Marriage & Divorce - 2 August 2007

we read here all the time and i just dont get it. i love my...,but... mistake...cheated. these three words in one sentense just dont go together it digusts me that people even consider anyone taking them seriously. how can cheating be a mistake? its not like they didnt know what they were doing!

2007-08-02 06:24:18 · 29 answers · asked by not this way 5

I've been with this person for the passed 5 years and in the beginning everything was great. it only took a couple of months before the problems began. I'll admit that I've made mistakes within the first couple of months but it's been a long time since then and he still doesn't trust or have faith in me. He's only just started to question my loyalty as well. What I need to explain is that I don't leave the house by myself. I rarely go anywhere at all. I've respected the fact that he wants to be the soul breadwinner but his reasons are that he's worried I'll just leave him for someone with more money. And it's not just that. He compares me to his ex-girlfriend and other girls that have screwed him over expecting me to do the same. It's been this way for 5 years and I've just about had it. I've never broken up with anyone and therefore do not know how to say something as bad as divorce. Let's keep in mind that I've never cheated on him physically or emotionally. Please, someone help?

2007-08-02 06:23:00 · 12 answers · asked by prfreckle 2

Ever get in a bad mood and your're just bitchy for no reason that you can figure out? Well that's the way I'm feeling today, and my husband says that I take out my moods on him and that if work is annoying me so much - then I should just lash out at the people here that are annoying me.

It's not the people, or the work - I just don't want to be in work at all lately - just so lazy. And that's not why I'm in a mood...I don't know why I'm in a mood...I just am not happy today. And I feel like I'm going to snap every time someone asks me to do something for them.

Why can't he understand that sometimes I dont' know why I'm in a bad mood? And leave it at that and stop digging for reasons?

2007-08-02 06:11:46 · 21 answers · asked by starryeyes 2

i want real answers.thanks a lot.

2007-08-02 06:09:54 · 21 answers · asked by lilac t 1

I don't hate my husband, but I see him more as a friend or family member. It's been really hard to have intimacy w/him and I think I married him because my heart had been broken and wanted someone who loved me. We've only been married 11 months. Don't know if I should stay and hope for the best. Maybe love will come......

2007-08-02 05:41:07 · 10 answers · asked by lil_gypsy 1

I have been separated from my wife for about a year. My daughter who is almost 15 has started getting into trouble and is almost uncontrollable. My wife and I have had a very disfunctional relationship, but it seems as if she cannot control my daughter and my funds are limited in obtaining a place of my own because i am still paying all the bills to keep my children in the community residence. She sneaks out at night and wants to be with these friends who are a bad influence on her. I feel the only way to control her at this point is to move back. Need some serious feedback.

2007-08-02 05:39:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

and i have to be faced with them several times a week because our kids are in the same activities, the reason i dont like them is they do my husband so wrong and they act like they cant stand us when we talk to them

2007-08-02 05:35:26 · 17 answers · asked by ? 7

my future mother inlaw has problems with money. she never seems to be able to get on her feet. my fiance (her son) just let her borrow money and it bothers me! she has a track record of borrowing money from other family members and not paying it back. this is the first time she has asked him and im afraid it won't be the last. what should i do?

2007-08-02 05:33:58 · 14 answers · asked by Mrs K 2

Does anyone in this situation feel that after the dust has settled, and IF they have decided to give the partner a second chance, that there is some strange "secondary gain" to be had here? What I mean is, when there is an ultimatum involved, (i.e., you do anything like this again and I'm outta here...) it is almost like holding something over the partner's head, especially if they are regretful? It doesn't seem right, but just seems like it is the way things are. Do things ever become normal, or almost normal again? It seems like between the mistrust, and the changed dynamic, someone is bound to be driven away?

2007-08-02 05:30:58 · 24 answers · asked by Saia 2

I know this friend who has a gf. They are engaged, marrying in 6 months' time. They sms each other during the day, sometimes have a quick chat on the phone, and apparently have regular and great sex. They are both over 37 years of age.

Recently, his gf (teacher) seemed to be slacking off on the communication, and the intimate conversations. She is totally absorbed in her job and works from 6.30 AM to 3.30 PM. At night, she apparently sits on the computer till around 10 PM. From when she comes home, till she goes to sleep, she spends time on her own stuff. She tells him she is not on chat.

My friend also works a job from 6.30 AM till 7.30 PM. Sometimes he comes home early to spend time with her. Weekends, no office work is allowed and they usually do fun stuff together.

Suddenly, she went off air for 8 hours of the day. No contact, no replies to smses. He smsed her, asked if she's ok? She replied 2 hrs later, saying she's very busy, but ok. 10 hrs, 1 sms.

What do you think?

2007-08-02 05:29:42 · 11 answers · asked by justaguy 2

I know this friend who has a gf. They are engaged, marrying in 6 months' time. They sms each other during the day, sometimes have a quick chat on the phone, and apparently have regular and great sex. They are both over 37 years of age.

Recently, his gf (teacher) seemed to be slacking off on the communication, and the intimate conversations. She is totally absorbed in her job and works from 6.30 AM to 4.30 AM. At night, she apparently sits on the computer till around 10 PM. From when she comes home, till she goes to sleep, she spends time on her own stuff. She tells him she is not on chat.

My friend also works a job from 6.30 AM till 7.30 PM. Sometimes he comes home early to spend time with her. Weekends, no office work is allowed and they usually do fun stuff together.

Suddenly, she went off air for 8 hours of the day. No contact, no replies to smses. He smsed her, asked if she's ok? She replied 2 hrs later, saying she's very busy, but ok. 10 hrs, 1 sms.

What do you think?

2007-08-02 05:27:13 · 8 answers · asked by justaguy 2

All over, wherever I see in reality or over here, I see men blame women and woman blame men that their partners cheated on them!

Never heard one person acknowledge or confess that he or she cheated in the relationship.

2007-08-02 05:22:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-02 05:21:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know she loves me but I hurt her too badly. I really wish I could take it back but I want her to know how sorry I am and that I would never do it again. I don't want us to break up. I really don't think I can live without her.

2007-08-02 05:19:26 · 41 answers · asked by Buck Johnson 1

I am 24 yrs old and married to my husband who is 28 yrs old for 3 yrs.I am a teacher and he works in insurance.Its not working out too much has happened and he cheated on me more than once.I have a daughter from a prior relationship who is 4 yrs old my only child who i want to make things easy on her as possible.I spoke to my soon to be ex.husband who has been working in london these last 3 months and we both agreed(verbal) to the liquidation of all marital assets as well as splitting everything 50/50.Well the thing is he wants to sell the house now. But the housing market is down at present so our home would only sell for about 336 grand when we purchased it for more like 400 grand or little more. I think we might want to hold off on selling but on the other hand there is no gurantee the market will pick quickly?My soon to be ex. offered me 750 dollars a month for 6-8 months if i sold the house now?Is this a good deal?

2007-08-02 05:17:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Short and simple version. I work with this woman who I know is cheating on her husband with at least 2 other people.

I don't know him that well. We meet at work social events and he seems like thoroughly nice bloke (who frankly deserves much better than her) but since I know this, am I honour bound to tell him what I know or leave him in blissful ignorance?

2007-08-02 05:14:38 · 42 answers · asked by DMsView 6

I am young in my late 20s I stay @ home taking care of my 2 kids. Before I just wore t-shirts and jeans. Then my husband started doing things to make me feel suspicious and he would put me down for no reason and still to this day I feel insecure. So I thought I would change my look to see if he would notice me he never he brought me around his friends until reacently. I have highlighted my hair and dress more my age I guess and no I dont let anything hang out or dress slutty. I feel a little better about myself but my husband doesnt show that he likes my new look until his friends or other men take notice in me then he acts like I am the hottest woman in the world and then he claims me thats my wife and he will say" I dont know what a a good looking woamn like you is doing w/ a guy like me" Why cant he appreciate me all the time not just when other men take notice to say thats my wife?

2007-08-02 04:49:46 · 15 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1

2007-08-02 04:49:29 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I are both very open people. Lately she heard that if she gets her "hood" pierced it increases sensitivity during sex in a really good way. Are there any wives that can validate this claim or speak about this issue? It seem crazy to me, but also sexy at the same time. Any help would be appreciated.

2007-08-02 04:35:44 · 5 answers · asked by Ask M 1

I asked him why he cant say it anymore and he said he wants to wait for a special time to say it again, and not use it everyday...he has also the way he kisses and makes love to me should be a good enough answer and that should say it all about how he feels about me, he also cooks us dinner and kisses me everyday before and after he goes to work and comes home. He holds my hand in public and has kissed me in public too, so I dont think he is hiding anything...he is also 37 and I am 27. So is it possible he does love me or is he just too scared??? help?

2007-08-02 04:35:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-02 04:34:06 · 26 answers · asked by mutt 6

i have a ? for anyone that is willing to answer it. i have just recently gotten divoreced, may 23 to be exact of this year and i am having a hard time letting go. he started dating another girl right away and it was basically the hell with me and his family. they broke up and we started hanging out talking and he'd see his daughter all the time. well now we moved into a place together andit seems like old times. what do i do, does he still love me, he says he wants to get back together but he isn't ready yet. am i wasting my time he is playing with my head, should i move on or hold on????

2007-08-02 04:24:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

A: Be annoyed
C: Think it was sweet
D: Indifferent.

EG Birthday cards on the anniversary, get well cards on your birthday etc.

2007-08-02 04:21:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

how
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2007-08-02 04:15:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

This morning when I came home from work I got the shock of the year. I found my husband and his ex wife laying butt booty naked in our bed together. They had soft music playing and candles lit all around the room.
When I entered the room they told me to be very quiet because they were trying to sooth their 6 year old son into going to sleep. I started yelling and screaming and demanded that they put some clothes on and get out of my house.
They both looked at me like I was nuts. They said that they do this all of the time. The soft music and candles helps comfort their son and helps him go to sleep without nightmares. His ex wife assured me that she is not interested in my husband. She just wants to help her son have a peaceful nights sleep. They claim that they do this all of the time. Are they right? Should my husband and his ex wife really be laying butt booty naked in our bed together?

2007-08-02 04:07:43 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've had highlights on my hair for 6 yrs. He told me he'd like to see me "go natural" . I'd like to do it, for him. Honestly, I do like my hair like this, yet, I don't mind just to please him. My sister says bad idea. She thinks I will lose myself and eventually give into everything he says. I don't agree. I know what I want and if I'm dead set on something, it takes much convincing. It's not like I'm changing my personality or way of thinking......right?

2007-08-02 04:06:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

wanna add onto to this? love is...

2007-08-02 03:58:33 · 5 answers · asked by Shrimpboat 3

Lately I stumbled into some direct information where I found out my wife had a serious crush on another woman in the office. My wife has always been as straight lace as can be so it really hit me hard that she would even consider this type of situation with another woman. What caught me off guard here is that I can see other women trying to hit on her but in this case it was my wife who was doing the hitting. Of course as a spouse I would be lying to say I was not hurt inside but I want to be able to understand rather than just react.

2007-08-02 03:57:08 · 14 answers · asked by lovelonghair 1

2007-08-02 03:54:51 · 21 answers · asked by freekeswar 3

I love my new family and I do love the girls aged 6 and 9 very much. but I'd like children of my own Im 26 and cant imagine never having children. My boyfriend is 32 and divorced from their mother but has custody of both of the children. He did say that he doesnt want anymore kids so we broke-up in December afew months later he asked me to come back and we did talk about both our needs I told him I could give up not ever getting married but not on having children he agreed but now we bearly have sex he only seems to want sex when Im on my period and cant get pregnant and when he has a bit too much to drink he says he's going to get the snip because he doesnt want children. I dont want to have children with someone who feels they have to , to keep me but at the same time I cant go through life knowing I would never have my own children. What should I do,I have fertillity issues aswell but I'd like to try and get pregnant .

2007-08-02 03:51:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous