 months because I was so afraid of the germs. I can understand how tied down the mom feels and the need for a break but the kid has to come first. If she just needs a break she should check into getting respite care. It was offered to me I just chose not to use it. Basically someone comes for what ever hours are agreed on and takes care of the baby while you run errands or just take a break. Most insurances or medicaid will pay for it.
2007-07-22 10:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by thumpergirl_1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO I would not, I don't think a nineteen year old is responsible enough if she didn't even say 911 when you ask her who she would call that would have been my first clue and then a mother can always take care of her child better than anyone else. I understand maybe she may need some time away all mothers do, I know I do, but I go get my nails done or just go out by myself or take a long bath until she was out of danger I would not be away from her for even a night unless I left the child with my mother
2007-07-22 11:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by */-Puss-n-Boots-/* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! This is not a wise idea. ALthough she may come back and find her baby as chipper as before, she may not, and none of us would want to thing about the may not part of it. Besides, a nineteen year old babysitter may and may not be nearly as responsibl as you might think. Children, especially medical problems, shoulc not, in the first place, be leaving their mothers at such an early age. Bonding, AND health combined are two things that you tend to let slip for your baby when you leav. I know it would only be a day. BUt a bad experience for a little one, even once, sticks. I'm telling you from my own experience. And it was when I was young AND just a day!
For the mother's sake, I say it is not a wise idea.
Besides, if something were to happen, the mother would never EVER be able to forget it. Just immagine....Also, to 'get away' from your 3 month old?? Isn't that the best part of a baby??? Babies aren't babies for ever, and once their two, everyone wants to 'get away'!!!
2007-07-22 10:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by The Naturalist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not leave my child overnight with a 19 year old babysitter. Is there a valid reason why she is going out of town for the night? This mother may need a break from things but she should get someone a little more experienced and definitely leave numbers of where she will be and EMS numbers.
2007-07-22 10:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im 19 and would be scared as hell being left alone with a kinda unhealthy baby like that. Definetly would make sure i had 911 or something that i could call. but i do know baby cpr so i wouldnt be too helpless just afriad something could happen, i understand if the mom feels stressed but i think dad or grandma or someone older , whose had kids and maybe even a CNA or something but not just some 19 year old. I couldnt do that to my baby, especailly not leaving any numbers for her to reach me.
2007-07-22 14:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by corrick_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age of the sitter may be irrelevant, depending on the sitter, but not leaving emergency info is irresponsible. With that many health problems to deal with, I can sympathize with the mom wanting to get away. Maybe instead of critcizing, you could offer to help her out by giving her a day off once in a while.
2007-07-22 11:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I don't think I'd leave the baby with a 19 year old unless this person really knew how to deal with the baby's feedings and what to do in an emergency.
I have a daughter born with a cleft lip/palate (she's 5 now), so I can empathize with the feeding issues.
Is there family who could take care of the little one?
2007-07-22 09:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by AV 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you're in a situation aren't you? On the one hand, you probably need a break. Taking care of a newborn is hard enough, having the medical issues probably makes it 100 times more demanding. If you need a break bad enough, I wouldn't feel guilty about taking it, ONLY if you would trust your life with this 19 yr old. Is she responsible, etc? My first reaction was, heck no! But, only you can make that choice. If you're under a great amount of stress (which I'm sure you are), sometimes a break can make all the difference in the world!
Good luck!
2007-07-22 09:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by SKY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋