All over, wherever I see in reality or over here, I see men blame women and woman blame men that their partners cheated on them!
Never heard one person acknowledge or confess that he or she cheated in the relationship.
2007-08-02 05:22:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's called deniel chica, people dont want to change what they call a perfect little world, thats why they go on about theyre business, and also no one wants to admit they f...d up...
2007-08-02 06:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by doc cool!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think people feel they are 100% perfect...most people realize that they are NOT perfect but that does not excuse their partner from cheating. I agree that most (not all) cheating is a result of that person not getting their needs met by their partner. In that case the person has an obligation to tell the other what they need. As the old saying goes, "A closed mouth doesn't get fed". If you don't tell your partner what you need how can they give it to you? The problem comes in when either the person who is thinking of cheating doesn't know HOW to tell their partner what they need, or their partner just doesn't give it to them. But I think most people would be more than happy to try and meet their partners needs if they were told, "Hey, I love you and I don't want to cheat. I need to let you know what I need from you." That is only reasonable.
2007-08-02 12:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by happyladyj3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because although you may be the best spouse in the world to your partner they have their own way of looking at things and doing things to justify wanting to cheat to begin with. Some people are just not satisfied being sexual with only one person and some are sex addicts. These things may not come out until later in the relationship and cheating is always a personal choice.It is never someone else's fault that you decide to be unfaithful. You can get help for problems in the relationship instead of cheating but some just want their cake and eat it to. Some people are never content or happy even if they have it all with someone special .......they just want and desire to be with someone different when and if it suits them.
2007-08-02 14:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know maybe they haven't. But I can safely say I've been cheated on and not cheated in my whole life because I was brought up with great advice. I haven't had the greatest relationships through life but what can you do it doesn't bother me much because I still have people that matter to me more then a mere fling. I didn't blame my ex for cheating on me hell if she chose that route I'll get rid of her it's that trust and time that one puts into another person that brings them to blaming I believe all those late night conversations, dates and money spent and all you get out of it is a piece of mind experiencing first hand what some people can do with the trust you give them. I'm doing fine for myself I'm currently enlisted and I'm single and loving it but I do wonder from time to time could I have done better in helping preventing something like that and if I had how far could it have gone I hope my input changes your insight on victims of cheating because I don't believe I'm 100% perfect but what I do believe is that I would never ever consider doing something like that to another person.
2007-08-02 12:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They dont have to be perfect. However, in this one instance they have no control over wether the spouse will cheat or not. Even some ppl with great marriages cheat. The issue is that the spouse broke trust, lied, and showed that the one who was cheated on was less than dirt to them. The other one may not be perfect, but it is acceptable to feel betrayed by the cheater. And, I dont believe that the spouse who didnt cheat is responsible for the actions of the one who cheated.
2007-08-02 12:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would someone write to YA about "I cheated on my spouse..."? I have seen a few on here like that but not nearly as many as the other way around. The people who get cheated on are the ones looking for answers anyway, not the scumbag cheaters. I don't really see anyone on here saying stuff like "My spouse cheated on me and I'm upset, but I cheated on them before" That's pretty hypocritical..
2007-08-02 12:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is one on here now, but it is easier to blame the other. Cheating is a pretty harsh way of getting even for something. Some people (men and women) really just need to go to sex therapy. They are just in need of something they are relating to sex.Most do it as a way of getting even for something the other has done to them. I feel for both sides. It takes two to make a relationship, and it takes two to tear it apart.
2007-08-02 12:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kenny J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is 100% perfect, because marriage has it's up and down. the cheater made that choice to cheat rather than to sit down discuss the problem or get a divorce. It's not about the OTHER person so it's not their fault.
2007-08-02 12:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, alot of people get cheated on and don't cheat. I've been cheated on. I wouldn't make someone else feel how I felt. It's not right and it's not fair.
I'm far, far from perfect. But I try to do the right thing. That's the best I can do.
2007-08-02 12:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think cause neither of them wish to admit that there is a problem in the relationship cause they are afraid that they will lose this person no matter how bad they are. Plus I figure they do not wanna lose the person cause they have seen and heard how hard it can be to rebound back and find another person. But again just my opinion and what the hell do i know.
2007-08-02 12:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is case by case situation, some people play their whole life, guy in his mid 30s. Want to settle down, stop playing and start a family and go for a 20 year girl. He is a player, so of course he will settle for some sexy. Now the 20 year, hasn't play in her life go play with another guy. Who is the cheater? See the difference?
2007-08-02 12:32:55 · answer #11 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋