I'm a girl,age 13(in December I turn 14).On 16 January this year I was raped by an unknown criminal while I was getting back from a party at midnight.I got pregnant and I kept the baby.3 weeks ago I delivered a girl.Now the girl is at home and my mother(my father is absent parent) takes the care for the girl and doesn't let me hold her and even touch her.She lets me see her only once a day for a minute and then locks the door of my daughter's room and doesn't let me go inthere.The baby is healthy and everything is ok with her and there is no reason for me not to see her.I want to see my baby and take the care of her.What should I do?
2006-10-28 04:54:01 · 19 answers · asked by linda j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think your mum needs help. Is there a close family member of friend that you could go to that could help talk to your mum. I agree with other suggestions to get social services involved and quick. Its your baby not your mums you need to stand up and get control over your baby. I know your only 13yrs old, but your its mother it needs you and your missing out on bonding with you child which is sad. Talk to your mum let her know you will need her help and support with your child but that she has to let you be repsonsible for it.
good luck.hope you sort everything out soon
2006-10-28 07:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY BEING A PARENT I DON'T KNOW IF I WOULD HAVE ALLOWED MY 13 YEAR OLD TO KEEP THE BABY OF SOMEONE WHO RAPED HER THAT'S MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION I AM PRO-CHOICE IN SITUATIONS LIKE THESE.BUT MAYBE THAT'S YOUR MOM WAY OF DEALING WITH THE PAIN.DID YOU TRY TALKING TO HER IF NOT YOU SHOULD START. DON'T CALL LEGAL AID,DYFS,POLICE OR ANY OF THOSE PEOPLE AS LONG AS SHE IS NOT ABUSING YOU OR THE BABY THEN THERE'S NO REASON TO DO THAT.YOUR MOTHER COULD BE TRYING TO PROTECT YOU IN A WAY BECAUSE SHE KNOW THAT THE BABY WAS NOT CONCEIVED OUT OF LOVE BUT A HORRIBLE SITUATION THAT YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND AT 13 MENTALLY YOU MAY TAKE THAT OUT ON YOUR BABY.EVEN THOUGH YOU LOVE YOUR BABY IN A SITUATION LIKE THAT YOUR MIND CAN PLAY TRICKS ON YOU.LIKE I SAID TALK TO YOUR MOM FIRST AND SEE WHAT GOING ON BECAUSE SHE IS THE ONE THAT HAS TO SUPPORT YOU AND THAT CHILD FINANCIALLY UNTIL YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO GET A JOB.
2006-10-28 12:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by kiss4virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason I can see her not letting you see her is because she doesn't want you to have to relive what happened to you but there is nothing that she can do to let you forget about it. Maybe you should sit down and talk to her and let her know how you feel, let her know that you can handle it and that you want to be apart of your childs life, I mean you may be young but you are a mother now so just let her know your feelings about it.
PS I hope things work out for you and your mom and you baby!!! If you need someone to talk to I'm here. Let me know how things go. You can e-mail me at gurl_knows_all@yahoo.com
2006-10-28 12:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by baby gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'm so sorry for what happened to you. You are so young. Talk to your mom. Talk to your Grandma, Aunt or cousin someone who can help you talk to your mom. It is a bit strange. Your mom probably wants you to worry about school and not so much about a baby. You are her mom and no one can deny you the right to see her. Be very responsible. Clean and help out around the house, with out being told to do it. It might show your mom you are growing up a little. Congratulations on your baby. They are very sweet and give you a reason to live and do better in life. I hope you grow up to be an independent strong woman. Don't ever be a push over!!!! Please talk to your mom. Tell her to put herself in your shoes. What if someone would have taken you when you were a baby? I hope I helped. If you need support I'm a single mother of 2. You can talk to me anytime My email addrs is jascencio1840@yahoo.com. Good luck.
2006-10-28 12:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by mexchick316 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to commend you on not aborting your baby. First I would talk to you mom and ask her what is going on. If she still is not letting you hold your own child I wouldn't talk to child protective services and see what you can do. You have a right to take care of your own child no matter how young you are!
2006-10-28 12:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your mother is trying to protect the child, because she probably thinks you are irresponsible or the thought of you seeing the baby you could think of the man who raped you and try to hurt the baby. I would ask you guidance counseler about this or social services online
2006-10-28 14:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being possessive and just plain selfish. If I were you I would call legal aid in your area, they are either free or very low cost and they can possibly help you with the situation. I am so sorry that all of this has happened to you and I wish you the best of luck in the future.
2006-10-28 12:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may be hard but you need to contact the authorities at once. Your mother needs to know that you mean business but at the same time you need her love and support for yourself because of your age. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-10-28 12:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings towards ur child. why can't you speak to your mom and express your feelings.Many problems/misundersatndings will be solved by sharing the words.I belive your mother wants, you to live as a joyful 13 age teenager. why can't u sit with her and discuss regarding this patiently. Always remember ur mom also have a child and she also loves her.
2006-10-28 12:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by neetha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby ur parents dont think ur old enough or ready for a big responsibility such as a baby!
i know i wouldnt be!
im 15 and i love babys to death and i would do n e thing for a child but i think if i were to have one i wouldnt be able to manage it!
ur only 13 wat were u doing at a party n e ways??
being raped isnt the best of thing....i have a friend that was raped and my mom was..think god none of them got pregnant like u did...its good that u kept the baby...after all the baby didnt do n e thing wrong to be taken out of this world!
the guy that raped u should also take responcibility of the baby and ur parents shouldnt be so stupid about all this!
it isnt ur fault and there basicaly actin like it was!
its ur baby not theres do wat u think u have to do!
sit down and have a talk w/ ur parents!
they might have given birth to u but now u have ur own responcibility and they need to but out!
its not right wat there doin! if u want to see ur baby u have every right!
2006-10-28 12:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋