I've had highlights on my hair for 6 yrs. He told me he'd like to see me "go natural" . I'd like to do it, for him. Honestly, I do like my hair like this, yet, I don't mind just to please him. My sister says bad idea. She thinks I will lose myself and eventually give into everything he says. I don't agree. I know what I want and if I'm dead set on something, it takes much convincing. It's not like I'm changing my personality or way of thinking......right?
2007-08-02 04:06:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are just dating... (I know I know, wrong category)
2007-08-02 04:07:01 · update #1
OK first, this has a lot more to do with how you feel about this than about how anyone else feels about it. Is this a big deal to you, or a little one? Is this the first request, or the latest in a series? Was this a casual comment, or a command? Is the little voice in your head telling you no? If it is LISTEN TO IT. If this is the latest in a series of "casual" do this type things, then it may be a sign of things to come. But as long as you are OK with it, and this isn't a symptom of a larger problem, hair isn't really that big of an issue, overall. So with that caveat, I would say go with what you want to do. If you want to please him, no biggie. If you find that you're changing LOTS of things to please him, I'd think about that.
2007-08-02 04:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by mrthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First-you are just changing your hair...not your beliefs or morals or ethics. If you don't mind going back to natural, it is no big deal. I am a natural blonde that died my hair to a dark auburn just before I met my boyfriend and he said something about wanting to see me as a blonde....so what did I do? Showed up at his house one day with my natural color back. Still have it natural too. It is like buying an outfit that you think he would like....it is something that isn't permanent if YOU don't want it to be. You are doing something for him that would make him happy without going against what you believe in, so I see no harm. Your sister is reading WAY too much into it.
2007-08-02 11:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable doing this I dont see a problem with it. However, was this given as an ultimatum or was it just something he would like to see? If it was an ultimatum then i would seriously look into getting out of the relationship. It is great to have some give and take in a relationship, but not all give...
2007-08-02 11:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if he would shave off a beard or grow one for you? Most importantly I wonder if you would even ask.
I think he is sending you the message he likes things natural. If you wore false eyelashes or false nails I bet he would ask for them to go too.
Then some guys don't like there gf to be too attractive. Maybe he is gearing you down. He doesn't want other guys giving you the eye.
Unless it was my idea I would not do it.
Married 35 years to a guy who doesn't like me cut my hair, because I had it long when I married him :(
2007-08-02 11:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL Man you women kill me. It's just highlights man, it's not like the UN has to call to an emergency meeting to discus it. Just take the highlights out, if you see you don't like, put them back in. It's your hair.
And secondly what guy says "I don't like those highlights, I think you should go natural."? Especially if you already had them when you all met. Most guys want their girls to stay the same. He sounds a little on the *** side to me. You fill in the 3 letter blank.
2007-08-02 11:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by abu_isabella2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hair, not a change of lifeystyle. There are way more important things going on in the world than your highlights and how they affect your relationships.
2007-08-02 11:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should like you for you, hair included. I would ask him why he wants you to go natural. Ultimately, it is your hair, and your body so you should do what you like with it. Don't think that you have to do what any guy says just to keep them. After all, there are more fish in the sea.
2007-08-02 11:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea do you value your relationship with this gentlemen? If so I don't think it would not hurt to make a little change, you are not changing your life, only your hair style. You never know you might really like the change, so give it a try. Good luck, my dear!
2007-08-02 11:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends. if you want to, do it. but if you feel like you're "giving in" just to please him, perhaps you should rethink. if he's pushing you, consider how he acts about other things--is he controlling in other areas (people you see, places you go, things you buy, etc.)?
there's nothing wrong with doing things just to make your significant other happy, and you can always re-color your hair, but if you sense that this will be just the first in a long line of dominoes, perhaps you need to rethink the entire relationship.
2007-08-02 11:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by jealous elf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't change it unless you wanted to since you are only dating. You may be setting a dangerous path if you change for him and then break up, meet someone else and change again for that person.
2007-08-02 11:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋