I know this friend who has a gf. They are engaged, marrying in 6 months' time. They sms each other during the day, sometimes have a quick chat on the phone, and apparently have regular and great sex. They are both over 37 years of age.
Recently, his gf (teacher) seemed to be slacking off on the communication, and the intimate conversations. She is totally absorbed in her job and works from 6.30 AM to 3.30 PM. At night, she apparently sits on the computer till around 10 PM. From when she comes home, till she goes to sleep, she spends time on her own stuff. She tells him she is not on chat.
My friend also works a job from 6.30 AM till 7.30 PM. Sometimes he comes home early to spend time with her. Weekends, no office work is allowed and they usually do fun stuff together.
Suddenly, she went off air for 8 hours of the day. No contact, no replies to smses. He smsed her, asked if she's ok? She replied 2 hrs later, saying she's very busy, but ok. 10 hrs, 1 sms.
What do you think?
2007-08-02 05:29:42 · 11 answers · asked by justaguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he's worried coz there's this ex lover of hers, she talked to all the time. Since he asked her what the deal is with this guy, she never mentioned his name again, except that he's calling her to meet with him. She admits real feelings for this other guy, then denies she has them, then say her and him would never be together, coz the other dude doesn't wanna marry her.
I care for my friend, and I am worried he might be getting into something he is blind to, due to love and all that.
2007-08-02 05:47:32 · update #1
wow! seems he is just a bit nervous then, right? I work with him, so he told me that he has to work till 8.30 PM tonight as she has the house key and she's not going home to open for him till after 8.30 AM. I think it's silly. She works 15 minutes away from home!! Sounds fishy to me too, but it is his life after all. Will tell him to chill out and relax.
2007-08-02 06:00:50 · update #2
I think we can't read this woman's mind.
This information you have told us could be too many things, too many possibilities.
Even if she is talking to this other guy in private, what can anybody do about it? We all have to make our life choices...and we all have to suffer heartbreak sometimes too...
your friend should just continue being loving to her and eventually all will be revealed, if there's anything to be revealed...
If she's withdrawing from him, for whatever reason, she may have something to work out in her head, whether about this other guy or not.
2007-08-02 05:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do hate to say it but sounds suspicious even though I've got no idea what the heck smsed means! But whenever someone suddenly slacks off on the romance and is suddenly not so close with the intimacy and disappears....clear signs. But it's better if your friend first asks her straight out if there's someone else and if she denies it and nothing has changed it's time for further investigation. Sometimes they don't fess up right away that's why the show CHEATERS was popular.
2007-08-02 14:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she got behind for a while, and she needs to catch up. If the dead time hasn't been happening for long, I would say give it a week or two.
But don't expect it to get back to the original amount.
Also, they need to work their own problems out -- not go through you. Otherwise, they will not last together.
2007-08-02 12:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she has a very demanding job and that she's busy. Adults should not have to text each other every hour to check in. This sounds like a very immature relationship and I bet the marriage lasts less than a year.
2007-08-02 12:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she needs time to digest the fact that she is getting married. If something was happening then she would be more affectionate trying to hide it rather than pulling away. Maybe your friend has said something that bothered her. It isn't a big deal to him and she just needs to work it out.
2007-08-02 12:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kenny J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really get a sex life, and stay out of their business.
***It's enough going through this with in laws!!!***
Sometimes it's friends like you!!!! that snoop their nose in other relationship and cause problems with your nosiness, gossip & your opinions. GET A LIFE!!!
2007-08-02 12:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Cutie Pie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what's the big deal? so she was off of sms for 10 hrs.... geez
2007-08-02 12:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about your friend and his girlfriend, right?
This doesn't affect you or your relationships, right?
2007-08-02 12:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem here. Did your "friend" tell you he has a problem with it?
2007-08-02 12:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mind your own damn business!
2007-08-02 12:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋