'ok nif some 1 in ur family died and u havent talk to ur family becuz of problems wat should u feel guilty or pain or maybe both. should u be there or not r u intitled to be there wen u hardley no the person after a fight with the family
2007-07-23 04:24:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First my sympathy on the loss of a family member.Even when we feel disconnected from family we still feel a sense of loss.All the emotions you are feeling at this time are very real and valid.You probably regret that things were not different.If you feel the desire to pay your respects to the family of the deceased then do so.Would you have a family member or friend who would accompany you,should you decide to go,so it will not feel so awkward? Perhaps you could call a family member to test the waters.Only you will know what is right for you.You cannot change the past ,we only have today.It may be an opportunity to renew your family ties but I really can not predict how things will turn out.Take care.
2007-07-23 05:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong answer to this, and it is not necessary beating yourself up trying to figure out what you should feel. If you were not close to the person you probably have little if any grief, and that is fine because you have no reason to grieve for a person you hardly know. I never had a close relationship with my family. Two years ago my father died, I went to a funeral and it was as if I went to the funeral of someone I knew, not a close relative. I am sure when my mother passes away it will be the same. That is me you are a different person, you may or may not feel the same way.
2007-07-23 13:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong way to feel, everyone deals with a bereavement in their own individual way. If you feel as if you would like to be there, then BE there. Maybe even take this opportunity to reconnect with your family, and make some good come out of a tragedy.
2007-07-23 12:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't answer this. I can't tell you how you SHOULD feel. you should feel the way you ARE feeling, if that makes sense.
If you want to be there to pay your respects, by all means go. Go, make a quick appearance and then leave. You have every right to be there.
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2007-07-23 11:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could barely read this. Use the time in which you aren't grieving to brush up on your writing skills.
2007-07-23 11:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Lucifer♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you use proper grammar? I can't really understand what you are saying. And please use specific details as well.
2007-07-23 15:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋