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i have a ? for anyone that is willing to answer it. i have just recently gotten divoreced, may 23 to be exact of this year and i am having a hard time letting go. he started dating another girl right away and it was basically the hell with me and his family. they broke up and we started hanging out talking and he'd see his daughter all the time. well now we moved into a place together andit seems like old times. what do i do, does he still love me, he says he wants to get back together but he isn't ready yet. am i wasting my time he is playing with my head, should i move on or hold on????

2007-08-02 04:24:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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why'd ya get divorced?If he cheated id say **** it,its over and move on,time moves along and feelings shift.Constant arguing?If and thats a big IF you guys think u can move along happily with LESS arguements then...I say give it a shot,date awhile before walkin down the isle.Abuse verbal and physical?Im pretty sure he really does love u but instead of his heart guiding his actions,its his temper driving his actions.If u can afford it and think ur relationship is worth it,have him take some anger managment classes to assist.If not,continue being friends or break all ties with him and[if i read correctly,u have a daughter]just allow his formal rights to see his daughter.Iu want more help or if u found this helpful and would like to email ur thanks...my email is the_badman_xxx@yahoo.com. Hope i was helpful and good luck with ur relationship! :)

2007-08-02 04:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He just might be telling you the truth about wanting to get back together but he is not ready to do so yet. You both should not have gotten back together until all of the issues that caused the divorce in the first place were worked on and resolved first. I feel you made his coming back too easy for him and this left him feeling no incentive to commit. He is getting all the benefits without the commitment. But now that you have allowed him to move back in then if you still want him I would advise you to do what you both should have done from the beginning and that is to get counselling to help get the relationship back to a committed one. If he is unwilling then it will be up to you to risk having him with no promise of any future. Best of luck to you!

2007-08-02 11:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0 0

I think it all depends on the reason for the divorce in the first place. Without that information, it is truly hard to answer. Some couples divorce too quickly, and then go on to realise their mistake, patch things up and make it work. He may have started seeing someone else right away to see if it was better than being married. This is a tough one.

2007-08-02 11:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0 0

Maybe he just needed that one girl to show him that all other girls (other than you) are wrong for him. It might have just taken that one nudge in your direction for him to see that. First of all, I don't understand why you would move back in with him if you aren't "together". That is the only reason I think he might be toying with you. I think you should give it a while. I mean, you already are living together, it would be weird to start dating other people NOW. If you get the slightest hint that he is seeing someone else, leave him immediately. You don't want to be the "other woman" that is strung along just for his security. Good luck!

2007-08-02 11:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by nisey513 2 · 0 0

Why in the f*ck did you move back in with him?? You didn't just give him his cake & let him eat it too.. you spoon fed it to him. He has his family, wife, and a stable home, but yet gets to do whatever he wants too! I don't really know what else to tell you, because moving out now is going screw your kids up even more than they are already.. but honey, don't sleep in the same room as him, don't make his dinner, wash his clothes.. and MOST importantly DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM. Let him see what is like without you (as much as possible.. seeing as how you ARE there). If he grows up and sees what is important to him, then good. If not, at least you are slowly moving on. Good luck!

2007-08-02 11:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tina W 4 · 0 0

Sweet Pea you didn't give yourself enough time to really analyze this divorce, not at all. I think you guys should have dated for a bit to see what you could rekindle from previous marriage.At this point it is difficult because you didn't allow the space when it was needed and you are stuck all over again. Be true to yourself and the Mr. you both have to communicate and see what is best for your future. Good luck and God bless!

2007-08-02 11:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by b n real 4 · 0 0

You've moved back in but he says he's not ready yet???

Sounds like you're letting him dictate the how, why, when, etc. of the relationship.... It's time to grow a backbone, tell him you won't wait forever, give him a time frame and stick to it.

Good luck.

2007-08-02 11:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 0 0

maybe you got married too soon. It sound like your hubby still wants to play the field and have fun, even though he still loves you. If I were you, I wouldn't move in with him until he is ready to commit himself to you. Don't make it so easy for him. He needs to decide what is important to him. Give him room to do that.

2007-08-02 11:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0 0

Make him prove to you that he is really ready ....
let him take you out to dinner...and have fun dancing....
but make sure he knows you don't want him dating anyone else otherwise all bets are off...
let him call you everyday....let him write you letters, then after many months....you will decide, not him....but you need to be strong....and not break down in front of him....You will do it if both of your hearts are in it....if not, move on with the help of your friends...and family....................
Take care, and Keep God in your life........

2007-08-02 11:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by lodger 4 · 0 0

well It could be he seen what a Big Mistake he made by leaving you and is ready to commit to you OR he does not want anyone else to have you.Right now I would try not to hold on to tight and get your wishes up because he may just leave again.Stay strong.Good Luck

2007-08-02 11:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dew 7 · 0 0

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