Parenting - October 2006

I have decided to take off work early so that i can take my daughter trick or treating which will be out first. In the past we have not been able to go bc I have always had to work evenings and/or nights and she was always at her grandparents house, whom never took her or the other grandchildren. Well for the first time in 5 yrs I now have the opportunity and I want to take her. Problem is my fiance does not want her to go bc of something that happened when he was kid, that happened to somebody else. He suggests that I take her trick or treating but then throw away all her candy and buy her some more, bc he doesnt trust people. I understand but I dont understand. He's even gone as far as to say that people could contaminate the candy in the factories their made, so my question to him, was why even throw away the candy to buy even more contaminated candy??? Of course no reply, just that he doesnt want anything bad to happen to her but neither do I. what compromise can we come to?

2006-10-28 05:09:10 · 28 answers · asked by Free_Spirit 3

Ever tried being a single mother of three, and work full time and go to college part time, and get no help from your government to help with these lovely children I am raising alone, to give them the best life possible? It sure is hard!! Help!

2006-10-28 05:03:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a girl,age 13(in December I turn 14).On 16 January this year I was raped by an unknown criminal while I was getting back from a party at midnight.I got pregnant and I kept the baby.3 weeks ago I delivered a girl.Now the girl is at home and my mother(my father is absent parent) takes the care for the girl and doesn't let me hold her and even touch her.She lets me see her only once a day for a minute and then locks the door of my daughter's room and doesn't let me go inthere.The baby is healthy and everything is ok with her and there is no reason for me not to see her.I want to see my baby and take the care of her.What should I do?

2006-10-28 04:54:01 · 19 answers · asked by linda j 1

Yesterday was a really rough day for us. We've just found out my husband will be serving a second deployment to Iraq. Not only that but my cousin (who lives with us and has been for the past two years) has now convinced his class that he gets multiple birthday parties and has invited them over. He was born on 9/9/01--two days before 9/11. This year we had a birthday party for him and then we had a party to honor those lives lost and those serving for the events that happened on September 11th. He now believes that they were both for him. I explained to him that on 9/11 people died for a very sad reason. I've explained to him that Tio (my husband) has to go to war during his last deployment. He is five years old and now asking a lot of questions. I don't know how to deal with it! I don't know how to explain. How do you explain war and death to a five year old? How can we do this without scaring him? Any advice is appreciated!

2006-10-28 04:22:27 · 8 answers · asked by .vato. 6

How is the best way to catch your teen ager in the act, or check out what they are, who they are chatting with descreatly, and privetly? Without their knowledge ? How do I alert authorities to, perverts and adults posing as teens ?
My son is 16,
Help....

2006-10-28 03:40:00 · 9 answers · asked by paula b 2

Caring or over protective?
r my parents over protective

(im the youngest child, i have read Q/A and it seems that the yougest child is always over protected)

im a 13 year old male my parents never let me have friends over, they never let me go outside of my block, they might not even let me go trick or treating with my friend or let me go at all cause my mom is at work that day. they never let me have friends that are a girl, once a girl called cause she wanted help on her homwork (math she is bad at it and im am good at it) and my dad was lisning on the other phone so i started messing aroud and told her to make my dad angry and we started "flirting". and he got sooo mad. back to the point,

i feel that the more over protective they r the more i do stuff like lie. for example i thinking of getting a couple friends over and egg the kid we hate house. and i always wait till my mom goes to work and sneak in the movies and once i got caught by a cop and ran.

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2006-10-28 03:30:26 · 13 answers · asked by some,random,guy 2

2006-10-28 01:33:00 · 13 answers · asked by anthonypham504 1

would like to give her a party with all her family but no room and struggling to find somewhere to hire in London. Any ideas

2006-10-28 00:47:29 · 16 answers · asked by Neal K 1

I'm wathching a re-run of Jamie's School Dinners. I am shocked and appalled to watch the parents who are dragged to these meetings he sets up, obviously upset to be taken away from their tvs and tennant's super, and told what their kids are eating. And geuss what? They don't care because they think their kids won't like the healthy alternative. The question is: Why are parents and schools so interested in what the kids think? When I was a kid in the 80's i was told it was not a democracy. I got what i was given, and if I had thrown even ONE of the animalistic tantrums that these kids threw I would have spent my childhood in my room (Without tv, ps2, stereo or computer. Where are the REAL parents??? Can SOMEONE please raise the children????????????????????????

2006-10-28 00:29:11 · 34 answers · asked by armand880 1

Give me an example of a white lie please?

2006-10-28 00:11:04 · 17 answers · asked by hailie d 1

I have three of the most wonderful boys in the world. My two older boys are from my previous marriage. There father lives 6 hours away and hardly has anything to do with them. He hasn't ever really been very involved in their lives. The oldest is 12 and the younger one is 6. They were 9 and 3 when we divorced. He calls maybe once every 6 months and it's usually only when he wants something. He was in a relationship with a woman and while they were together he would call wanting to see the boys. I would make arrangements with him and they would see him. He has seen them maybe 3 times in the last 3 years. They split up and while he was single he wanted nothing to do with them. Well, since then he has remarried and I feel that his new wife is telling him he should be seeing them. He called a few nights ago and wanted to know if he could have the boys for Christmas? I am completely torn up about this. My boys have NEVER spent a major holiday away from me! What do I do???

2006-10-27 23:54:15 · 24 answers · asked by ddbach1 2

2006-10-27 21:52:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can you think of any fun activities he can do with the adolescent grandkids he doesn't know well? What other activities could I plan for those weeks that would be fun for the whole family? All ideas greatly appreciated. Thank you very much.

2006-10-27 21:02:54 · 12 answers · asked by julie j 6

At some point, it just seems that all moms of daughters flip out and start manipulating, triangulating and otherwise mucking up their daughters lives. How can we break the cycle people?

2006-10-27 20:59:07 · 13 answers · asked by Jon M 2

usually mothers have to visit kids at night in night dress, or slip. Serve them breakfast in night dress.

2006-10-27 20:54:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do not know the baby well or have I seen him (boy). I only know the parents and they are my husband's friends. He told me to pick something out. I know what my son got for his 1st birthday but that was 5 yrs ago and I don't have a clue. And, most of the people at the birthday party knew me and been around my son.

2006-10-27 20:46:30 · 12 answers · asked by abc d 2

I love the idea that I do not have to spend any money, but She wants to get all dolled up in one of my sexy out fits ( NOT HOOKER SEXY!) but sexy. This is for a party with close friends who have children as well. You think thats o.k and are pumps to much? It's one time out of the year or should I let her just have fun dressing up?

2006-10-27 20:46:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My name is Michael Dawn.I live in the USA - the sun and the Earth go round this country.Recently I even wrote an essay on this topic and I got an A.
Today I got up early.First thing in the morning I weighed myself.Great!I've lost 0.44 pounds!And now I'm only 320 pounds!Only a month ago I was 322 pounds!But dad said that if I didn't lose some weight girls wouldn't want to date me.Actually I prefer boys - dating girls is so outdated!
Then I had a dietary breakfast - oats with non-fat milk and two jam toasts.I rounded it off with a slight dessert of two double hamburgers.I enjoyed the breakfast - me and my father had a farting competetion.I won.Now the old man owes me 5 bucks.If he doesn't pay off tonight I will go to law with him!
My school is very far away from home - 500 metres.Good thing I have a car.That's why I managed to arrive only in an hour - the traffic jam was short.Lessons were boring.For example the history teacher was saying some bullshit that America was found by someone named Columbus.How do they hire such people for teachers at all!?Elementary logic speaks that America was found by us - the Americans.That's why it's called America.The geography lesson was more interesting - how many interesting things happen on earth!The teacher said that there is a country called Africa.In its capital-Egypt-there are triangular skyscrapers and evil Russian mummies live in them.And why won't these Russians leave us alone anywhere?Yesterday I was on a party at Lesley's.We were about 40 people.My friend Jim pinched 2 bottles of beer from his father.All of us got so drunk that we vomited everywhere around the swimming pool.oday is a day off.I wanted to sleep a little longer but my father made me play baseball with him in the front yard.It was boring in the beginning but I took to it in a while.It's so absorbing - 3 hours throwing a ball to each-other in the space of three meters.Amazing sport and highly intellectual too!
After lunch dad made me watch the appeal of president Bush on TV.We had a great time eating pop-corn and listening to the president.He spoke about how important it is for America to bombard all the others because otherwise all those primitive people won't understand what happiness our country brings to them.I never understood why these fools get so outraged when we bombard them - anyway they will never feel the taste of Coca-Cola and hamburgers,so they will never build democracy.God bless America - the country which is ready to make everyone happy.If someone doesn't want to be happy we can always persuade him.Long after Bush's appeal me and my whole family were singing the national anthem of America and crying,realizing our own majesty and understanding the heavenly mission given us from God.
At dinner me and dad had a farting competition again.The dog won.It was so loud that all the neighbours hid in their cellars shouting "The Russians are coming!".When we made them come out it was already dark.Good thing I told them that tomorrow in the nearby supermarket there is a bargain-sale and you can buy electrical navel-cleaners 10% cheaper.They went out immediately...
15 april
That's it,I took a decision - I'm becoming a geographer!I want to study the wonderful science of geometry!Today we had a remarkable lesson!The teacher was speaking about the far away country called Russia.I knew a lot about this wild country anyway.For instance everybody knows perfectly well that Russians are hybrids between people and bears,they eat alcohol and birch-branches,they live in deep holes in the taiga and on holidays they set the Kremlin on fire and dance kasatchok around it.After the lesson I probably know about Russia even more than its natives do.In that country there are American resources of petroleum and gas.Whenever we need them we can go there and get them.Besides in Russia there are sites of caviar and also mines of Vodka and pelmeni.Russians waste these natural resources in a barbarous way:they eat and drink them at expense of the future american generations.A true empire of the evil!
After school I went to my psychoanalist.I visit him twice a week.He gives me advices and teaches me how to live.Today he taught me how to flush the toilet.I've always wondered why our toilet stinks like this.I must show this to my folks - they will be so surprised when they see...
In the evening I played tetris.A killing action!

2006-10-27 20:34:39 · 2 answers · asked by American D 1

My son loves his name.

2006-10-27 20:20:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-27 20:11:33 · 11 answers · asked by knowssignlanguage 6

2006-10-27 19:40:01 · 5 answers · asked by anu 2

well ppl say that girls are really hard to take care of but im having a boy anyway and i wanted to know are they hard to take care of, he will be here soon and i just wanted to know

2006-10-27 19:32:59 · 18 answers · asked by [38 wks] 2

I think that my kid would like that I like Childish things but I'm Scraied that He or She will hate me

2006-10-27 18:21:36 · 20 answers · asked by Mark 2

Today has been a really rough day for us. We've just found out my husband will be serving a second deployment to Iraq. Not only that but my cousin (who lives with us and has been for the past two years) has now convinced his class that he gets multiple birthday parties and has invited them over. He was born on 9/9/01--two days before 9/11. This year we had a birthday party for him and then we had a party to honor those lives lost and those serving for the events that happened on September 11th. He now believes that they were both for him. I explained to him that on 9/11 people died for a very sad reason. I've explained to him that Tio (my husband) has to go to war during his last deployment. He is five years old and now asking a lot of questions. I don't know how to deal with it! I don't know how to explain. How do you explain war and death to a five year old? How can we do this without scaring him? Any advice is appreciated!

2006-10-27 18:13:50 · 10 answers · asked by .vato. 6

And yes before you ask, I am from the sticks and we do things like this. But seriously, there is a place close to where I live called the Haunted Forrest, they have a hayride down to the woods and then they have a trail set up with fake cemeteries, ghosts, caves and such. My son is 10 and he loves this place and wants to go this weekend before they close for the year. My daughter is 2 1/2 and I am not sure if she would get too scared or not. My husband went hunting this weekend so it is just me and the kids. I would hate to take them there and then have my daughter completely freak out and get scared. I would be able to hold her as we walked through the woods and there will be tons of other people there, and they also always walky-talky ahead to the "monsters" and "ghosts" and tell them there is a small kid coming and to tone it down. Do you think I should give it a try and take them both?

2006-10-27 16:52:12 · 20 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

ok so i had a kid at 14 and im now 17 and shes turning 3 this year! i think that i am the best mother ever but most people look down on me because of it! what do you think of teen pregancies? and dont anyone come on here and dog me cause im the best parent and i would never trade in my daughter or go back and fix it! she eans everything to me and thats how it will always be!!!

2006-10-27 16:31:07 · 15 answers · asked by brit 1

I am wanting to start a daycare out of my house but the problem is i have two puppy pit bulls. they are in the back yard with a child safety/pool lock on the back door, and they are extremely freindly. they also have a dog run so they can not come near the door or the house. My question to all you moms and dads out there, would you leave you child at my house, or a house like mine? Thanks and much apprecitation!!

2006-10-27 16:29:23 · 18 answers · asked by ihaveoceaneyes 2

there are two ages 8 and 10 . she makes $8.00 an hour and i would be watching them about 3 hours a day after school.. i have three children of my own but have never been payed to watch someone elses.. suggesting a resonable price to charge would be appriciated .. thanks so much..

2006-10-27 16:05:40 · 16 answers · asked by t_ibrahim 5

My son cries, whines, picky eater, sleeps at all times and they tested him for diabetes and now depression. Diabetes test was normal, but what can I expect from a depression screening from a child?

2006-10-27 15:43:27 · 8 answers · asked by nene 3

I really hate it when people think that just because I had a baby at 17 that Im either; broke and on welfare, a dropout, lazy, and alone, and they always blame the girl. For one thing as soon as I found out I was pregnant I didnt mope around...I got into work study immediately and saved alot of money, also I am in the top of my class even with my daughter Im doing better in school than people who hardly have any responsibility. And my baby's daddy is still around I dont have to beg him to come see her or help me raise her. And I think people know that 'natural' conception takes more than one person to do, so why am I always looked down upon and not my bf, when he was f**king me too? I'll admit it is hard, but I never think of my baby as an accident; I was meant to have her. And another thing...why do people assume that b/c Im young that Im a bad mother...yes I make mistakes but so does every other parent Im tired of folks looking down on me just b/c Im not married or out of high school

2006-10-27 15:41:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous