Lately I stumbled into some direct information where I found out my wife had a serious crush on another woman in the office. My wife has always been as straight lace as can be so it really hit me hard that she would even consider this type of situation with another woman. What caught me off guard here is that I can see other women trying to hit on her but in this case it was my wife who was doing the hitting. Of course as a spouse I would be lying to say I was not hurt inside but I want to be able to understand rather than just react.
2007-08-02 03:57:08 · 14 answers · asked by lovelonghair 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank-you for this opp to be able to talk about this. Excellent answers that give me something to think about.
As a spouse obviously I am hurt by the attention going to someone else (man or woman) but at the same time as a lover I am intrigued that after 25 years of her being somewhat of a prude when it comes to sex....there is actually more than meets the eye. In a way I am intrigued to know that there may be inner desires or fantasies she does have after all. But I guess that is another question...how can I help her open up and talk about that?
2007-08-02 05:23:14 · update #1
So, what's the problem? It's another woman, be thankful it's not a man? Just because she has a crush on another woman doesn't mean she is cheating or looking to cheat so keep your pants on.....
I know this situation because i have been in the same one. I am also married and there was this woman who i worked with and i totally had crush on her and so did every other woman in the office, it did not mean we wanted to sleep with her or start any kind of relationship other than friends with her. Yes, I did flirt with her, I did hit on her but it never went farther than that.
Look if your upset or hurt about the situation then talk to her, tell her how you feel, be open with your wife, communicate with her, that way you both can get to the bottom of things and work through it. She may just be curious and most woman go through a phase where there curious about the same sex, it doesn't mean there sexual preferance has changed any.
Hey, look at it as a good thing. If your wife is curious and is looking to try new things, she may let you in on it:) that's always fun, right? Either that or you can watch:) that's pretty fun too.
2007-08-02 04:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you hurt because someone else is getting your attention. Normal. I think you should talk to her about it, tell her how this makes you feel and that it hurt your feelings to know that she didn't confide in you. Do NOT ask her for a threesome because that really pisses us off. It may just be a temporary thing and will just pass. But be a little supportive, she is probably really confused about these feelings as well. She isn't looking for a replacement for you...just sometimes crushes happen and they don't turn into anything.
2007-08-02 04:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It may not be anything at all, some women go through a curious faze and wonder what it would be like. I have done this myself, sometimes I catch myself imagining I'm with another women, but I could never act on it.
2007-08-02 04:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by miss_vixen_1985 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be hurt. You married her and she should only have eyes for you. You need to talk with your wife. Let her know how you feel about the whole thing.
You also might want to try some counseling.
2007-08-02 04:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i dont know what to say its hard when they're cheating but with the same sex is a blow to the mind why not ask her maybe she's not interested in men to begin with and she's just now coming out.
2007-08-02 04:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by marianne l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, id be pretty shocked as well. have you talked to her about it and what is her explaination. ask if there is reason of concern on your part that she may want another whether it be man or women. good luck.
2007-08-02 04:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call Maury Pauvich. lol
2007-08-02 04:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should have a talk with Ross Galhger.
2007-08-02 04:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let your wife have her fun then ask if you can join in or at least watch. Enjoy it!
2007-08-02 04:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
She needs counseling..
2007-08-02 04:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋