my parnts care for me or over protective?

Question

Caring or over protective?
r my parents over protective

(im the youngest child, i have read Q/A and it seems that the yougest child is always over protected)

im a 13 year old male my parents never let me have friends over, they never let me go outside of my block, they might not even let me go trick or treating with my friend or let me go at all cause my mom is at work that day. they never let me have friends that are a girl, once a girl called cause she wanted help on her homwork (math she is bad at it and im am good at it) and my dad was lisning on the other phone so i started messing aroud and told her to make my dad angry and we started "flirting". and he got sooo mad. back to the point,

i feel that the more over protective they r the more i do stuff like lie. for example i thinking of getting a couple friends over and egg the kid we hate house. and i always wait till my mom goes to work and sneak in the movies and once i got caught by a cop and ran.

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+ i had those rights since i was 8 and i started doindg the bad stuff since i was 12 when igot tired of geting treated like a baby

i never get caught for anything i do and i get good grades

and my bros were like 100x worse a usually got caught. plus i cant talk to them aboit it cause they get so defencive and try to put the guilt and me and compare me 2 my bro's and flip out

Answer 1

I'm 12 so this might be a little different from your situation, since I'm the oldest one in my family. My parents do that to me too. And since my cousins who are way older than me did that, my parents try to steer me off that path.

I don't feel my parents are over-protective of me, I hate it because they set limits. YOU need yo let your parents know that you are a growing kid and they can't protect you from the big bad world when you do grow up. But don't go around sneaking off and egging houses. That'll give your parents more of a reason to set limits. I told my mother that I'm growing up and that I do need to hang out with friends.13 is a very yound age to go around and flirt.

Make an agreement with your parents. Tell them to give you some freedom. Bring home your friends and have your parents meet them. Once your friends leave, ask for your parents thoughts on them. My mother allows me to be friends with the people who she thinks will not influence me in a bad way. Make them understand that not all girls are out for boys. Make it clear that the girls that are your friends are not your friends because you want to share a SPECIAL relationship with them. They're your friends because they're your friends.

Ask yourself, do you want to grow up to be the type of person who sneaks into movies?

I'm pretty sure your parents love you and they want the best for you. But if you abuse that love, your parents will set more limits for you.

What my mother does with me is she gets involved with my life. Try talking with your parents and asking them why all these limits are set, then slowly remove thos limits by PROVING that you won't abuse your freedom. That works very well with me.

Good luck! Ja ne!

Answer 2

If you act up like that they are not being over protective, they are trying to protect you from yourself! Parenting is a job, and the end result is that their kids are ready to face the big bad world on their own some day. They only want you to learn how to do that, and one day live on your own without having a lot of problems to deal with. They only want to help you. Talk to them about your concerns, but also listen. Some kids have it much worse!

Answer 3

well, first of all how bout sitting down and talking with your parents about all this , and come to some sort of agreement about having friends over and stuff, rebeling against your parents is not going to help , it will only prove to them that u r not a responsible person and they can't trust u,please do not egg anyones house , soap and toilet paper. is ok, egg can ruin a house and stain it ,then his parents have to clean it or even end up replacing the sideing, and that's not fair to his parents, any way good luck , and have a safe and happy halloween

Answer 4

Hey i'm 13 yrs too. but i'm a girl. Seems like your parents care a lot about you. coz dude they luv you. i mean i too i'm the youngest one in the family i have an elder brother.Now according to the events you have stated there are cases where your parents are a bit overprotective but thats for your own good. now about the girl whose weak in math you could have immediately clarified it with your dad.Why dont you convince your parents that you are trying to be on your own.They dont allow u to go out bcoz may be they are afraid you might do something wrong. but if you behave in a responsible manner they will definitely trust you. they care a lot about your future u see

Answer 5

I don't think they are over protective. I think they need to discipline you more. Maybe if you showed them a little respect they might give you a little more room. Your parents probably don't want you having friends over because they cant trust you and I don't blame them because of the way you act when they are not around. I don't understand why 13 yr old children think they should be treated as adults.

Answer 6

don't act childish like egging houses. for you to have more privileges you must act mature. and yes---your parents are way over protective [controlling is more like it] you should be allowed to talk on the phone to your friends[male or female] and when your parents are home you should be allowed to have friends over and vise versa.may you should wright your feelings down and let them read it so they may see how they are depriving you of your teenage fun and that by not letting you have any privileges will in the long run make you rebel.

Answer 7

My parents are like that too. Plus I'm the oldests I'm 11 and I live on a protected air base.

Answer 8

If you have really done nothing to cause them to distrust you, then they are indeed being destructively overprotective. However, you can't expect your parents to treat you like an adult if you behave like a child (egging houses and sneaking into movies).

Answer 9

Geeeeee, I see were you're comming at, it sure sounds
like you dont get to do anything !!!! well this is not you're
problem it's there's, maybe they were mean as kids and
just asume that you're going to make there mistake's again,
but tell them that you are you're own person that make's
you're own person mistake's and you're own person accomplishment's !!! ask them for A chance !!!!

Answer 10

they are both caring and over protective to a degree. you could use a little less of the second part